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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You should not be dating in your 50s if you do not make at least 200K/yr post-tax money, and exclude child support and/or alimony.  [/quote]

Agree. I’m a 47 yo woman who makes 250k post tax and post all obligations. It’s not much but enough to support myself or be a good partner to an equal man. I wouldn’t date someone who can’t be a full financial  partner. LTR takes money, joint expenses  etc . [/quote]

Do you think that something can happen to you in life and you no longer make the tiny $250k post tax you are making now? Or are you guaranteed 100% to always do well? Just wondering [/quote]

“Something” already happened to me. Many times, actually. One war, two family bankruptcies , 4 job losses, and divorce. I climbed back up every time. And by 50 most people even divorced one would have a safety net in the form of savings, pensions, home equity. I have that safety net so my lifestyle won’t be seriously affected by external factors, unless it’s a very serious health issue in the family or death. 
OP should have built his safety nets and kids college accounts by his 50s. [/quote]

You like most people making over $250k are overpaid and lucky. I make $350k and I lucked out and fully aware of that. [/quote]

I know plenty of people making $350k and more who don't have a safety net or college savings done by their 50s. I dated a man who makes 7-figures, but because he has no boundaries around money with his parents, siblings, ex-wife, and adult kids, he will work until the day he dies.  I didn't bother trying to understand the psychology behind it - he was fine to date, as he spent money freely in the present and we enjoyed ourselves in the moment. I just wouldn't want to grow old with him or merge finances ever. [/quote]

Yea, that’s another side of the story. I also dated men who drove new Porsche and paid $4k/month in condo fees in uber expensive apartment complex. But had no brokerage accounts … 
OP is not broke, he just wastes a lot of money on his ex and at the same time stringent with new relationships. No woman would like it [/quote]

"A relationship is like a garden - the care and attention you invest determines what blooms."[/quote]

Or in economic terms “the return is proportional to your investments”. [/quote]

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