Daughter wants to move back home

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’ve decided the boyfriend won’t be sleeping over?

And what happens when your adult daughter decides to sleep over there?

DP. What's the problem with the latter?

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DD likely wouldn't want to come live at home if the 2nd was an issue. You cannot control your adult kids if they live with you. You can only expect respect and common family rules (clean up the kitchen after you use it, if you take the last of something add it to the grocery list, etc).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely. This is why successful immigrant communities do well. It makes no sense for her to pay $2-3k a month in rent when she lives 15 minutes away and wants to live at home. In a year she would save 25k and in two years 50k.

I lived at home when started teaching. I was able to live at home and save money for graduate school from ages 25-27. Turns out I got a scholarship so graduate school ended up being free. I was able to use the money I saved for a down payment for a house.

Yes, and that's your reason. OP's DD doesn't seem to have one, or OP doesn't want to figure it out.

Our DC just moved back home after 2 yrs of living out--decided that it was a waste of money and that he could save a ton living here. We don't mind and certainly don't treat him like a child. He comes and goes on his schedule, if he's here for dinner great, if not, fine. Buys groceries, does his own laundry etc. He's not a child nor do we treat him like one. He's saving tons of money this way.

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If our kids want to live at home after college (they dont', but if they did), they are adults and will be treated as such. Only rules are the basic house rules---tell us if you are going to be home for dinner (or not, we don't care), tell us if you are not coming home that night or if you will be late (so we don't worry---just like my husband wouldn't go out after work and not come home until 10pm without telling me), clean up after yourself, help around the house with cleaning/yard work/etc.