Tween guest wasted all the food we bought him. Would you be offended by his mom's pretentious remark?

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Anonymous wrote:Could he have an eating disorder? Hiding food to make it look as though it has been eaten is something that can happen with people who have disordered eating.

He wasn’t hiding it. He balled it up. Normal. Just like my kids twist empty bottles.

The OP specifically said that he was balling up the food in the bag to hide that he hadn’t eaten it. I have, unfortunately, spent time around kids with eating disorders and this is just the kind of thing some of them would do so it wouldn’t be obvious that they weren’t eating.

I highly doubt the 11 yr old boy has an eating disorder. Most likely adhd meds plus being socially awkward

Boys can have eating disorders. And they can be happening at 11. It does happen, and parents should pay attention and be aware of the signs.

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Anonymous wrote:Could he have an eating disorder? Hiding food to make it look as though it has been eaten is something that can happen with people who have disordered eating.

He wasn’t hiding it. He balled it up. Normal. Just like my kids twist empty bottles.

The OP specifically said that he was balling up the food in the bag to hide that he hadn’t eaten it. I have, unfortunately, spent time around kids with eating disorders and this is just the kind of thing some of them would do so it wouldn’t be obvious that they weren’t eating.

I highly doubt the 11 yr old boy has an eating disorder. Most likely adhd meds plus being socially awkward

Boys can have eating disorders. And they can be happening at 11. It does happen, and parents should pay attention and be aware of the signs.

If you genuinely think an 11yo boy has an eating disorder instead of just being a little weirdo like most tweens are, you're an idiot.

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Anonymous wrote:How embarrassing for you, OP. The title of your thread says it all.

+1

Clueless.

How embarrassing for both you and PP.

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Anonymous wrote:I find your attitude so offensive, OP.

Maybe he wasn't hungry. Maybe the food wasn't great. Maybe he felt off that day (maybe he gets carsick or something). But regardless, he know how it was going to come across and made a social effort to hide the food you had bought, so you wouldn't be surprised, offended or disappointed.

And yet here you are, being all three. Don't. He's a child. His mother made a totally innocuous remark that you, operating on a hair-trigger, chose to take the wrong way.

Just stop.

Omg, drama queen lmfao. It's weird of an 11yo to ball up food TWICE. Jesus. Just don't order anything the second time if you're not hungry.

This is why I think the tween was rude. It wasn’t once, but twice. It’s weird that some of you think opening a bag is “rummaging”.

Maybe the situation made him anxious, maybe he has an issue with food and didn’t want to bring attention to it. Have some empathy.

Oh, please.

[Anonymous]

McDonald’s these days is not edible. It’s a place people on welfare eat and homeless loiter.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Could he have an eating disorder? Hiding food to make it look as though it has been eaten is something that can happen with people who have disordered eating.

He wasn’t hiding it. He balled it up. Normal. Just like my kids twist empty bottles.

The OP specifically said that he was balling up the food in the bag to hide that he hadn’t eaten it. I have, unfortunately, spent time around kids with eating disorders and this is just the kind of thing some of them would do so it wouldn’t be obvious that they weren’t eating.

I highly doubt the 11 yr old boy has an eating disorder. Most likely adhd meds plus being socially awkward

Boys can have eating disorders. And they can be happening at 11. It does happen, and parents should pay attention and be aware of the signs.

Yes, they “can happen” but that is the least likely explanation, among several very common explanations.

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I carpool with 11 year old boys and this doesn't surprise me at all.
Kids at this age are just awkward and he might not be sure how to say no politely to an offer of food that he may not want.
I think the mom was trying to make a joke and it fell flat.
This is really not a big deal.

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Please do not feed my kids McDonald’s when you’re carpooling. I honestly thought that went without saying.

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Anonymous wrote:Please do not feed my kids McDonald’s when you’re carpooling. I honestly thought that went without saying.

You should probably drive your own kids then.

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Anonymous wrote:I find your attitude so offensive, OP.

Maybe he wasn't hungry. Maybe the food wasn't great. Maybe he felt off that day (maybe he gets carsick or something). But regardless, he know how it was going to come across and made a social effort to hide the food you had bought, so you wouldn't be surprised, offended or disappointed.

And yet here you are, being all three. Don't. He's a child. His mother made a totally innocuous remark that you, operating on a hair-trigger, chose to take the wrong way.

Just stop.

