How do you approach dating when you are broke?

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Anonymous wrote:You should not be dating in your 50s if you do not make at least 200K/yr post-tax money, and exclude child support and/or alimony.

Agree. I’m a 47 yo woman who makes 250k post tax and post all obligations. It’s not much but enough to support myself or be a good partner to an equal man. I wouldn’t date someone who can’t be a full financial partner. LTR takes money, joint expenses etc .

So teachers should not be dating. Got it.

Good teachers make decent money. I dated a college professor.

But not 200

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You should not be dating in your 50s if you do not make at least 200K/yr post-tax money, and exclude child support and/or alimony.

Agree. I’m a 47 yo woman who makes 250k post tax and post all obligations. It’s not much but enough to support myself or be a good partner to an equal man. I wouldn’t date someone who can’t be a full financial partner. LTR takes money, joint expenses etc .

So teachers should not be dating. Got it.

Good teachers make decent money. I dated a college professor.

But not 200

Actually he was making around that amount.

[Anonymous]

OP needs a woman in a similar situation -- divorced with an ex paying the bills.

[Anonymous]

Go to the movies

You get a ticket, and have your date wait by the exit door with food and drinks in her purse, and then you let her in when the lights get dark.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP needs a woman in a similar situation -- divorced with an ex paying the bills.

Nope those women will think he is broke as well. Women when it comes money think they deserve the richest possible guy. And don't ever call them broke, they will never see themselves that way.

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Anonymous wrote:The responses here are crazy.

+1. The people on this forum are from Mars I swear.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You should not be dating in your 50s if you do not make at least 200K/yr post-tax money, and exclude child support and/or alimony.

Agree. I’m a 47 yo woman who makes 250k post tax and post all obligations. It’s not much but enough to support myself or be a good partner to an equal man. I wouldn’t date someone who can’t be a full financial partner. LTR takes money, joint expenses etc .

Do you think that something can happen to you in life and you no longer make the tiny $250k post tax you are making now? Or are you guaranteed 100% to always do well? Just wondering

“Something” already happened to me. Many times, actually. One war, two family bankruptcies , 4 job losses, and divorce. I climbed back up every time. And by 50 most people even divorced one would have a safety net in the form of savings, pensions, home equity. I have that safety net so my lifestyle won’t be seriously affected by external factors, unless it’s a very serious health issue in the family or death.
OP should have built his safety nets and kids college accounts by his 50s.

You like most people making over $250k are overpaid and lucky. I make $350k and I lucked out and fully aware of that.

[Anonymous]

OP, stop reading this forum and go date whoever you want. do not try to judge dating scene in DMV by replies and discussions here. This is not real life, literally.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You should not be dating in your 50s if you do not make at least 200K/yr post-tax money, and exclude child support and/or alimony.

Agree. I’m a 47 yo woman who makes 250k post tax and post all obligations. It’s not much but enough to support myself or be a good partner to an equal man. I wouldn’t date someone who can’t be a full financial partner. LTR takes money, joint expenses etc .

Do you think that something can happen to you in life and you no longer make the tiny $250k post tax you are making now? Or are you guaranteed 100% to always do well? Just wondering

“Something” already happened to me. Many times, actually. One war, two family bankruptcies , 4 job losses, and divorce. I climbed back up every time. And by 50 most people even divorced one would have a safety net in the form of savings, pensions, home equity. I have that safety net so my lifestyle won’t be seriously affected by external factors, unless it’s a very serious health issue in the family or death.
OP should have built his safety nets and kids college accounts by his 50s.

You like most people making over $250k are overpaid and lucky. I make $350k and I lucked out and fully aware of that.

I know plenty of people making $350k and more who don't have a safety net or college savings done by their 50s. I dated a man who makes 7-figures, but because he has no boundaries around money with his parents, siblings, ex-wife, and adult kids, he will work until the day he dies. I didn't bother trying to understand the psychology behind it - he was fine to date, as he spent money freely in the present and we enjoyed ourselves in the moment. I just wouldn't want to grow old with him or merge finances ever.

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Anonymous wrote:You should not be dating in your 50s if you do not make at least 200K/yr post-tax money, and exclude child support and/or alimony.

Agree. I’m a 47 yo woman who makes 250k post tax and post all obligations. It’s not much but enough to support myself or be a good partner to an equal man. I wouldn’t date someone who can’t be a full financial partner. LTR takes money, joint expenses etc .

Do you think that something can happen to you in life and you no longer make the tiny $250k post tax you are making now? Or are you guaranteed 100% to always do well? Just wondering

“Something” already happened to me. Many times, actually. One war, two family bankruptcies , 4 job losses, and divorce. I climbed back up every time. And by 50 most people even divorced one would have a safety net in the form of savings, pensions, home equity. I have that safety net so my lifestyle won’t be seriously affected by external factors, unless it’s a very serious health issue in the family or death.
OP should have built his safety nets and kids college accounts by his 50s.

