Ex won’t make food our daughter will eat

[Anonymous]

I would not make something my kid hates 3x week, however, OP is also coddling her daughter and doing her a disservice.

My soon to be off to college DD doesn't eat enough - she barely eats any breakfast, has a smallish lunch, and most nights, smallish dinner. She's 5'7 and skinny as a reed. We do make things she likes, and also have stuff in the house that she likes. She just doesn't eat much, and I do worry.

But, as she is going away to college, she must learn to take care of herself, and that includes being able to cook for herself at some point while going to school and holding a PT job (which she wants to do), and be in clubs, and go out with friends and s/o, and most importantly, keep the grades up.

At this age (17), your kid needs to figure it out.

[Anonymous]

c'mon people, the cps post was a joke.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If this kid were living in a 2-parent household with other siblings and did not like the family meal that was prepared for everyone and was told to find something else to eat, that would make sense.

It sounds like this is one kid, going to spend time with dad half of the time, so there are two people in the house for dinner. And he routinely makes food she will not eat and then tells her to go make a sandwich. He has to prepare the meal that HE wants, regardless of whether the kid is going to have to go make a sandwich? So he's eating alone and then she's eating alone? This is such a bizarre way to treat your child during your custodial time.

I'm a single mom with one teen DD at home. When she's with me, we have dinners that we both like and we sit down and eat together. It's not hard. I can get my favorite sushi (which she doesn't like) when she's with her dad.

Men typically don't care about their kid's needs or wants. To them, parenting is just bare minimum effort. As long as the kid gets fed (there's food in the house, she just chooses not to eat it) and clothed and housed, that's the extent of their parenting. They don't care if the food caters to them, or that the house is clean, or that the clothing is clean, or fits properly or is appropriate for the season.

FWIW, we cook fish at least once per week. We try to change up the protein. As a matter of fact, we are having fish tonight. 17 yr old DD doesn't really like this fish but she'll eat it because that's how we raised her - to eat what you are given.

That first bit is such awful bullsh*t. How can you come to this site with such garbage?

I don't think it is. Look at posts on this forum, and other parenting/relationship forums, and you'll see this exact thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is dad an almond dad, lean-protein-and-veg-only kind of eater who is afraid to have "junk" in the house?

This is my suspicion here. And mom is a traditional fatty American food eater. And they have been fighting about this for 20 years without compromising, hence the divorce. He’s trying to basically reparent the girl in a different way, which at this point is dumb considering he’s a part time parent with less than a year left on the clock before she leaves for college. Meet her partway and make her comfortable with some compromises and then maybe you can move her towards more veg in her life or whatever. Both parents sound very my way or the highway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this kid were living in a 2-parent household with other siblings and did not like the family meal that was prepared for everyone and was told to find something else to eat, that would make sense.

It sounds like this is one kid, going to spend time with dad half of the time, so there are two people in the house for dinner. And he routinely makes food she will not eat and then tells her to go make a sandwich. He has to prepare the meal that HE wants, regardless of whether the kid is going to have to go make a sandwich? So he's eating alone and then she's eating alone? This is such a bizarre way to treat your child during your custodial time.

I'm a single mom with one teen DD at home. When she's with me, we have dinners that we both like and we sit down and eat together. It's not hard. I can get my favorite sushi (which she doesn't like) when she's with her dad.

Men typically don't care about their kid's needs or wants. To them, parenting is just bare minimum effort. As long as the kid gets fed (there's food in the house, she just chooses not to eat it) and clothed and housed, that's the extent of their parenting. They don't care if the food caters to them, or that the house is clean, or that the clothing is clean, or fits properly or is appropriate for the season.

FWIW, we cook fish at least once per week. We try to change up the protein. As a matter of fact, we are having fish tonight. 17 yr old DD doesn't really like this fish but she'll eat it because that's how we raised her - to eat what you are given.

I’m not going to change your mind on the facts, but do you ever reflect on the fact that posting such grossly chauvinistic comments might not actually be moving the feminist ball forward? Maybe it just makes you feel good though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this kid were living in a 2-parent household with other siblings and did not like the family meal that was prepared for everyone and was told to find something else to eat, that would make sense.

It sounds like this is one kid, going to spend time with dad half of the time, so there are two people in the house for dinner. And he routinely makes food she will not eat and then tells her to go make a sandwich. He has to prepare the meal that HE wants, regardless of whether the kid is going to have to go make a sandwich? So he's eating alone and then she's eating alone? This is such a bizarre way to treat your child during your custodial time.

I'm a single mom with one teen DD at home. When she's with me, we have dinners that we both like and we sit down and eat together. It's not hard. I can get my favorite sushi (which she doesn't like) when she's with her dad.

Men typically don't care about their kid's needs or wants. To them, parenting is just bare minimum effort. As long as the kid gets fed (there's food in the house, she just chooses not to eat it) and clothed and housed, that's the extent of their parenting. They don't care if the food caters to them, or that the house is clean, or that the clothing is clean, or fits properly or is appropriate for the season.

