I told husband I might want a divorce

[Anonymous]

In my experience, if they don’t step up when everything is new and special and all eyes are on them, they never will. So now you know who your DH is. Get brave and rely only on yourself, divorce or no divorce.

Okay. And what would your DH have to say about all of this?

He would likely have a strong response regarding the times he stepped up, your responses to this, and a different view of what happened during this time. Your statement that all "eyes are on them" is telling. Were you (and your family, friends, etc.) judging him while he was learning how to be a father? Was every problem, at least in part, his fault?

There are many posters on here who immediately agree with the DW poster who bashes her DH for problems (e.g., he is not stepping up!!!!) while being the first ones to blame the DH when a DH bashes his DW (e.g., she is not being unreasonable, you are being a jerk).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I have an almost 5-week-old. We had numerous discussions re expectations as a couple/parents, how our days would be structured, who assumes what responsibilities. It went well the first 3 weeks until my husband went back to work and decided he was too busy and threw our game plan out the window. It’s been a lot of complaining on his end when I ask him to do set things he agreed upon. Any extra responsibilities is met with sighs and annoyance. I’m over his attitude and lack of help.

I sat him down today and told him this is not how I want marriage to go and will strongly consider whether I want to stay in this marriage. I elaborated that he is not keeping promises or operating as a team or a loving supportive spouse. He got angry and told me I’m being irrational and that I’m spoiled and ungrateful. While it sucks we are here, I don’t feel my reasonings and feelings are irrational. Please offer some advice or help me see that maybe I’m being too harsh on him in this trying time.

From about baby to upper preschool age I was about to lose it mumtiple times with DH. it is a really hard phase, somehow I stuck it out and we made it through

[Anonymous]

Wait. Two weeks of bad ? Behavior and you want a divorce?
Two weeks?