Wwyd re father in law

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I feel like some of you posters are holding me responsible for my FIL’s boorish behavior. He’s been a weirdo his whole life honestly and is paying for it now. He’s fully alone with minimal friends and no spouse. But instead of making any changes he’s doubling down on his behavior. I don’t think there is anything I can personally do to change him. My husband has said things to him but he either brushed them off or cried and acted wounded. Really don’t know what the best course of action could be going forward. We don’t see him much anyway. I really appreciate how (some of you?) listened and provided thoughtful responses. My heart goes out to all of you stuck with similar selfish old men. I’m off to Costco to replenish all the things he stole.

He sounds quirky and harmless to me. It sounds like no one has accepted him for who he is (including his family) and he gets told he is doing things wrong.

I mean, would you take unopened Costco sized packages of food from a house where you've been staying? Some of you have really poor manners if you don't find this behavior "wrong."

It’s wrong but easy to shrug off. It’s fruit. If you want to end a relationship over some melon just say so.

It’s wrong and entitled and disrespectful.

Now someone has to spend their family time shopping a second time for food and perishables for their family for the week. Plus all the other things to do to run a household with kids. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does/Did he leave the wife and kids in one town and then take off for another town in another city somewhere in another part of the State?

Nah.

This misogynist narcissistic type just worked a lot of maintained his image & ego at work. He used his wife for that, the free childcare and housekeeping, scheduling, launching the kids, etc. He was pretty checked out of home life since kid 1 showed up. Then later physically and legally left the marriage and adult kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I feel like some of you posters are holding me responsible for my FIL’s boorish behavior. He’s been a weirdo his whole life honestly and is paying for it now. He’s fully alone with minimal friends and no spouse. But instead of making any changes he’s doubling down on his behavior. I don’t think there is anything I can personally do to change him. My husband has said things to him but he either brushed them off or cried and acted wounded. Really don’t know what the best course of action could be going forward. We don’t see him much anyway. I really appreciate how (some of you?) listened and provided thoughtful responses. My heart goes out to all of you stuck with similar selfish old men. I’m off to Costco to replenish all the things he stole.

He sounds quirky and harmless to me. It sounds like no one has accepted him for who he is (including his family) and he gets told he is doing things wrong.

I mean, would you take unopened Costco sized packages of food from a house where you've been staying? Some of you have really poor manners if you don't find this behavior "wrong."

it’s a little weird, like I said it’s harmless.

It will undoubtedly be OP who has to spend her time and energy replacing what he took. But that’s no biggie, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I feel like some of you posters are holding me responsible for my FIL’s boorish behavior. He’s been a weirdo his whole life honestly and is paying for it now. He’s fully alone with minimal friends and no spouse. But instead of making any changes he’s doubling down on his behavior. I don’t think there is anything I can personally do to change him. My husband has said things to him but he either brushed them off or cried and acted wounded. Really don’t know what the best course of action could be going forward. We don’t see him much anyway. I really appreciate how (some of you?) listened and provided thoughtful responses. My heart goes out to all of you stuck with similar selfish old men. I’m off to Costco to replenish all the things he stole.

He sounds quirky and harmless to me. It sounds like no one has accepted him for who he is (including his family) and he gets told he is doing things wrong.

I mean, would you take unopened Costco sized packages of food from a house where you've been staying? Some of you have really poor manners if you don't find this behavior "wrong."

it’s a little weird, like I said it’s harmless.

It will undoubtedly be OP who has to spend her time and energy replacing what he took. But that’s no biggie, right?

Why? I hate costco so my husband does the shopping there. When i do go i see lots of families shopping together and there are plenty of men shopping solo. Men love Costco so i wouldn’t assume what you are assuming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I feel like some of you posters are holding me responsible for my FIL’s boorish behavior. He’s been a weirdo his whole life honestly and is paying for it now. He’s fully alone with minimal friends and no spouse. But instead of making any changes he’s doubling down on his behavior. I don’t think there is anything I can personally do to change him. My husband has said things to him but he either brushed them off or cried and acted wounded. Really don’t know what the best course of action could be going forward. We don’t see him much anyway. I really appreciate how (some of you?) listened and provided thoughtful responses. My heart goes out to all of you stuck with similar selfish old men. I’m off to Costco to replenish all the things he stole.

