Ex won’t make food our daughter will eat

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Anonymous wrote:Congratulations! You raised a lazy kid AND you are playing a losing game with your ex. He doesn't know or care that he is playing.

It's all fine until he doesn't get invited to DD's wedding, lol.

That's fine, alienate dad and stop the contact. OP can pay for college, wedding and more...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Congratulations! You raised a lazy kid AND you are playing a losing game with your ex. He doesn't know or care that he is playing.

It's all fine until he doesn't get invited to DD's wedding, lol.

Actually, DD will probably have more respect for her father than her mother once she matures. He is the one doing actual parenting and Mommy Dearest is just trying to assuage her guilt for getting divorced by overdoing it for her princess.

+1. OP's style is just bad parenting. Kids figure it out eventually.

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Anonymous wrote:You sound like you have created a drama queen monster.

Mommy dearest gets up to cook breakfast every day for her 16 year old princcess, don't you know.

OPs kid is only 16, that’s still really young. My daughter is almost 18, and I cook her whatever meals she want’s daily. So does her father. I’d be extremely disappointed if he wasn’t cooking what she wanted for her.

good one.

Do all these people have only children or are they making whole individual meals for each kid?

I have an only child and I think these people are nuts.

I find this thread very sad. Teens are still children and deserved to be taken care of. My sons are 17 and 18 years old, and I do make dinner for them every night, and pack their lunches for them everyday.

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Anonymous wrote:You sound like you have created a drama queen monster.

Mommy dearest gets up to cook breakfast every day for her 16 year old princcess, don't you know.

OPs kid is only 16, that’s still really young. My daughter is almost 18, and I cook her whatever meals she want’s daily. So does her father. I’d be extremely disappointed if he wasn’t cooking what she wanted for her.

good one.

Do all these people have only children or are they making whole individual meals for each kid?

I have an only child and I think these people are nuts.

I find this thread very sad. Teens are still children and deserved to be taken care of. My sons are 17 and 18 years old, and I do make dinner for them every night, and pack their lunches for them everyday.

And I find parents like you just as sad. I'm very glad I didn't have a parent like you. I would have found it insulting to be treated like a baby when I was practically an adult.

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Anonymous wrote:You sound like you have created a drama queen monster.

Mommy dearest gets up to cook breakfast every day for her 16 year old princcess, don't you know.

OPs kid is only 16, that’s still really young. My daughter is almost 18, and I cook her whatever meals she want’s daily. So does her father. I’d be extremely disappointed if he wasn’t cooking what she wanted for her.

good one.

Do all these people have only children or are they making whole individual meals for each kid?

I have an only child and I think these people are nuts.

I find this thread very sad. Teens are still children and deserved to be taken care of. My sons are 17 and 18 years old, and I do make dinner for them every night, and pack their lunches for them everyday.

I have a feeling you're the OP and you're trolling, trolling, trolling.

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Anonymous wrote:You sound like you have created a drama queen monster.

Mommy dearest gets up to cook breakfast every day for her 16 year old princcess, don't you know.

OPs kid is only 16, that’s still really young. My daughter is almost 18, and I cook her whatever meals she want’s daily. So does her father. I’d be extremely disappointed if he wasn’t cooking what she wanted for her.

good one.

Do all these people have only children or are they making whole individual meals for each kid?

I have an only child and I think these people are nuts.

I find this thread very sad. Teens are still children and deserved to be taken care of. My sons are 17 and 18 years old, and I do make dinner for them every night, and pack their lunches for them everyday.

And I find parents like you just as sad. I'm very glad I didn't have a parent like you. I would have found it insulting to be treated like a baby when I was practically an adult.

AMEN. But PP is a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex-husband and I share custody of our 16 year old daughter. One thing that has become a point of conflict is food at his house.

He doesn't make breakfast for her and basically tells her to grab a granola bar if she's hungry. She doesn't really complain about that, although I do make her breakfast every morning when she's with me.

The bigger issue is dinner. He makes dinner, but often it's nothing my daughter likes. He tells her she can either eat what he made or make herself a sandwich. He doesn't make her an alternative meal or seem concerned about whether she actually eats. As a result, there are days when she barely eats dinner and sometimes goes to bed hungry.

I find this upsetting because I feel like making sure your child is adequately fed is basic parenting. When I brought it up with my ex, he told me that if I want her to eat that food so badly, I can come over to his house and make it there myself. I told him, absolutely not—you need to make dinner for your own daughter.

I just don’t know what do anymore. How can convince to make her a proper dinner?

She is 16 and can't make her own breakfast? She is old enough to tell him what she wants to eat. This is on your lack of parenting to teach independence to your child.

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Anonymous wrote:You sound like you have created a drama queen monster.

Mommy dearest gets up to cook breakfast every day for her 16 year old princcess, don't you know.

OPs kid is only 16, that’s still really young. My daughter is almost 18, and I cook her whatever meals she want’s daily. So does her father. I’d be extremely disappointed if he wasn’t cooking what she wanted for her.

good one.

Do all these people have only children or are they making whole individual meals for each kid?

I have an only child and I think these people are nuts.

I find this thread very sad. Teens are still children and deserved to be taken care of. My sons are 17 and 18 years old, and I do make dinner for them every night, and pack their lunches for them everyday.