Omg, drama queen lmfao. It's weird of an 11yo to ball up food TWICE. Jesus. Just don't order anything the second time if you're not hungry.

This is why I think the tween was rude. It wasn’t once, but twice. It’s weird that some of you think opening a bag is “rummaging”.

Maybe the situation made him anxious, maybe he has an issue with food and didn’t want to bring attention to it. Have some empathy.

Empathy might be the most over used word this year. And it’s always uttered by people who aren’t being that empathetic in their response.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find your attitude so offensive, OP.

Maybe he wasn't hungry. Maybe the food wasn't great. Maybe he felt off that day (maybe he gets carsick or something). But regardless, he know how it was going to come across and made a social effort to hide the food you had bought, so you wouldn't be surprised, offended or disappointed.

And yet here you are, being all three. Don't. He's a child. His mother made a totally innocuous remark that you, operating on a hair-trigger, chose to take the wrong way.

Just stop.

Omg, drama queen lmfao. It's weird of an 11yo to ball up food TWICE. Jesus. Just don't order anything the second time if you're not hungry.

This is why I think the tween was rude. It wasn’t once, but twice. It’s weird that some of you think opening a bag is “rummaging”.

Maybe the situation made him anxious, maybe he has an issue with food and didn’t want to bring attention to it. Have some empathy.

Empathy might be the most over used word this year. And it’s always uttered by people who aren’t being that empathetic in their response.

The child is the one person in this scenario who deserves empathy. Yet OP is harping on the fact that he wasted her hard-earned money, on the cheap junk food she provided him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find your attitude so offensive, OP.

Maybe he wasn't hungry. Maybe the food wasn't great. Maybe he felt off that day (maybe he gets carsick or something). But regardless, he know how it was going to come across and made a social effort to hide the food you had bought, so you wouldn't be surprised, offended or disappointed.

And yet here you are, being all three. Don't. He's a child. His mother made a totally innocuous remark that you, operating on a hair-trigger, chose to take the wrong way.

Just stop.

Omg, drama queen lmfao. It's weird of an 11yo to ball up food TWICE. Jesus. Just don't order anything the second time if you're not hungry.

This is why I think the tween was rude. It wasn’t once, but twice. It’s weird that some of you think opening a bag is “rummaging”.

Maybe the situation made him anxious, maybe he has an issue with food and didn’t want to bring attention to it. Have some empathy.

Empathy might be the most over used word this year. And it’s always uttered by people who aren’t being that empathetic in their response.

The child is the one person in this scenario who deserves empathy. Yet OP is harping on the fact that he wasted her hard-earned money, on the cheap junk food she provided him.

Ever heard "no good deed goes unpunished"? OP drove another kid and fed them and all DCUMers will say is that it's junk food and she shoulda taken him to the steakhouse...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:McDonald’s these days is not edible. It’s a place people on welfare eat and homeless loiter.

So, it's edible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please do not feed my kids McDonald’s when you’re carpooling. I honestly thought that went without saying.

Found the kid's mom. It "went without saying" indeed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find your attitude so offensive, OP.

Maybe he wasn't hungry. Maybe the food wasn't great. Maybe he felt off that day (maybe he gets carsick or something). But regardless, he know how it was going to come across and made a social effort to hide the food you had bought, so you wouldn't be surprised, offended or disappointed.

And yet here you are, being all three. Don't. He's a child. His mother made a totally innocuous remark that you, operating on a hair-trigger, chose to take the wrong way.

Just stop.

Omg, drama queen lmfao. It's weird of an 11yo to ball up food TWICE. Jesus. Just don't order anything the second time if you're not hungry.

This is why I think the tween was rude. It wasn’t once, but twice. It’s weird that some of you think opening a bag is “rummaging”.

Maybe the situation made him anxious, maybe he has an issue with food and didn’t want to bring attention to it. Have some empathy.

Empathy might be the most over used word this year. And it’s always uttered by people who aren’t being that empathetic in their response.

The child is the one person in this scenario who deserves empathy. Yet OP is harping on the fact that he wasted her hard-earned money, on the cheap junk food she provided him.

Ever heard "no good deed goes unpunished"? OP drove another kid and fed them and all DCUMers will say is that it's junk food and she shoulda taken him to the steakhouse...

McDonalds is awful but Panera has some reasonably healthy options. Though I can see a somewhat picky eater not liking either, and not wanting to say anything.