Childhood friend will stay with me for a week. What do you think will happen?

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Anonymous wrote:What sort of 40 yr old married man crashes on opposite gender friend's couch if they've some history and she isn't over him? This guy is cheap and cheat?

I wouldn’t say I’m “not over him”, I wasn’t that into him to begin with. It’s not a couch as I said before and I regret using the figure of speech for old times sake. He most likely has no idea that I’m even thinking about it

Honey you aren't fooling anyone. You definitely aren't over him. You are giddy with excitement at the thought of seeing him much less having him sleepover.

Please understand that not everyone has life as straightforward or maybe boring as yours.
When I was young and good looking, he didn’t matter much as I had other prospects.
Now it matters because I don’t have romantic prospects. He is the only good looking man who I am friendly with. If he was fat I wouldn’t even think about anything.
It’s not being over or not over him. It’s having someone at arms reach who you don’t need to get to know and who is good looking and will luckily leave in a week.

OK, so you are desparate.

Depends on your definition of “despArate”.
Settling for this because I can’t have more or better? No.
This is potentially the situation I prefer. A one night stand with no follow up

Isn't he staying for a week.

You are so literal it’s exhausting

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think some things need to be explained.
First, we are both not from the U.S.
Where we are from, looks are important.
Staying at a hotel isn’t as customary. If there’s a friend who has a spare room it’s totally normal to crush at someone’s house.
As for “forgetting” his wallet he already said he owed me and I said it was fine but he could pay for a meal if he wanted to. I know DCUM’s imagination runs wild but he isn’t a cheapskate

How did he made the move the first time?

I knew he was into me, has been for a while. One day I invited him over and voila.
We weren’t in a relationship in a traditional sense, we both moved on to other pastures

Sounds like he moved on and you haven't

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What sort of 40 yr old married man crashes on opposite gender friend's couch if they've some history and she isn't over him? This guy is cheap and cheat?

I wouldn’t say I’m “not over him”, I wasn’t that into him to begin with. It’s not a couch as I said before and I regret using the figure of speech for old times sake. He most likely has no idea that I’m even thinking about it

Honey you aren't fooling anyone. You definitely aren't over him. You are giddy with excitement at the thought of seeing him much less having him sleepover.

Please understand that not everyone has life as straightforward or maybe boring as yours.
When I was young and good looking, he didn’t matter much as I had other prospects.
Now it matters because I don’t have romantic prospects. He is the only good looking man who I am friendly with. If he was fat I wouldn’t even think about anything.
It’s not being over or not over him. It’s having someone at arms reach who you don’t need to get to know and who is good looking and will luckily leave in a week.

OK, so you are desparate.

Depends on your definition of “despArate”.
Settling for this because I can’t have more or better? No.
This is potentially the situation I prefer. A one night stand with no follow up

Isn't he staying for a week.

You are so literal it’s exhausting

It's almost like words have meaning.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think some things need to be explained.
First, we are both not from the U.S.
Where we are from, looks are important.
Staying at a hotel isn’t as customary. If there’s a friend who has a spare room it’s totally normal to crush at someone’s house.
As for “forgetting” his wallet he already said he owed me and I said it was fine but he could pay for a meal if he wanted to. I know DCUM’s imagination runs wild but he isn’t a cheapskate

How did he made the move the first time?

I knew he was into me, has been for a while. One day I invited him over and voila.
We weren’t in a relationship in a traditional sense, we both moved on to other pastures

In high school, I'm guessing

In our 20s, I thought I’d mentioned it

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP are you horny? How's your current sex life? It seems to me that you are looking for someone who can rearrange you guts.

Yes but without the cumbersome dating process and no risk of having to figure out a relationship that might ensue

That’s what toys are for.

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Anonymous wrote:What sort of 40 yr old married man crashes on opposite gender friend's couch if they've some history and she isn't over him? This guy is cheap and cheat?

I wouldn’t say I’m “not over him”, I wasn’t that into him to begin with. It’s not a couch as I said before and I regret using the figure of speech for old times sake. He most likely has no idea that I’m even thinking about it

Honey you aren't fooling anyone. You definitely aren't over him. You are giddy with excitement at the thought of seeing him much less having him sleepover.

