Tween guest wasted all the food we bought him. Would you be offended by his mom's pretentious remark?

[Anonymous]

Are all the replies in this thread the other kid's mom or something? I probably wouldn't have bothered to bring it up but I understand why OP did and as long as it wasn't in front of the kid don't think it's that rude.

I think ordering once and realizing he wasn't hungry could be forgiven but twice in one day is strange. He's not a toddler.

[Anonymous]

Why is this such a thing for you, OP?

It’s a kid that did a random kid thing. You didn’t need to say anything to his mother, but you did. She tried to make light of it. And you’re offended. End of story.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 11 year secretly hides chicken tenders and fish sandwiches and balled up French fries under the car seats, in the door pockets, and underneath the floor mats all the time. Perfectly normal behavior.

Wtf?

Totally normal tween hijinx to hide a filet o fish under the driver seat of the carpooling parent.

[Anonymous]

This would have bothered me too OP - the boy is not being raised properly (his behavior is rude and ungrateful) and what the mom said is annoying and low key rude even if she was trying to be funny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are all the replies in this thread the other kid's mom or something? I probably wouldn't have bothered to bring it up but I understand why OP did and as long as it wasn't in front of the kid don't think it's that rude.

I think ordering once and realizing he wasn't hungry could be forgiven but twice in one day is strange. He's not a toddler.

I think the mom’s response was rude- or was somehow trying to be funny and missed the mark. But some people are socially awkward.

Kids can be weird and I notice a lot of them, even at that age, are nervous or shy when around other kids’ parents. Some of my kids’ friends were and I tried to just be understanding. It could be he really wasn’t hungry but didn’t want to say so, or normally would order x but since his friend was ordering y he thought he should also (seems like something my own kids would’ve done at that age). And then maybe didn’t like it. Or maybe he had an upset stomach and didn’t want to say. It could be anything, really. He is 11. Many kids that age are still shy or awkward with adults they don’t know well.

It isn’t anything I would take personally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are all the replies in this thread the other kid's mom or something? I probably wouldn't have bothered to bring it up but I understand why OP did and as long as it wasn't in front of the kid don't think it's that rude.

I think ordering once and realizing he wasn't hungry could be forgiven but twice in one day is strange. He's not a toddler.

Seems like he was open to trying the food and just didn't like it. He didn't make a point of stating that--some kids do btw--this is not a big deal. OP is overreacting.

[Anonymous]

"The boysseemed interested": Was he going to say, no, I don't like McDonald's? And what would you be posting if he had?

He didn't complain. He also wan't obligated to eat it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This would have bothered me too OP - the boy is not being raised properly (his behavior is rude and ungrateful) and what the mom said is annoying and low key rude even if she was trying to be funny.

I don't get this. How was the boy rude exactly? Do you force feed your kids?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This would have bothered me too OP - the boy is not being raised properly (his behavior is rude and ungrateful) and what the mom said is annoying and low key rude even if she was trying to be funny.

I don't get this. How was the boy rude exactly? Do you force feed your kids?

+1 I don't think the mom was rude either. It's just context: If the kid is used to Steak Shake, may not have liked burgers from another fast food place. Not unusual. Also agree with PP that the kid tried the food and didn't like it or wasn't that hungry (or both). So what. Investigating his leavings is the weird part here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"The boysseemed interested": Was he going to say, no, I don't like McDonald's? And what would you be posting if he had?

He didn't complain. He also wan't obligated to eat it.

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Imagine if he had said he just doesn’t like McDonalds. A lot of people don’t.

And some kids may not be familiar with Panera. My kids are not. I don’t think they have ever eaten there, actually. Not for any particular reason. Just isn’t somewhere we ever eat.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s ok if the guest doesn’t like the food, but at least not to play with food. It’s rude the parent doesn’t seem to educate their kids to appreciate and have basic manner.

How did he "play with the food?" He trashed it in the fast food bag it came in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This would have bothered me too OP - the boy is not being raised properly (his behavior is rude and ungrateful) and what the mom said is annoying and low key rude even if she was trying to be funny.

I don't get this. How was the boy rude exactly? Do you force feed your kids?

+1 I don't think the mom was rude either. It's just context: If the kid is used to Steak Shake, may not have liked burgers from another fast food place. Not unusual. Also agree with PP that the kid tried the food and didn't like it or wasn't that hungry (or both). So what. Investigating his leavings is the weird part here.

Right? Who looks in crumpled up trash bags to evelauate what someone else's kid did or didn't eat? For what purpose? To what end?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This would have bothered me too OP - the boy is not being raised properly (his behavior is rude and ungrateful) and what the mom said is annoying and low key rude even if she was trying to be funny.

I don't get this. How was the boy rude exactly? Do you force feed your kids?

+1 I don't think the mom was rude either. It's just context: If the kid is used to Steak Shake, may not have liked burgers from another fast food place. Not unusual. Also agree with PP that the kid tried the food and didn't like it or wasn't that hungry (or both). So what. Investigating his leavings is the weird part here.

Yes. What was the point of that? Seems strange. I might look through my own kids’ leftover bags and snatch a few leftover fries or something before throwing out. But not another kid’s.

[Anonymous]

I don't think the kid was rude. I don't think the mom's remark was pretentious.

I do think OP is odd, but it was nice of you to drive and try to feed the kid.

[Anonymous]

We used ot take our oldest to McDonald's, and the same thing happened over and over; he wanted the toy in the bag, but never ate any of the food. So we stopped trying, and thus our youngest had never tried it.

My sibling took my youngest to McDonald's once. He was happy to try it. Took one bite and could not take another. Now he knows. To some people, it's just really gross.