Childhood friend will stay with me for a week. What do you think will happen?

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Anonymous wrote:No, he’s not interested in you.

Okay, noted!

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How TF would we know?

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Anonymous wrote:I think some things need to be explained.
First, we are both not from the U.S.
Where we are from, looks are important.
Staying at a hotel isn’t as customary. If there’s a friend who has a spare room it’s totally normal to crush at someone’s house.
As for “forgetting” his wallet he already said he owed me and I said it was fine but he could pay for a meal if he wanted to. I know DCUM’s imagination runs wild but he isn’t a cheapskate

How did he made the move the first time?

I knew he was into me, has been for a while. One day I invited him over and voila.
We weren’t in a relationship in a traditional sense, we both moved on to other pastures

Well, he will be coming back to the pasture to graze one more time and it seems you are ready for it.

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Anonymous wrote:What sort of 40 yr old married man crashes on opposite gender friend's couch if they've some history and she isn't over him? This guy is cheap and cheat?

I wouldn’t say I’m “not over him”, I wasn’t that into him to begin with. It’s not a couch as I said before and I regret using the figure of speech for old times sake. He most likely has no idea that I’m even thinking about it

Honey you aren't fooling anyone. You definitely aren't over him. You are giddy with excitement at the thought of seeing him much less having him sleepover.

Please understand that not everyone has life as straightforward or maybe boring as yours.
When I was young and good looking, he didn’t matter much as I had other prospects.
Now it matters because I don’t have romantic prospects. He is the only good looking man who I am friendly with. If he was fat I wouldn’t even think about anything.
It’s not being over or not over him. It’s having someone at arms reach who you don’t need to get to know and who is good looking and will luckily leave in a week.

NP. Sounds like you are the one with the boring life. Trying to imagine this intrigue with someone else’s husband and all.

Well it’s in my original post, my life is boring now. Wasn’t always that way lol

Then why are you calling other people boring.

Because they don’t understand how things work.
Means they have no experience

No experience hoping a married man propositions them for one-night of sex? Boring isn’t the word I would have used.

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Anonymous wrote:OP are you horny? How's your current sex life? It seems to me that you are looking for someone who can rearrange you guts.

Yes but without the cumbersome dating process and no risk of having to figure out a relationship that might ensue

That’s what toys are for.

Sad if you think it’s the same

Lady, you are discussing f%*^# someone else’s husband. You are not a position to call anything or anyone else sad. Certain not a person suggesting an healthy alternative.

It really comes down to this OP. Go ahead and have your fun knowingly with a married man if that is what ends up happening but as far as personal integrity and character, well, you sold your soul in that regard and have no right to ever take the high ground again.

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Not exactly hard to figure out why OP is single. OP, do you have anything to offer anyone? You're overweight, immature, a bit dumb, and have questionable moral values.

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Anonymous wrote:Has he told his wife where he is staying? Has he told her about your prior relationship? As a wife I would not be happy with my husband staying with an ex for a week.

I am not his ex lol
I have no idea what the wife thinks and honestly I don’t care
For me it’s offering a friend a place to stay
I just want to know if there’s another layer to it, that’s all.
He hasn’t made any moves in the past 5 or so years when we saw each other occasionally [/quot

You had a fling with him so he is an ex. And you don’t care what his wife thinks? At some point you will greet him with open legs.

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OP, you need therapy. Your self esteem is so low you are desperate for this guy to hit on you even though it would be wildly inappropriate and would destroy any friendship you had.

Who cares what his motives are, worry about your own train of thought. It’s going off a cliff. Value yourself enough to realize you are not looking at yourself in a healthy way.

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Anonymous wrote:What sort of 40 yr old married man crashes on opposite gender friend's couch if they've some history and she isn't over him? This guy is cheap and cheat?

I wouldn’t say I’m “not over him”, I wasn’t that into him to begin with. It’s not a couch as I said before and I regret using the figure of speech for old times sake. He most likely has no idea that I’m even thinking about it

Honey you aren't fooling anyone. You definitely aren't over him. You are giddy with excitement at the thought of seeing him much less having him sleepover.