You like most people making over $250k are overpaid and lucky. I make $350k and I lucked out and fully aware of that.

I know plenty of people making $350k and more who don't have a safety net or college savings done by their 50s. I dated a man who makes 7-figures, but because he has no boundaries around money with his parents, siblings, ex-wife, and adult kids, he will work until the day he dies. I didn't bother trying to understand the psychology behind it - he was fine to date, as he spent money freely in the present and we enjoyed ourselves in the moment. I just wouldn't want to grow old with him or merge finances ever.

Yea, that’s another side of the story. I also dated men who drove new Porsche and paid $4k/month in condo fees in uber expensive apartment complex. But had no brokerage accounts …
OP is not broke, he just wastes a lot of money on his ex and at the same time stringent with new relationships. No woman would like it

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You should not be dating in your 50s if you do not make at least 200K/yr post-tax money, and exclude child support and/or alimony.

Agree. I’m a 47 yo woman who makes 250k post tax and post all obligations. It’s not much but enough to support myself or be a good partner to an equal man. I wouldn’t date someone who can’t be a full financial partner. LTR takes money, joint expenses etc .

Do you think that something can happen to you in life and you no longer make the tiny $250k post tax you are making now? Or are you guaranteed 100% to always do well? Just wondering

“Something” already happened to me. Many times, actually. One war, two family bankruptcies , 4 job losses, and divorce. I climbed back up every time. And by 50 most people even divorced one would have a safety net in the form of savings, pensions, home equity. I have that safety net so my lifestyle won’t be seriously affected by external factors, unless it’s a very serious health issue in the family or death.
OP should have built his safety nets and kids college accounts by his 50s.

You like most people making over $250k are overpaid and lucky. I make $350k and I lucked out and fully aware of that.

I know plenty of people making $350k and more who don't have a safety net or college savings done by their 50s. I dated a man who makes 7-figures, but because he has no boundaries around money with his parents, siblings, ex-wife, and adult kids, he will work until the day he dies. I didn't bother trying to understand the psychology behind it - he was fine to date, as he spent money freely in the present and we enjoyed ourselves in the moment. I just wouldn't want to grow old with him or merge finances ever.

Yea, that’s another side of the story. I also dated men who drove new Porsche and paid $4k/month in condo fees in uber expensive apartment complex. But had no brokerage accounts …
OP is not broke, he just wastes a lot of money on his ex and at the same time stringent with new relationships. No woman would like it

"A relationship is like a garden - the care and attention you invest determines what blooms."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should not be dating in your 50s if you do not make at least 200K/yr post-tax money, and exclude child support and/or alimony.

Agree. I’m a 47 yo woman who makes 250k post tax and post all obligations. It’s not much but enough to support myself or be a good partner to an equal man. I wouldn’t date someone who can’t be a full financial partner. LTR takes money, joint expenses etc .

Do you think that something can happen to you in life and you no longer make the tiny $250k post tax you are making now? Or are you guaranteed 100% to always do well? Just wondering

“Something” already happened to me. Many times, actually. One war, two family bankruptcies , 4 job losses, and divorce. I climbed back up every time. And by 50 most people even divorced one would have a safety net in the form of savings, pensions, home equity. I have that safety net so my lifestyle won’t be seriously affected by external factors, unless it’s a very serious health issue in the family or death.
OP should have built his safety nets and kids college accounts by his 50s.

You like most people making over $250k are overpaid and lucky. I make $350k and I lucked out and fully aware of that.

I know plenty of people making $350k and more who don't have a safety net or college savings done by their 50s. I dated a man who makes 7-figures, but because he has no boundaries around money with his parents, siblings, ex-wife, and adult kids, he will work until the day he dies. I didn't bother trying to understand the psychology behind it - he was fine to date, as he spent money freely in the present and we enjoyed ourselves in the moment. I just wouldn't want to grow old with him or merge finances ever.

Yea, that’s another side of the story. I also dated men who drove new Porsche and paid $4k/month in condo fees in uber expensive apartment complex. But had no brokerage accounts …
OP is not broke, he just wastes a lot of money on his ex and at the same time stringent with new relationships. No woman would like it

"A relationship is like a garden - the care and attention you invest determines what blooms."

Or in economic terms “the return is proportional to your investments”.

[Anonymous]

If you're broke, you should get on your feet before you think about dating.

Signed,
a broke woman who is not dating (so that you know this isn't gendered advice)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you're broke, you should get on your feet before you think about dating.

Signed,
a broke woman who is not dating (so that you know this isn't gendered advice)

Yea also a woman here. When I was going through major life “downs” dating was the last thing in my mind.

Not sure why OP thinks women owe him affection no matter what

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you're broke, you should get on your feet before you think about dating.

Signed,
a broke woman who is not dating (so that you know this isn't gendered advice)

Yea also a woman here. When I was going through major life “downs” dating was the last thing in my mind.

Not sure why OP thinks women owe him affection no matter what

When did he say that?