Horse manure! God help them when they are on their own. They will starve.

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Honestly, both parents sound like a mess. Your DD sounds bratty and spoiled because you cater to her so much. Her dad sounds uninvolved and like he doesn't care about her comfort. There are perfectly reasonable in the middle options. DH or I cook but DS is involved. He has a hand in choosing what we eat as well. He's 13 but by 17 I fully expect he would be able to make himself something if we didn't cook.

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Anonymous wrote:You sound like you have created a drama queen monster.

Mommy dearest gets up to cook breakfast every day for her 16 year old princcess, don't you know.

OPs kid is only 16, that’s still really young. My daughter is almost 18, and I cook her whatever meals she want’s daily. So does her father. I’d be extremely disappointed if he wasn’t cooking what she wanted for her.

good one.

Do all these people have only children or are they making whole individual meals for each kid?

I have an only child and I think these people are nuts.

I find this thread very sad. Teens are still children and deserved to be taken care of. My sons are 17 and 18 years old, and I do make dinner for them every night, and pack their lunches for them everyday.

Horse manure! God help them when they are on their own. They will starve.

Or if they have to figure out how to eat on a budget. When I was in grad school I would eat whatever free food I could find (and a lot of beans).

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My mother doesn’t care for steak, but the rest of the family likes it! When we grill we make steaks for most people and make sausage for her. Should we just force her to eat the steak or do you think it’s ok to coddle her? She’s a grown lady in her 70s!

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Anonymous wrote:My mother doesn’t care for steak, but the rest of the family likes it! When we grill we make steaks for most people and make sausage for her. Should we just force her to eat the steak or do you think it’s ok to coddle her? She’s a grown lady in her 70s!

This must seem really deep if you're a dumbass.

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Anonymous wrote:You sound like you have created a drama queen monster.

Mommy dearest gets up to cook breakfast every day for her 16 year old princcess, don't you know.

OPs kid is only 16, that’s still really young. My daughter is almost 18, and I cook her whatever meals she want’s daily. So does her father. I’d be extremely disappointed if he wasn’t cooking what she wanted for her.

good one.

Do all these people have only children or are they making whole individual meals for each kid?

I have three kids but means that more balancing must be done. What’s crazy here is this dad has one kid, half time, and he’s unable to balance her needs with his. As an example, I have one kid that loves lentils and two kids that hate them. I make his favorite lentil dish whenever his sisters are out with their friends, or sometimes I made it when one of them is out and I sub in cheese for the other. Easy! My goal is to make something that at least 2/3 of them like on any given night, and to rotate among the kids as to which one is the unlucky one that night. If dad likes fish and daughters doesn’t, why doesn’t he make that on the 50% of time he doesn’t have her, or on the nights she eats out with her team or girlfriends? This is like basic parenting, that you take your children’s preferences into account to some degree.

This whole situation screams out to me that dad is very rigid and thinks he is teaching her some lesson by refusing to make the food she likes. (probably because he always hated the moms cooking and thinks the mom spoiled her feeding her unhealthy food like sliders.) That’s not exactly what this girl needs when she’s dealing with recently divorced parents, uprooting herself to be at dad’s 50% of time, probably also studying for APs and SATs etc. She seems like she’s got a lot of sh$t on her plate and he could break down and make her a friggin’ carb and some grilled chicken, if he actually cared about her and wanted to make her feel more comfortable at his place. Instead, he’s fighting some decade-old fight with his ex about healthy food.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound like you have created a drama queen monster.

Mommy dearest gets up to cook breakfast every day for her 16 year old princcess, don't you know.

OPs kid is only 16, that’s still really young. My daughter is almost 18, and I cook her whatever meals she want’s daily. So does her father. I’d be extremely disappointed if he wasn’t cooking what she wanted for her.

good one.

Do all these people have only children or are they making whole individual meals for each kid?

I have an only child and I think these people are nuts.

I find this thread very sad. Teens are still children and deserved to be taken care of. My sons are 17 and 18 years old, and I do make dinner for them every night, and pack their lunches for them everyday.

My parents took care of us by teaching us that we were capable of lots of things like laundry, cleaning, and making full meals.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound like you have created a drama queen monster.

Mommy dearest gets up to cook breakfast every day for her 16 year old princcess, don't you know.

OPs kid is only 16, that’s still really young. My daughter is almost 18, and I cook her whatever meals she want’s daily. So does her father. I’d be extremely disappointed if he wasn’t cooking what she wanted for her.

good one.

Do all these people have only children or are they making whole individual meals for each kid?

I have an only child and I think these people are nuts.

I find this thread very sad. Teens are still children and deserved to be taken care of. My sons are 17 and 18 years old, and I do make dinner for them every night, and pack their lunches for them everyday.

And I find parents like you just as sad. I'm very glad I didn't have a parent like you. I would have found it insulting to be treated like a baby when I was practically an adult.

They don’t find it insulting to be “treated like a baby” because that’s not what’s happening. Someone who loves them wants to make sure they’re well-fed and cared for, and does it out of affection. Most people can recognize the difference between being infantilized and having a mother perform a thoughtful act of care. Making someone a meal isn't taking away their independence. They’re teenagers who live at home, I don’t see why I shouldn’t help them out.