He sounds quirky and harmless to me. It sounds like no one has accepted him for who he is (including his family) and he gets told he is doing things wrong.

I mean, would you take unopened Costco sized packages of food from a house where you've been staying? Some of you have really poor manners if you don't find this behavior "wrong."

it’s a little weird, like I said it’s harmless.

It will undoubtedly be OP who has to spend her time and energy replacing what he took. But that’s no biggie, right?

on the scale of what happen in life, it is no biggie. If it is biggie for you - then you have lived a charmed life and could use a little practice in resilience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does/Did he leave the wife and kids in one town and then take off for another town in another city somewhere in another part of the State?

Nah.

This misogynist narcissistic type just worked a lot of maintained his image & ego at work. He used his wife for that, the free childcare and housekeeping, scheduling, launching the kids, etc. He was pretty checked out of home life since kid 1 showed up. Then later physically and legally left the marriage and adult kids.

How frequently is OP’s jerk FIL going to their home to over-eat and take their food supplies home with him?

Twice a year? I’d let it go.

Every month? I’d not let it go, he’s a jerk doing this for sport to F around and be selfish.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Father in law just visited us. Mother in law is not in the picture. He never once asked any of us how we are doing and barely spoke to my daughter. He only monologued about his successful business career and retirement. He has plenty of money. He never even offered to pay or help us with meals. He left yesterday and literally cleaned out our fridge, taking a bunch of fruit and sodas. I am so frustrated. I got a text thank you. That’s it. I never want to see that awful man again.

Ok??? Yes, OP. YATA.
- He is just one person and he did not break any social norms of being a good guest.
- He ate food at your house. Like all guests do.
- He took some soda and fruit for his journey back. Instead of asking you to make him a packed lunch.
- He talked about his life. Great! He did not criticize you or was not nosy about you. He also did not discuss politics.

So mainly you are a greedy money-grubber and you are upset that he did not give you any money.

Found the self absorbed grandpa! Next time I he visits I would go away and leave my husband to entertain him!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, get over it. As in law problem visits go, this would sounds pretty mild.

SO you're out some food and you did not get to vent about your problems to him.

Roll your eyes and move on.

Plus 1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, get over it. As in law problem visits go, this would sounds pretty mild.

SO you're out some food and you did not get to vent about your problems to him.

Roll your eyes and move on.

Plus 1

Just makes me wonder what else is going on that has someone so upset about fruit. This is some kind of misplaced anger because the fruit is nothing. Why is OP so mad?

[Anonymous]

Tell gramps to order and pay for Costco instacart for everything he over-ate and took home.

That will be respectful for your time, thought, and scheduling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell gramps to order and pay for Costco instacart for everything he over-ate and took home.

That will be respectful for your time, thought, and scheduling.

Define overeating? Will he be weighed upon arrival and departure?

[Anonymous]

Does he treat you like an outsider to the family and friends? If yes then this is a divorce waiting to happen

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell gramps to order and pay for Costco instacart for everything he over-ate and took home.

That will be respectful for your time, thought, and scheduling.

What!? Pay someone for their time, effort and thought!?? No way, that’s what free women are for.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Tell gramps to order and pay for Costco instacart for everything he over-ate and took home.

That will be respectful for your time, thought, and scheduling.

Define overeating? Will he be weighed upon arrival and departure?

#DARVO

Pathetic excuses suit you well.

Where you getting your next couple free meals and groceries?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell gramps to order and pay for Costco instacart for everything he over-ate and took home.

That will be respectful for your time, thought, and scheduling.

Define overeating? Will he be weighed upon arrival and departure?

#DARVO

Pathetic excuses suit you well.

Where you getting your next couple free meals and groceries?

From your house because apparently your husband rules the roost and you’re another doormat.