Tween guest wasted all the food we bought him. Would you be offended by his mom's pretentious remark?
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Anonymous
So OP should have bought for her kids and not for the other kid? Can you imagine the grief she would get? Teach your kid not to order it then and give them the words to do so. Also, if you’re this inflexible drive your own kids!! |
Anonymous
| I don’t think her remark was pretentious. She probably felt self conscious that you were pointing out her son’s rude and weird habits with his food, and was just talking without thinking. |
Anonymous
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op is so blowing this out of proportion. Some people just look to be offended. Dcum is like a window into people’s inner thoughts.
I feel like McDonald’s is an acquired taste. If you’ve ever had one of their burgers before I can see thinking you’d like it but then not liking it. Why is this such a big deal? If you’re finaniciaply stretched that this was a large outlay for you, you should not have stopped. Also, while I wouldn’t be upset about the stop I do think it’s way more polite to text and say— boys are famished so we will stop at McDonald’s drive thru on way home if that’s okay with you. It gives the parent the opportunity to say — thanks! we are going to grandmas for dinner, is please tell larlo just to get a fries and hang in there until dinner. Or whatever. |
Anonymous
This is something my sister would do. She'd try to be polite and joke-away the issue but inside she would be FUMING. And negatively judging how you feed your family. She would never allow her children to eat "such garbage" when they were young and now that they are teens, they are not interested in lowering their standards to McDonalds. They are a family of "foodies" which from my experience with her is the same as judging all who do not eat the exact way they do. |
Anonymous
This is awesome, actually! I shall summarize your comment: "Please drive my kid around for me and then, yeah sure, I expect you to feed them but when you do I will judge your choices" There. That is pretty much it, no? |
Anonymous
| This thread is wild to me. If someone else were kind enough to drive my kid around, I'd send my kid with packed food and/or money. If I had a high maintenance or fussy kid, I wouldn't make it someone else's problem. If the other parent told me that they fed my kid, I'd be offering to venmo them some money. |
Anonymous
I don't think the other mom feels like your sister, though, because she said they eat Shake Shack -- which is literally fast food. |
Anonymous
How about don’t stop at McDonalds for your kid when there’s a guest in the car. |
Anonymous
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All the folks on here talking about whether OP should have stopped at McDonald's are missing the issue. Come on, the kid's mom has no problem with fast food. She said they eat Shack Shake. She didn't say, "oh, we don't do fast food" Or, we're more of "steak house family". or whatever. She was just trying to say that her son can be picky.
The only thing OP did wrong was bring up what the kid did with the mom (and I doubt she was very nice about it). That was nasty of you, OP. The other mom was rightfully taken aback, so she made a dumb joke. |
Anonymous
+1. OP is an insecure control freak. |
Anonymous
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This entire scenario is bizarre on all levels. I’m still unclear whether this is a financial issue or just some issue of perceived “rudeness”. I have 3 kids, often have their friends along (or they go along with friends) and by age 11, the scenario is pretty much:
-host buys meals, but nearly everyone sends their kid with $$ (or offers money directly to the parent sometimes) which is pretty much always declined -if there are special issues, certainly everyone would accommodate but the expectation at age 11 is the kid will speak up for himself (I’m not allowed to have soda, I’m allergic to strawberries or whatever). Often the kids will decide what they would like among themselves & my own kid will tell me what was decided (at least in the case of fast food or road trip food, because most parents don’t really eat it anyway) -no one has time to sit & analyze what someone else’s kid is eating, much less make some issue of it with kid’s parent. They are 11, not toddlers. -no need to be giving the other parent some sort of rundown unless there was a major behavioral concern- if that. They are 11, not toddlers. |
Anonymous
An 11 year is perfectly capable of declining and saying “no thank you!” Other kids have done this when riding with me, and my kids have done the same when riding with others. Sometimes my kid (or maybe even a sibling who is also along) is going to another activity afterward so we will run through the CFA drive thru or whatever. I’ll offer food to the other kids as well, which they can accept or decline. At age 11, that is between them and their parents. |
Anonymous
| Buying my kid food puts me in the awkward position of having to pay you back for it or feeling guilty for not reciprocating….please don’t. |
Anonymous
NP- How is that possible? If you have enough kids over through the years for enough hours at a time, food is bought at some point. The usual way it works is you host, you buy, the other parent offers to repay, you say no, it was my treat, then the other person hosts and pays. And if you have a couple playdates, you just say thanks for taking Timmy to whatever place, and that's it because it's understood you will reciprocate. |
Anonymous
| Buying someone else’s kids McDonald’s is a prole tell. It’ll get you iced out of a cliquey UMC parent group in short order. |