Please understand that not everyone has life as straightforward or maybe boring as yours.
When I was young and good looking, he didn’t matter much as I had other prospects.
Now it matters because I don’t have romantic prospects. He is the only good looking man who I am friendly with. If he was fat I wouldn’t even think about anything.
It’s not being over or not over him. It’s having someone at arms reach who you don’t need to get to know and who is good looking and will luckily leave in a week.

OK, so you are desparate.

Depends on your definition of “despArate”.
Settling for this because I can’t have more or better? No.
This is potentially the situation I prefer. A one night stand with no follow up

Isn't he staying for a week.

You are so literal it’s exhausting

It's almost like words have meaning.

Are you saying that a one night stand is something different if it’s 7 nights? What if it happens on the last night.
This is so stupid. It’s like, does it matter if he is on the couch or in a bedroom? I didn’t think it did but apparently it does?

Since multiple people have brought it up, it should be obvious that yes, these kind of details matter.

Since you are slow in this area, I will help you out, married means he is not available.

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Anonymous wrote:What sort of 40 yr old married man crashes on opposite gender friend's couch if they've some history and she isn't over him? This guy is cheap and cheat?

I wouldn’t say I’m “not over him”, I wasn’t that into him to begin with. It’s not a couch as I said before and I regret using the figure of speech for old times sake. He most likely has no idea that I’m even thinking about it

Honey you aren't fooling anyone. You definitely aren't over him. You are giddy with excitement at the thought of seeing him much less having him sleepover.

Please understand that not everyone has life as straightforward or maybe boring as yours.
When I was young and good looking, he didn’t matter much as I had other prospects.
Now it matters because I don’t have romantic prospects. He is the only good looking man who I am friendly with. If he was fat I wouldn’t even think about anything.
It’s not being over or not over him. It’s having someone at arms reach who you don’t need to get to know and who is good looking and will luckily leave in a week.

NP. Sounds like you are the one with the boring life. Trying to imagine this intrigue with someone else’s husband and all.

Well it’s in my original post, my life is boring now. Wasn’t always that way lol

Then why are you calling other people boring.

Because they don’t understand how things work.
Means they have no experience

No experience hoping a married man propositions them for one-night of sex? Boring isn’t the word I would have used.

A married man who is crashing on the couch because he's too cheap for buy a hotel.

What a catch!

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I feel kind of bad for the guy. This cheapo thinks he hit the jackpot with a free place to stay and op's unattractive self is going to try to climb him like a flagpole.

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Anonymous wrote:No childhood friend would excite me. Not even my first boyfriend who is single now and would make a great friend.
Wait til he shows up, has changed, is nothing like you imagined, and has Ed.

I’ve seen him a few years ago and he looks good

But you don't...

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Anonymous wrote:I think some things need to be explained.
First, we are both not from the U.S.
Where we are from, looks are important.
Staying at a hotel isn’t as customary. If there’s a friend who has a spare room it’s totally normal to crush at someone’s house.
As for “forgetting” his wallet he already said he owed me and I said it was fine but he could pay for a meal if he wanted to. I know DCUM’s imagination runs wild but he isn’t a cheapskate

How did he made the move the first time?

I knew he was into me, has been for a while. One day I invited him over and voila.
We weren’t in a relationship in a traditional sense, we both moved on to other pastures

Well, he will be coming back to the pasture to graze one more time and it seems you are ready for it.

I’ve changed for the worse though. And he could have done it when we saw each other one of these past times.
So I’m really not sure

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Anonymous wrote:No childhood friend would excite me. Not even my first boyfriend who is single now and would make a great friend.
Wait til he shows up, has changed, is nothing like you imagined, and has Ed.

I’ve seen him a few years ago and he looks good

But you don't...

I know, I said as much, why do you think you are being smart.
I was just responding to “maybe he has changed”

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Anonymous wrote:I feel kind of bad for the guy. This cheapo thinks he hit the jackpot with a free place to stay and op's unattractive self is going to try to climb him like a flagpole.

Ugh I’m telling you it’s not going to happen. Don’t worry about him so much