Childhood friend will stay with me for a week. What do you think will happen?

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Anonymous wrote:I think you’re going to overhear a conversation he has about you and you’re going to be hurt by it.

Yep, op will drunkenly hit on the guy and then later hear him laughing about it on the phone.

This is totally out of the question! We did have drinks before and I was always on my best behavior. Plus I don’t drink much at all and I don’t think he does either.

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Anonymous wrote:Be an adult. Set the boundaries you want to set. Communicate. If it gets flirty, decide what you want to do but accept it would be just sex with nothing else.

Unless he has other business in town, then yes he would likely enjoy being invited into your bed. If he is coming just into see you and hang out with you, he is hoping for Netflix and chill

He does have other business in town (not just coming to see me or the area).
I won’t say no if he makes the move, but I am not going to make the first move because he is so much better looking I feel self-conscious, plus I don’t want to hear the “but I’m married”.

You sound like you want to be his sloppy seconds.

Sloppy seconds to a guy who won't pay for a hotel in his late 40s.

Ew, op, have some self respect.

Calm down, he isn’t hitting on me

[Anonymous]

I think some things need to be explained.
First, we are both not from the U.S.
Where we are from, looks are important.
Staying at a hotel isn’t as customary. If there’s a friend who has a spare room it’s totally normal to crush at someone’s house.
As for “forgetting” his wallet he already said he owed me and I said it was fine but he could pay for a meal if he wanted to. I know DCUM’s imagination runs wild but he isn’t a cheapskate

[Anonymous]

To add, there’s no way I am going to flirt with him or to drink more than one drink (this is my limit). But I’ll admit I’m curious as to what he will do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think some things need to be explained.
First, we are both not from the U.S.
Where we are from, looks are important.
Staying at a hotel isn’t as customary. If there’s a friend who has a spare room it’s totally normal to crush at someone’s house.
As for “forgetting” his wallet he already said he owed me and I said it was fine but he could pay for a meal if he wanted to. I know DCUM’s imagination runs wild but he isn’t a cheapskate

Does your culture have Freudian slips?

[Anonymous]

Won’t his work pay for or give him the ability to afford a hotel?

Does he have kids?

Did you go to the wedding?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think some things need to be explained.
First, we are both not from the U.S.
Where we are from, looks are important.
Staying at a hotel isn’t as customary. If there’s a friend who has a spare room it’s totally normal to crush at someone’s house.
As for “forgetting” his wallet he already said he owed me and I said it was fine but he could pay for a meal if he wanted to. I know DCUM’s imagination runs wild but he isn’t a cheapskate

Does your culture have Freudian slips?

Aren’t you clever!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Be an adult. Set the boundaries you want to set. Communicate. If it gets flirty, decide what you want to do but accept it would be just sex with nothing else.

Unless he has other business in town, then yes he would likely enjoy being invited into your bed. If he is coming just into see you and hang out with you, he is hoping for Netflix and chill

He does have other business in town (not just coming to see me or the area).
I won’t say no if he makes the move, but I am not going to make the first move because he is so much better looking I feel self-conscious, plus I don’t want to hear the “but I’m married”.

You sound like you want to be his sloppy seconds.

Sloppy seconds to a guy who won't pay for a hotel in his late 40s.

Ew, op, have some self respect.

Calm down, he isn’t hitting on me

Is that disappointing to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Won’t his work pay for or give him the ability to afford a hotel?

Does he have kids?

Did you go to the wedding?

No I didn't go to the wedding and we aren’t that close at all. He has an adult child.
I don’t know his financial situation and I don’t really care, but staying with a friend is normal for us.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Be an adult. Set the boundaries you want to set. Communicate. If it gets flirty, decide what you want to do but accept it would be just sex with nothing else.

Unless he has other business in town, then yes he would likely enjoy being invited into your bed. If he is coming just into see you and hang out with you, he is hoping for Netflix and chill

He does have other business in town (not just coming to see me or the area).
I won’t say no if he makes the move, but I am not going to make the first move because he is so much better looking I feel self-conscious, plus I don’t want to hear the “but I’m married”.

You sound like you want to be his sloppy seconds.

Sloppy seconds to a guy who won't pay for a hotel in his late 40s.

Ew, op, have some self respect.

Calm down, he isn’t hitting on me

Is that disappointing to you?

No, but I am curious how this situation of him staying with me will transpire

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Be an adult. Set the boundaries you want to set. Communicate. If it gets flirty, decide what you want to do but accept it would be just sex with nothing else.

Unless he has other business in town, then yes he would likely enjoy being invited into your bed. If he is coming just into see you and hang out with you, he is hoping for Netflix and chill

He does have other business in town (not just coming to see me or the area).
I won’t say no if he makes the move, but I am not going to make the first move because he is so much better looking I feel self-conscious, plus I don’t want to hear the “but I’m married”.

Gross.

Also he doesn’t want to hook up with you. I am a person who usually lives somewhere people find convenient so I often get approached for hosting by my friends. Even long lost friends at times

Nobody’s ever propositioned me for sex. That would be weird

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think some things need to be explained.
First, we are both not from the U.S.
Where we are from, looks are important.
Staying at a hotel isn’t as customary. If there’s a friend who has a spare room it’s totally normal to crush at someone’s house.
As for “forgetting” his wallet he already said he owed me and I said it was fine but he could pay for a meal if he wanted to. I know DCUM’s imagination runs wild but he isn’t a cheapskate

Quite the slip there

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is he a loser? What 40-year old man asks to crash on his friend's couch? Is his wife ok with this?

+1 what the heck. Is he cheap and trying to avoid a hotel? How is his wife okay with him crashing on the couch of a single friend he slept with years ago? That is pretty nuts.

[Anonymous]

The real question you haven’t answered is - if he does hit on you, will you hook up with him? What would you do?

[Anonymous]

Assuming that you are a Female OP, I would say it is not a good idea for this friend to sleep in your home considering he is a.) a Male and b.) a former fling.

By inviting him into your home in such an intimate manner will only invite disaster.

Does his wife know that he will be “crashing on your couch??”
Does she know you two had a fling years ago??! 🙂‍↔️