How do you cope if you regret having kids?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP thanks for the update. I am Team OP.

I think anyone who isn't team OP is worried that by showing even the smallest bit of compassion towards her they have to confront some feelings they work very hard to suppress. So it's easier to lash out. Just my two cents.

I love being a mom but am not team OP because I know several women who wanted nothing more in life than to become mothers and it didn’t work out for them.

Obviously nothing OP did can change that but it seems like such an injustice of karma that OP has the gift of two beautiful healthy (presumably) children and chooses to feel miserable about it.

I also dislike that OP failed to take accountability for her role in bringing two humans into this world and understanding the work that entails.

What I would be sympathetic to is if OP expressed regret for reproducing with an abusive or unsuitable husband who failed to help raise the children or assist meaningfully with parenting.

One down the road, OP will realize how much she has missed out on in life. Hopefully before it’s too late.

NM, I just saw OPs update and am happy to see her redirecting her feelings of regret to the ex and failed marriage.

[Anonymous]

Op this sounds like anxiety is robbing you of enjoying parenthood. I would talk to a dr about getting some anxiety meds as you go through this big adjustment time. It’s quite normal to feel this after a divorce and solo parenting young kids. I’d hate for you to regret not being able to appreciate these years as they will go by fast.