FWIW, we cook fish at least once per week. We try to change up the protein. As a matter of fact, we are having fish tonight. 17 yr old DD doesn't really like this fish but she'll eat it because that's how we raised her - to eat what you are given.

I’m not going to change your mind on the facts, but do you ever reflect on the fact that posting such grossly chauvinistic comments might not actually be moving the feminist ball forward? Maybe it just makes you feel good though.

I don't think the word chauvinistic means what you think it means lol

[Anonymous]

The mom can make meals and daughter can reheat them... simple solution. Cooking on demand for someone three meals a day is crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this kid were living in a 2-parent household with other siblings and did not like the family meal that was prepared for everyone and was told to find something else to eat, that would make sense.

It sounds like this is one kid, going to spend time with dad half of the time, so there are two people in the house for dinner. And he routinely makes food she will not eat and then tells her to go make a sandwich. He has to prepare the meal that HE wants, regardless of whether the kid is going to have to go make a sandwich? So he's eating alone and then she's eating alone? This is such a bizarre way to treat your child during your custodial time.

I'm a single mom with one teen DD at home. When she's with me, we have dinners that we both like and we sit down and eat together. It's not hard. I can get my favorite sushi (which she doesn't like) when she's with her dad.

Men typically don't care about their kid's needs or wants. To them, parenting is just bare minimum effort. As long as the kid gets fed (there's food in the house, she just chooses not to eat it) and clothed and housed, that's the extent of their parenting. They don't care if the food caters to them, or that the house is clean, or that the clothing is clean, or fits properly or is appropriate for the season.

FWIW, we cook fish at least once per week. We try to change up the protein. As a matter of fact, we are having fish tonight. 17 yr old DD doesn't really like this fish but she'll eat it because that's how we raised her - to eat what you are given.

I’m not going to change your mind on the facts, but do you ever reflect on the fact that posting such grossly chauvinistic comments might not actually be moving the feminist ball forward? Maybe it just makes you feel good though.

I don't think the word chauvinistic means what you think it means lol

What do you think it means? Just curious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this kid were living in a 2-parent household with other siblings and did not like the family meal that was prepared for everyone and was told to find something else to eat, that would make sense.

It sounds like this is one kid, going to spend time with dad half of the time, so there are two people in the house for dinner. And he routinely makes food she will not eat and then tells her to go make a sandwich. He has to prepare the meal that HE wants, regardless of whether the kid is going to have to go make a sandwich? So he's eating alone and then she's eating alone? This is such a bizarre way to treat your child during your custodial time.

I'm a single mom with one teen DD at home. When she's with me, we have dinners that we both like and we sit down and eat together. It's not hard. I can get my favorite sushi (which she doesn't like) when she's with her dad.

Men typically don't care about their kid's needs or wants. To them, parenting is just bare minimum effort. As long as the kid gets fed (there's food in the house, she just chooses not to eat it) and clothed and housed, that's the extent of their parenting. They don't care if the food caters to them, or that the house is clean, or that the clothing is clean, or fits properly or is appropriate for the season.

FWIW, we cook fish at least once per week. We try to change up the protein. As a matter of fact, we are having fish tonight. 17 yr old DD doesn't really like this fish but she'll eat it because that's how we raised her - to eat what you are given.

I’m not going to change your mind on the facts, but do you ever reflect on the fact that posting such grossly chauvinistic comments might not actually be moving the feminist ball forward? Maybe it just makes you feel good though.

I don't think the word chauvinistic means what you think it means lol

What do you think it means? Just curious.

A chauvinist is a sexist man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this kid were living in a 2-parent household with other siblings and did not like the family meal that was prepared for everyone and was told to find something else to eat, that would make sense.

It sounds like this is one kid, going to spend time with dad half of the time, so there are two people in the house for dinner. And he routinely makes food she will not eat and then tells her to go make a sandwich. He has to prepare the meal that HE wants, regardless of whether the kid is going to have to go make a sandwich? So he's eating alone and then she's eating alone? This is such a bizarre way to treat your child during your custodial time.

I'm a single mom with one teen DD at home. When she's with me, we have dinners that we both like and we sit down and eat together. It's not hard. I can get my favorite sushi (which she doesn't like) when she's with her dad.

Men typically don't care about their kid's needs or wants. To them, parenting is just bare minimum effort. As long as the kid gets fed (there's food in the house, she just chooses not to eat it) and clothed and housed, that's the extent of their parenting. They don't care if the food caters to them, or that the house is clean, or that the clothing is clean, or fits properly or is appropriate for the season.

FWIW, we cook fish at least once per week. We try to change up the protein. As a matter of fact, we are having fish tonight. 17 yr old DD doesn't really like this fish but she'll eat it because that's how we raised her - to eat what you are given.

I’m not going to change your mind on the facts, but do you ever reflect on the fact that posting such grossly chauvinistic comments might not actually be moving the feminist ball forward? Maybe it just makes you feel good though.

I don't think the word chauvinistic means what you think it means lol

What do you think it means? Just curious.

A chauvinist is a sexist man.

Try to unpeel the layers of irony in what you just said.