Trying to get a Harvard husband in Boston
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Anonymous
| This is a funny thread and reminds me of my own story. I dumped my college BF to date DH. The main reason was really that I fell in love with DH. But also, both DH and I attended Ivy League schools and it made me feel much better that we had the same social “status”. My ex was attending a no name school, and I was really worried about our future (that is, his earning potential). Fast forward 15 years, my ex is now making millions of dollars (because he started his own business in a niche area) and my DH is struggling to keep his job (arguably, a prestigious job, which requires a Ph.D. degree) because he has ADHD (has been going on for a long time, but diagnosed recently). My ex BF is married and has kids. I know that he is great father and husband. My DH is a great father and not-so-bad husband (probably because of ADHD). I still love my DH, and life is good (happy, healthy, and no financial issues). But sometimes, when I am tired of asking DH to do the same thing million times, or when he forgets our anniversary, or when he tells me how struggling he is at work), I cannot help but fantasize that my life would have been much easier if I had not broken up my ex BF. |
Anonymous
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The OP actually hurts me with her shallowness. I am a female who went an Ivy League school and would feel small and ashamed if I ever used it to make myself feel better than my friends, who I love and are awesome people who completely deserve respect. I hang out with some very smart people who went to no-name schools and aren't in necessarily lucrative careers - but they get me and I get them, better than any of my Ivy League classmates.
My boyfriend came from this group as well. I'm sad that some people have such idiotic ideas. |
Anonymous
PP No it has not been torture. Quite the opposite in fact and we have been married for 25 years. But back when I dated, there were quite a few who either were not nice enough (or other) and several that I thought "You can't afford the life style that I can have with another man." I just did not love the poor staving artist type. To each his own. |
Anonymous
You got what you deserved. |
Anonymous
Where did the ladies flirting with this guy go? It was just getting really interesting and dying to find out what happens next...so much more intriguing than reality TV ! Hope you all come back after the long weekend.. |
Anonymous
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Impossible for me to read through all but this caught my eye. I am not an Ivy grad but went to a very respectable LAC however my husband attended H as well as H law school. I can tell you though that when I met him that was while impressive not even a registering criteria on my radar. I just fail to understand how you are so clear and precise to start with "you have a Harvard man" well before you even stat with you want a nice man. There is a huge disconnect and something tells me your Harvard guy does come along....you might be very disappointed. Just because he hails from H certainly does not mean he is your soul mate.
So if I might be so bold as to ask why do you feel such a desire for him to be from Harvard. I might even give this rant some credibility if you said Ivy league preferred but so specific? Clearly you have some (very fantasy like) version of what you think your Harvard man will be like, look like and of the gold paved road he is going to take you down on. Trust me.....that is not the case so stop the disillusions now. While I love my husband very much and feel blessed to have the life we do, with two great kids, a beautiful home,etc...our life is quite average, he works hard,long hours, is a serious guy who has a few interests but I can assure you nothing is anything near a fantasy. So not quite sure what you think scoring this Harvard man is going to do for you but let me be your reality check. |
Anonymous
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9:45- this.
Op, frankly they would not be interested. Yikes. |
Anonymous
norfolk, VA. or if you really wanna get em young, head to annapolis |
Anonymous
| OP How are your BJ skills? |
Anonymous
| There are lots of Harvard Law men but far fewer Yale Law men. According to scarcity value, aim higher and go Yale. |
Anonymous
BULS here, too. If OP wants to settle for someone from the 3d best law school in Boston that's her business  \\
Common knowledge is that practically speaking, BU & BC are about even at 1 & 2, Harvard is #3 unless you just want your "ticket punched" and substitute prestige for a real top quality education ... professors I knew who had been at HLS said the same, as did my friends who went to HLS. I spent a lot of time at HLS and, frankly, was glad I didn't go there but it should be an easy place to meet some guys who are in it for the money & prestige (cachet & cash).  They tend to be sort of insufferable, though. 
But good luck on the gold mining expedition, OP.
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Anonymous
Amen. 
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Anonymous
Indeed. SO unattractive and gauche.
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Anonymous
| I've dated four or five Harvard/Yale men. Much prefer my current bf - top ten state school for both undergrad and law. He is a pragmatic hard worker who doesn't mind doing some of the more boring aspects of litigation because he doesn't have this attitude that it is beneath him. He has a job, he works hard, it pays well, he's happy. The Harvard/Yale men had this drive to do something "great" and a lot of angst over their careers and got their egos inflamed when they felt like they weren't given "good work" that was sufficiently intellectual. |
Anonymous
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My brother is a Harvard man. A brilliant man but a lousy lover/father/husband much as I love him. He has been married twice, broke two hearts and let down four young hearts (his kids). He is a good provider on the financial end but a sad case on the emotional end. Not to imply by all means all Harvard men are this way..but you know what they say theres a fine line between brilliance and madness.
Bottom line he is 48 alone, miserable but brilliant...be careful what you wish for. |