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[quote=Anonymous]This is interesting. I grew up with south asian parents with what seemed to me often arbitrary rules that isolated me (no dating, no sleepovers, strict curfews, not allowed to participate in post prom activities).

Every family has to determine their own boundaries but when I had kids, I vowed to have a more balanced approach. I waited to allow sleepovers until I felt my kids were ready and able to articulate any issues and it was with neighbors and friends who we knew well.  Now with a senior, we are often the house where all the friends hang out, with 10 plus girls sleeping over, and sharing their funny stories and what is going on in their lives.

I also have no problem with dating and loved when my 17 year old came to be to talk about her boyfriend and next steps sexually bc I was able to give guidance and information. I would never have dared to have these types of conversations with my kids and if you completely ban things then kids will often do them anyway but not talk to you about it. (that's what I did growing up).

I do not agree with every aspect of American or South Asian culture but I love that living here we have the choice to pick and choose what aligns with our values and raise kids who are independent and willing to explore and take risks. [/quote]

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