What American "cultural" things you don't do or allow your kids to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, I’m wondering if other “non americans” have been to other countries besides their original one and here. I’m asking because some of these comments are outright ridiculous and in no way “American”.

And coming to the US was a choice you made. I don’t like things about the US either like the healthcare system and how the working poor get little to no help. But I would still choose here rather than many other places. That being said I can’t imagine making a choice to move to another country and raise my kids there just to shit on things and call the people who are from there “dangerous” and not “people I want my kids to spend time with”. You know you can leave right?[/quote"]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No athleisure.

Ok this is just getting weird. So your kids are going to school in formal wear each day? Athleisure is not an American thing. Go to other countries and you will see the kids wearing the same stuff. Give me a break.

Sorry you hate being comfortable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No athleisure.

Ok this is just getting weird. So your kids are going to school in formal wear each day? Athleisure is not an American thing. Go to other countries and you will see the kids wearing the same stuff. Give me a break.

Sorry you hate being comfortable.

Track suits are a stereotype for a reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No athleisure.

Ok this is just getting weird. So your kids are going to school in formal wear each day? Athleisure is not an American thing. Go to other countries and you will see the kids wearing the same stuff. Give me a break.

Sorry you hate being comfortable.

Track suits are a stereotype for a reason.

who is wearing track suits?? Are we in an 80s sitcom?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No athleisure.

Ok this is just getting weird. So your kids are going to school in formal wear each day? Athleisure is not an American thing. Go to other countries and you will see the kids wearing the same stuff. Give me a break.

Sorry you hate being comfortable.

Track suits are a stereotype for a reason.

who is wearing track suits?? Are we in an 80s sitcom?

They are very popular in Europe and Asia.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to start by addressing the pitbulls. Mine is currently laying on me and snoring as my laptop uses him as a desk. Only pitbulls bred to be aggressive will be aggressive; most pitbulls are big cuddle buddies! Mine's incredibly chill and the reason we adopted him from a shelter is because I've met so many loving pitbulls in the past.

Regarding not dating in high school: I didn't have a rule set by my parents but was raised with good morals. I chose not to be intimate until I met the man I eventually married. I'm not a conservative and I didn't grow up going to church. I also choose not to drink alcohol. It's possible to raise a child to have an innate sense of propriety and right vs wrong without laying down the law on them; my parents actually had very few rules and trusted me to do the right thing. I therefore had nothing to rebel against.

100% of pitbulls were bred to be aggressive. That is how the pitbull breed came into existence, people intentionally wanted to create an aggressive bread.

I realize it's a typo but I love the idea of an aggressive bread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do not show up at a potluck with a bottle of soda or a small amount food. I come from a culture where everyone comes with huge amounts of food to share at a potluck, and they don't take their own leftovers back.

Ick. I’m American. Potlucks are a no for me. Especially if I’ve never seen your kitchen.

[Anonymous]

This is interesting. I grew up with south asian parents with what seemed to me often arbitrary rules that isolated me (no dating, no sleepovers, strict curfews, not allowed to participate in post prom activities).

Every family has to determine their own boundaries but when I had kids, I vowed to have a more balanced approach. I waited to allow sleepovers until I felt my kids were ready and able to articulate any issues and it was with neighbors and friends who we knew well. Now with a senior, we are often the house where all the friends hang out, with 10 plus girls sleeping over, and sharing their funny stories and what is going on in their lives.

I also have no problem with dating and loved when my 17 year old came to be to talk about her boyfriend and next steps sexually bc I was able to give guidance and information. I would never have dared to have these types of conversations with my kids and if you completely ban things then kids will often do them anyway but not talk to you about it. (that's what I did growing up).

I do not agree with every aspect of American or South Asian culture but I love that living here we have the choice to pick and choose what aligns with our values and raise kids who are independent and willing to explore and take risks.

[Anonymous]

I find it funny that the most reactions has only come for not allowing teen sex.

[Anonymous]

Being a Bridesmaid.

The worst guest experience of being in a wedding!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being a Bridesmaid.

The worst guest experience of being in a wedding!

This is a great thing not to *want* your kids to do- right up there with going into space or extreme spelunking. But if your kid is old enough to get married and has friends getting married it fits more in the Adult Kids theme and not here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No athleisure.

Ok this is just getting weird. So your kids are going to school in formal wear each day? Athleisure is not an American thing. Go to other countries and you will see the kids wearing the same stuff. Give me a break.

Sorry you hate being comfortable.

Or go back to your countries where girls aren't allowed to compete in sports.

[Anonymous]

Walking around naked in the gym locker room. There are changing rooms that you can go to and change clothes in a modest manner. No one is interested in looking at your ugly bits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is interesting. I grew up with south asian parents with what seemed to me often arbitrary rules that isolated me (no dating, no sleepovers, strict curfews, not allowed to participate in post prom activities).

Every family has to determine their own boundaries but when I had kids, I vowed to have a more balanced approach. I waited to allow sleepovers until I felt my kids were ready and able to articulate any issues and it was with neighbors and friends who we knew well. Now with a senior, we are often the house where all the friends hang out, with 10 plus girls sleeping over, and sharing their funny stories and what is going on in their lives.

I also have no problem with dating and loved when my 17 year old came to be to talk about her boyfriend and next steps sexually bc I was able to give guidance and information. I would never have dared to have these types of conversations with my kids and if you completely ban things then kids will often do them anyway but not talk to you about it. (that's what I did growing up).

I do not agree with every aspect of American or South Asian culture but I love that living here we have the choice to pick and choose what aligns with our values and raise kids who are independent and willing to explore and take risks.

Love this! Agree completely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to start by addressing the pitbulls. Mine is currently laying on me and snoring as my laptop uses him as a desk. Only pitbulls bred to be aggressive will be aggressive; most pitbulls are big cuddle buddies! Mine's incredibly chill and the reason we adopted him from a shelter is because I've met so many loving pitbulls in the past.

Regarding not dating in high school: I didn't have a rule set by my parents but was raised with good morals. I chose not to be intimate until I met the man I eventually married. I'm not a conservative and I didn't grow up going to church. I also choose not to drink alcohol. It's possible to raise a child to have an innate sense of propriety and right vs wrong without laying down the law on them; my parents actually had very few rules and trusted me to do the right thing. I therefore had nothing to rebel against.

100% of pitbulls were bred to be aggressive. That is how the pitbull breed came into existence, people intentionally wanted to create an aggressive bread.

I realize it's a typo but I love the idea of an aggressive bread.

Dave’s KILLER bread. That’s pretty aggressive.