Tell Me Not To Message Her Mom

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She’s not doing anything wrong unless she was lying to him. Teenagers do not have to be in committed relationships. Calm down, Mom.

She was cheating. That's lying.

We don’t know that. That’s his perspective.

OP here. She was cheating. And cheating is lying. That is why my son is so upset. He 100% believed (and was told) that they were exclusive. So were the other two boys apparently. The boys have spoken and her cover completely unraveled. She is a psycho little tramp, to put it mildly.

You sound absolutely insane. You are speaking of a 17 year old girl.
Teens make mistakes even terrible ones and it sounds like she's going to be dealing with the consequences of her actions.

What would you calling her mother really accomplish?

Would you be open to hearing about your son's misadventures? And he will have them op because that is part of dating we all get our hearts broken and sometimes we do the breaking.
What your son needs from you is to hear that this sucks and it's ok to be hurt but this is part of dating, sex and relationships it would be nice if it always went well and everyone was kind and honest but that's not life and it's what you do after that matters. Feeling hurt fine lashing out and trying to hurt the other person not okay

This is the most sensible post in the thread. It almost seems out of place here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She’s not doing anything wrong unless she was lying to him. Teenagers do not have to be in committed relationships. Calm down, Mom.

What part of the words "girlfriend of 9 months" is not clear to you?

At 17. Get real! While it sounds like OP's son had some real feelings or at the minimum is feeling like a fool for being lied to, they're just dumb kids. Lick your wounds and move on.

I guarantee you wouldn't be so quick to dismiss this if it were your daughter on the receiving end.

I have a nearly 17-year-old son and I know exactly what I would do and say. I'm raising him, not his girlfriends. I would also feel like a part of me failed if they were so freely having sex at such a young age. But I digress. I would be supportive of him and comfort him. I would never ever message the other mom. I guess if they are old enough to be having sex, they are old enough to handle their relatioshop without parents getting involved. Guaranteed he didn't need his mommy when he got that boner.

17 isn't "Such a young age" for sex.

I think that is actually is, today.

It’s even more rare to have a “serious” boyfriend at 17 or to consider 9 mos of kids dating to be a “long term relationship” and enmeshing families with the girlfriend. Mom is loony toons and raised a needy loony toons simp.

I also believe this is a troll, so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gen X moms are something else

This GenX mom would never consider contacting the mom in this issue. I would be focusing on my son and helping him learn one of the painful life lessons that comes with relationships.

None of my GenX friends would contact a parent about this either.

[Anonymous]

I won't because you should message the mom.

Any update op?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Didn't read 11 pages but here's a PSA for parents. Get your kids Gardasil early on. Not having the vaccine isn't a chastity belt and too young is a slippery slope.
People up to age 26 even if sexually active and even if already exposed to HPV can benefit. Protection against strains they were not yet exposed to.
Cervical cancer.
Anal cancer.
Throat cancer.

Do not get this vaccine. It's useless. it protects against a tiny number of STDs. Your kids should be protecting themselves from ALL stds by practicing safe sex. No need for this shot, which DOES have side effects.

Troll. https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/hpv-infection/in-depth/hpv-vaccine/art-20047292

It prevents an STD that can give your kid cancer later on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She’s not doing anything wrong unless she was lying to him. Teenagers do not have to be in committed relationships. Calm down, Mom.

She was cheating. That's lying.

We don’t know that. That’s his perspective.

OP here. She was cheating. And cheating is lying. That is why my son is so upset. He 100% believed (and was told) that they were exclusive. So were the other two boys apparently. The boys have spoken and her cover completely unraveled. She is a psycho little tramp, to put it mildly.

You are SUCH TRASH. I hope your son never meets another woman forced into your orbit.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I came home to a distraught, heartbroken, 17 year old son last night. He found out his gf of 9 months actually had 2 other boyfriends. Besides having him screened for STDs, my first thought is to message the mom and let he know what a skanky little POS her daughter is. I'd use polite language of course, but even still there's a part of me that thinks theres no way of doing it without looking a bit crazy.

Honestly if I was the girl’s mom and got this kind of message from a grown woman I’d go to the police.

+1. I’d also go to the school principal and file a written bullying form and ask for Mom to be put on a no contact list at school.

+ 2.

[Anonymous]

I would want to do the same thing OP, but you need to practice restraint here.

Because if you call her Mother you will be opening up a huge can of worms that can make everything else worse for your son. ❤️‍🩹

Your son will likely get his heart broken later on and as his Mother you will want to take away his pain but will need to let him handle his own affairs.
This is how he will grow ➕ evolve then learn all about life.

You would be doing him zero favors by interfering in his personal life.

Hope your son feels better soon.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She’s not doing anything wrong unless she was lying to him. Teenagers do not have to be in committed relationships. Calm down, Mom.

She was cheating. That's lying.

We don’t know that. That’s his perspective.

OP here. She was cheating. And cheating is lying. That is why my son is so upset. He 100% believed (and was told) that they were exclusive. So were the other two boys apparently. The boys have spoken and her cover completely unraveled. She is a psycho little tramp, to put it mildly.

So where is your husband ?
Or are you the dad ?
Whatttttt does he have to say ?

Either way leave that child alone..

She doesn’t want your son - move ON

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Didn't read 11 pages but here's a PSA for parents. Get your kids Gardasil early on. Not having the vaccine isn't a chastity belt and too young is a slippery slope.
People up to age 26 even if sexually active and even if already exposed to HPV can benefit. Protection against strains they were not yet exposed to.
Cervical cancer.
Anal cancer.
Throat cancer.

Do not get this vaccine. It's useless. it protects against a tiny number of STDs. Your kids should be protecting themselves from ALL stds by practicing safe sex. No need for this shot, which DOES have side effects.

Troll. https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/hpv-infection/in-depth/hpv-vaccine/art-20047292

It prevents an STD that can give your kid cancer later on.

So what? They should be protecting themselves from all the other stds they could get, too. So if they are protected from getting ONE kind of wart that MAY cause cancer, what about all the other STDs that could plague them for the rest of their lives? "Hey, I got herpes but at least I'm protected against a few strains of warts!" No thanks. Practice safe sex. Problem solved. ALL problems solved.