Please understand that not everyone has life as straightforward or maybe boring as yours.
When I was young and good looking, he didn’t matter much as I had other prospects.
Now it matters because I don’t have romantic prospects. He is the only good looking man who I am friendly with. If he was fat I wouldn’t even think about anything.
It’s not being over or not over him. It’s having someone at arms reach who you don’t need to get to know and who is good looking and will luckily leave in a week.

OK, so you are desparate.

Depends on your definition of “despArate”.
Settling for this because I can’t have more or better? No.
This is potentially the situation I prefer. A one night stand with no follow up

Isn't he staying for a week.

You are so literal it’s exhausting

It's almost like words have meaning.

Are you saying that a one night stand is something different if it’s 7 nights? What if it happens on the last night.
This is so stupid. It’s like, does it matter if he is on the couch or in a bedroom? I didn’t think it did but apparently it does?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP are you horny? How's your current sex life? It seems to me that you are looking for someone who can rearrange you guts.

Yes but without the cumbersome dating process and no risk of having to figure out a relationship that might ensue

That’s what toys are for.

Sad if you think it’s the same

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think some things need to be explained.
First, we are both not from the U.S.
Where we are from, looks are important.
Staying at a hotel isn’t as customary. If there’s a friend who has a spare room it’s totally normal to crush at someone’s house.
As for “forgetting” his wallet he already said he owed me and I said it was fine but he could pay for a meal if he wanted to. I know DCUM’s imagination runs wild but he isn’t a cheapskate

How did he made the move the first time?

I knew he was into me, has been for a while. One day I invited him over and voila.
We weren’t in a relationship in a traditional sense, we both moved on to other pastures

Sounds like he moved on and you haven't

Oh gosh. How do I explain this.
I tried.
I’ve moved on and now maybe I’m ready to look back for a week. I haven’t been thinking about him in decades as I had other relationships. Now I don’t so yes I can think about him as he kept in shape.

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Anonymous wrote:OP are you horny? How's your current sex life? It seems to me that you are looking for someone who can rearrange you guts.

Yes but without the cumbersome dating process and no risk of having to figure out a relationship that might ensue

That’s what toys are for.

Sad if you think it’s the same

Lady, you are discussing f%*^# someone else’s husband. You are not a position to call anything or anyone else sad. Certain not a person suggesting an healthy alternative.

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Anonymous wrote:What sort of 40 yr old married man crashes on opposite gender friend's couch if they've some history and she isn't over him? This guy is cheap and cheat?

I wouldn’t say I’m “not over him”, I wasn’t that into him to begin with. It’s not a couch as I said before and I regret using the figure of speech for old times sake. He most likely has no idea that I’m even thinking about it

Honey you aren't fooling anyone. You definitely aren't over him. You are giddy with excitement at the thought of seeing him much less having him sleepover.

Please understand that not everyone has life as straightforward or maybe boring as yours.
When I was young and good looking, he didn’t matter much as I had other prospects.
Now it matters because I don’t have romantic prospects. He is the only good looking man who I am friendly with. If he was fat I wouldn’t even think about anything.
It’s not being over or not over him. It’s having someone at arms reach who you don’t need to get to know and who is good looking and will luckily leave in a week.

NP. Sounds like you are the one with the boring life. Trying to imagine this intrigue with someone else’s husband and all.

Well it’s in my original post, my life is boring now. Wasn’t always that way lol

Then why are you calling other people boring.

Because they don’t understand how things work.
Means they have no experience

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Where is this man’s wife ? What does she think ?

Ugh

[Anonymous]

Has he told his wife where he is staying? Has he told her about your prior relationship? As a wife I would not be happy with my husband staying with an ex for a week.

[Anonymous]

No, he’s not interested in you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, just because you are offering a free-stay to a broke-ass 40 yr old married man (he is certainly not a millionaire), please don't make him retch. Seeing your naked body is too harsh a punishment for him.

You think you are being so clever and going to hurt me by your words?
I thought I said I wasn’t making a move.
Maybe your reading comprehension is bad

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Anonymous wrote:Has he told his wife where he is staying? Has he told her about your prior relationship? As a wife I would not be happy with my husband staying with an ex for a week.

I am not his ex lol
I have no idea what the wife thinks and honestly I don’t care
For me it’s offering a friend a place to stay
I just want to know if there’s another layer to it, that’s all.
He hasn’t made any moves in the past 5 or so years when we saw each other occasionally