Tell Me Not To Message Her Mom

[Anonymous]

No don't call her mom. Might get more than you bargained for

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A) teacher your kid about protection B) if your kid is old enough to be having sex, he's old enough to be handling breakups and issues without mom stepping in.

It's a learning moment, teaching him to go on a vendetta that could get him in trouble is dumb. It's going to get around social circles what happened. By being calm and keeping his head up, he looks like the good guy. Calling her names repeatedly or messaging her mom will not improve his standing or reputation here.

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Stay away from his mom and my kids.

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It's vital to contact her mother so she can take her underage daughter to the Dr.

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I wonder if her mother is sleeping around too...apples does not fall far.

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Anonymous wrote:Let God take care of it in His time. God loves justice. Do nothing.

If God loved justice, everyone would be born equal. We're not. Some kids are born sick or get cancer - is that justice to you. If so, tell that to ny 2 year old niece always in the hospital and doesn't understand why she's constantly poked.

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Anonymous wrote:She’s not doing anything wrong unless she was lying to him. Teenagers do not have to be in committed relationships. Calm down, Mom.

She was cheating. That's lying.

We don’t know that. That’s his perspective.

OP here. She was cheating. And cheating is lying. That is why my son is so upset. He 100% believed (and was told) that they were exclusive. So were the other two boys apparently. The boys have spoken and her cover completely unraveled. She is a psycho little tramp, to put it mildly.

No, she's a human. A 17 year old human. But yes, this is your son, and obviously you don't like him being hurt. Of course he is upset. But he is 17, old enough to be sexually active, and old enough to sort out his own relationships.

This is a learning moment for him. Do not ruin it by yelling at the girl's mom (why not her dad? another argument to have at a different time perhaps). It is not any of your business. Talk to your son about what HE is going to do, and how HE is going to respond, and how HE is feeling. Help him be respectful, but to own his feelings.

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Anonymous wrote:She’s not doing anything wrong unless she was lying to him. Teenagers do not have to be in committed relationships. Calm down, Mom.

What part of the words "girlfriend of 9 months" is not clear to you?

At 17. Get real! While it sounds like OP's son had some real feelings or at the minimum is feeling like a fool for being lied to, they're just dumb kids. Lick your wounds and move on.

I guarantee you wouldn't be so quick to dismiss this if it were your daughter on the receiving end.

I have a nearly 17-year-old son and I know exactly what I would do and say. I'm raising him, not his girlfriends. I would also feel like a part of me failed if they were so freely having sex at such a young age. But I digress. I would be supportive of him and comfort him. I would never ever message the other mom. I guess if they are old enough to be having sex, they are old enough to handle their relatioshop without parents getting involved. Guaranteed he didn't need his mommy when he got that boner.

17 isn't "Such a young age" for sex.

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Cmon Dude you should nail the mom! The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree!

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Anonymous wrote:Cmon Dude you should nail the mom! The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree!

Go away, you insufferable incel. You're really tiresome.

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Anonymous wrote:Your 17 year old son doesn’t wear CONDOMS????


What kind of parent are you? Are you teaching him birth control is the girl’s responsibility? Are you teaching him it’s okay to take any risk of pregnancy in high school?

Buy that boy a box of condoms and sign him up for CBT to cope with his heartbreak.

What a stupid question. There were over 150,000 teen births in the US just last year. That's a whole lot of un-condomed dudes as well as girls with zero protection.

You do know it takes two to tango, right?

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Anonymous wrote:She’s not doing anything wrong unless she was lying to him. Teenagers do not have to be in committed relationships. Calm down, Mom.

This. And even if she was, you do not call her mother. That can backfire. Majorly. Focus on your son. It’s painful, but the pain will subside.

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Anonymous wrote:A) teacher your kid about protection B) if your kid is old enough to be having sex, he's old enough to be handling breakups and issues without mom stepping in.

It's a learning moment, teaching him to go on a vendetta that could get him in trouble is dumb. It's going to get around social circles what happened. By being calm and keeping his head up, he looks like the good guy. Calling her names repeatedly or messaging her mom will not improve his standing or reputation here.

I have no idea how this isn't the beginning and end of the "discussion."

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Anonymous wrote:Didn't read 11 pages but here's a PSA for parents. Get your kids Gardasil early on. Not having the vaccine isn't a chastity belt and too young is a slippery slope.
People up to age 26 even if sexually active and even if already exposed to HPV can benefit. Protection against strains they were not yet exposed to.
Cervical cancer.
Anal cancer.
Throat cancer.

Do not get this vaccine. It's useless. it protects against a tiny number of STDs. Your kids should be protecting themselves from ALL stds by practicing safe sex. No need for this shot, which DOES have side effects.

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Anonymous wrote:I came home to a distraught, heartbroken, 17 year old son last night. He found out his gf of 9 months actually had 2 other boyfriends. Besides having him screened for STDs, my first thought is to message the mom and let he know what a skanky little POS her daughter is. I'd use polite language of course, but even still there's a part of me that thinks theres no way of doing it without looking a bit crazy.

Honestly if I was the girl’s mom and got this kind of message from a grown woman I’d go to the police.

"Officer, listen. My daughter likes to spend a lot of time on her back. That's true. And, yes, she likes to keep a full stable. And she lies a bunch. But, really, the problem is a mom of one of her tricks is upset with us."

LOL.

If you confirm your son is as engaging in prostitution, he’s the one who’s going to get arrested. LOL indeed.

Also, realistically it would go more like this:

Officer, the mother of a young man my daughter rejected romantically is very angry about how the relationship ended. The boy’s mother is verbally attacking and harassing my minor child. I would like a restraining order so my minor child can attend school safely and not have fear harassment by an adult

And even in the unlikely case that the police refuse to grant a restraining order, I guarantee that the school will ban you from the premises.

Tell me you have zero experience with the criminal justice system without telling me you have zero experience with the criminal justice system.

All right, you’ve convinced me. OP should call the girl’s parents and tell them what a skanky, psycho little whore they raised. She should call the girl too! Someone needs to stand up for her son!

You're conflating two entirely separate questions. It's a bad idea to contact the girl's parents, but that doesn't mean that it would be sufficient for a restraining order. But go on with your hysterical self.

You're addressing someone that thinks "Oh, honey" is witty. they can barely tie their shoes.

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Np.

Confession… I also say oh honey. And usually it’s in my Trixie Mattel voice.

It essentially means yeah you’re stupid. Kind of in the sweet summer child vein. It’s clearly you don’t have enough life experience but it’s cute that you try.


And for what it’s worth I also don’t think there’s a need to shame this girl. It sounds like a messy teenage romance at best. that sucks for OP‘s kid. Now he knows and he can make other choices about where to put his emotions and “experiences”.

We know that. This post is what Jesus F'ing Christ was invented for. Should we explain the meaning?