Tell Me Not To Message Her Mom

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Anonymous wrote:She’s not doing anything wrong unless she was lying to him. Teenagers do not have to be in committed relationships. Calm down, Mom.

She was cheating. That's lying.

We don’t know that. That’s his perspective.

OP here. She was cheating. And cheating is lying. That is why my son is so upset. He 100% believed (and was told) that they were exclusive. So were the other two boys apparently. The boys have spoken and her cover completely unraveled. She is a psycho little tramp, to put it mildly.

You sound absolutely insane. You are speaking of a 17 year old girl.
Teens make mistakes even terrible ones and it sounds like she's going to be dealing with the consequences of her actions.

What would you calling her mother really accomplish?

Would you be open to hearing about your son's misadventures? And he will have them op because that is part of dating we all get our hearts broken and sometimes we do the breaking.
What your son needs from you is to hear that this sucks and it's ok to be hurt but this is part of dating, sex and relationships it would be nice if it always went well and everyone was kind and honest but that's not life and it's what you do after that matters. Feeling hurt fine lashing out and trying to hurt the other person not okay

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Anonymous wrote:I came home to a distraught, heartbroken, 17 year old son last night. He found out his gf of 9 months actually had 2 other boyfriends. Besides having him screened for STDs, my first thought is to message the mom and let he know what a skanky little POS her daughter is. I'd use polite language of course, but even still there's a part of me that thinks theres no way of doing it without looking a bit crazy.

Honestly if I was the girl’s mom and got this kind of message from a grown woman I’d go to the police.

"Officer, listen. My daughter likes to spend a lot of time on her back. That's true. And, yes, she likes to keep a full stable. And she lies a bunch. But, really, the problem is a mom of one of her tricks is upset with us."

LOL.

If you confirm your son is as engaging in prostitution, he’s the one who’s going to get arrested. LOL indeed.

Also, realistically it would go more like this:

Officer, the mother of a young man my daughter rejected romantically is very angry about how the relationship ended. The boy’s mother is verbally attacking and harassing my minor child. I would like a restraining order so my minor child can attend school safely and not have fear harassment by an adult

And even in the unlikely case that the police refuse to grant a restraining order, I guarantee that the school will ban you from the premises.

You think ONE EMAIL is going to be enough for a restraining order? LOL (keeping in mind that you have no idea about the contents of this hypothetical email). This is obviously a troll thread, but it definitely brought out the hysterical lunatics.

If the girl’s parents file a bullying report against an adult, the default is to ban them — and they will remain banned while the meetings happen to sort everything out.

Yes, it can be over one email.

The girl has a legal right to an education and safe access to her high school. The parents of students do not have any legal rights to access a high school building and the default is to ban adults who pose even a small threat to a student.

Also, student could file a title IX complaint - students have a right to go to school free from sexual assault, sexual harassment, dating violence or abuse, stalking or retaliation for reporting any of those incidents.

In fact, by getting involved and calling the girl a slut or whore, the Mom could easily open her son up to accusations that he is using his mom as an instrument to perpetrate intimate partner abuse.

I'd inform the school that the slut raped my son. I bet dollars to donuts the other boys

would agree. Little tramp goes to jail.

You need to speak to a licensed therapist.

I think it’s that same icel. He is really messed up in the head.

I actually think this poster is the same as op with the the same disturbing language being used. Honestly considering reporting this thread

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gen X moms are something else

Let's not slam an entire generation

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I always wonder if people like the OP come across as nuts in real life, or if they keep the crazy hidden for the internet.

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Your 17 year old son doesn’t wear CONDOMS????


What kind of parent are you? Are you teaching him birth control is the girl’s responsibility? Are you teaching him it’s okay to take any risk of pregnancy in high school?

Buy that boy a box of condoms and sign him up for CBT to cope with his heartbreak.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Gen X moms are something else

Let's not slam an entire generation

But it is a problem specific to this generation of moms- being overly involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your 17 year old son doesn’t wear CONDOMS????


What kind of parent are you? Are you teaching him birth control is the girl’s responsibility? Are you teaching him it’s okay to take any risk of pregnancy in high school?

Buy that boy a box of condoms and sign him up for CBT to cope with his heartbreak.

I agree.

Also? every time I see CBT I... don't think "cognitive behavioral therapy". It's especially funny in the context of this thread, so thanks for that.

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Anonymous wrote:Gen X moms are something else

Let's not slam an entire generation

But it is a problem specific to this generation of moms- being overly involved.

Hi Gen x mom here. OP is not similar anyone I know.

My “over involvement” includes birth control discussions, hpv vaccination, and dong my best to model emotional maturity. I’m probably more sex positive than my child like now, but they also know I’m a safe space for any discussion. If this happened to my kid we’d be doing things other than hyper focusing on their ex.

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Anonymous wrote:Gen X moms are something else

Let's not slam an entire generation

But it is a problem specific to this generation of moms- being overly involved.

Hi Gen x mom here. OP is not similar anyone I know.

My “over involvement” includes birth control discussions, hpv vaccination, and dong my best to model emotional maturity. I’m probably more sex positive than my child like now, but they also know I’m a safe space for any discussion. If this happened to my kid we’d be doing things other than hyper focusing on their ex.

And clearly not spellcheck OMG

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She’s not doing anything wrong unless she was lying to him. Teenagers do not have to be in committed relationships. Calm down, Mom.

She was cheating. That's lying.

We don’t know that. That’s his perspective.

OP here. She was cheating. And cheating is lying. That is why my son is so upset. He 100% believed (and was told) that they were exclusive. So were the other two boys apparently. The boys have spoken and her cover completely unraveled. She is a psycho little tramp, to put it mildly.

You are speaking of a 17 year old girl.
Teens make mistakes even terrible ones and it sounds like she's going to be dealing with the consequences of her actions.

What would you calling her mother really accomplish?

Would you be open to hearing about your son's misadventures? And he will have them op because that is part of dating we all get our hearts broken and sometimes we do the breaking.
What your son needs from you is to hear that this sucks and it's ok to be hurt but this is part of dating, sex and relationships it would be nice if it always went well and everyone was kind and honest but that's not life and it's what you do after that matters. Feeling hurt fine lashing out and trying to hurt the other person not okay

This is great.

[Anonymous]

I can’t believe you went to call this child’s mother ..

[Anonymous]

OP is batshit crazy.

[Anonymous]

No, OP don't contact her mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I came home to a distraught, heartbroken, 17 year old son last night. He found out his gf of 9 months actually had 2 other boyfriends. Besides having him screened for STDs, my first thought is to message the mom and let he know what a skanky little POS her daughter is. I'd use polite language of course, but even still there's a part of me that thinks theres no way of doing it without looking a bit crazy.

He will get over it.

[Anonymous]

That’s women today. The younger ages, younger married have more women then men cheating.

I’d not advise sons to marry. Lose half their income and half time with kids and half their retirement ——pay out to a cheater.

No thanks