Tell Me Not To Message Her Mom

[Anonymous]

I came home to a distraught, heartbroken, 17 year old son last night. He found out his gf of 9 months actually had 2 other boyfriends. Besides having him screened for STDs, my first thought is to message the mom and let he know what a skanky little POS her daughter is. I'd use polite language of course, but even still there's a part of me that thinks theres no way of doing it without looking a bit crazy.

[Anonymous]

No...listen to the little angel over one shoulder and don't get involved.

[Anonymous]

She’s not doing anything wrong unless she was lying to him. Teenagers do not have to be in committed relationships. Calm down, Mom.

[Anonymous]

Well, if you’ve taught your son to use protection, he should be fine

[Anonymous]

You are correct. There is no way for you to do this without looking crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s not doing anything wrong unless she was lying to him. Teenagers do not have to be in committed relationships. Calm down, Mom.

+1
And even if she lied, they're 17. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I came home to a distraught, heartbroken, 17 year old son last night. He found out his gf of 9 months actually had 2 other boyfriends. Besides having him screened for STDs, my first thought is to message the mom and let he know what a skanky little POS her daughter is. I'd use polite language of course, but even still there's a part of me that thinks theres no way of doing it without looking a bit crazy.

I think the conversation that you need to have with your 17 YO son is, first empathy and sympathy (yes, we've all been there) and second, why it's a mistake to get sexually involved at this age. How devasting for a teen to have to have an STD test.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s not doing anything wrong unless she was lying to him. Teenagers do not have to be in committed relationships. Calm down, Mom.

What part of the words "girlfriend of 9 months" is not clear to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s not doing anything wrong unless she was lying to him. Teenagers do not have to be in committed relationships. Calm down, Mom.

She was cheating. That's lying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She’s not doing anything wrong unless she was lying to him. Teenagers do not have to be in committed relationships. Calm down, Mom.

What part of the words "girlfriend of 9 months" is not clear to you?

At 17. Get real! While it sounds like OP's son had some real feelings or at the minimum is feeling like a fool for being lied to, they're just dumb kids. Lick your wounds and move on.

[Anonymous]

Please don’t do this to your son.

Seriously, nobody wants to be the guy whose mommy yells at his girlfriend’s mommy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I came home to a distraught, heartbroken, 17 year old son last night. He found out his gf of 9 months actually had 2 other boyfriends. Besides having him screened for STDs, my first thought is to message the mom and let he know what a skanky little POS her daughter is. I'd use polite language of course, but even still there's a part of me that thinks theres no way of doing it without looking a bit crazy.

I think the conversation that you need to have with your 17 YO son is, first empathy and sympathy (yes, we've all been there) and second, why it's a mistake to get sexually involved at this age. How devasting for a teen to have to have an STD test.

This.

[Anonymous]

You sound insane, and if you were my friend, I'd tell you so, so it's not just me piling on an internet stranger. I'm saying this for your own good.

[Anonymous]

I’m guessing they didn’t have a conversation that they were only seeing one another and he really didn’t get it. I’m sorry he’s sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She’s not doing anything wrong unless she was lying to him. Teenagers do not have to be in committed relationships. Calm down, Mom.

She was cheating. That's lying.

We don’t know that. That’s his perspective.