DH Bought a Gun

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The problem with a divorce is that he will definitely keep the gun at home and you have no control of that environment when the kids are with him.

This. OP needs to check her controlling behavior while she still has influence to wield.

What's controlling is making a decision for the whole family without even raising it with his wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The problem with a divorce is that he will definitely keep the gun at home and you have no control of that environment when the kids are with him.

This. OP needs to check her controlling behavior while she still has influence to wield.

What's controlling is making a decision for the whole family without even raising it with his wife.

I hate the whole "better to ask forgiveness than permission" mentality, but this post makes me understand the value of it.

Your spouse gets to do things that upset you. You don't get to control/micromanage their ever move. He bought a locking safe at the same time; there is no threat to complain about. There's simply OP's dislike of guns. This isn't a dealbreaker for people who aren't dealbreaker-seeking people.

Calm down and discuss your feelings like a rational person instead of making OP's spouse out to be a killer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:no less dangerous than a kitchen knife. Actually knives are more deadly within 20 ft.
Gun does need to be in the safe and he can get a barrel lock as well for extra safety. If/when kids show interest you should be open to taking them to a gun instructor and having them trained properly in gun safety and operation. That will remove the excitement from it.

I’m a gun owner and I think you sound like a complete buffoon.

[Anonymous]

What kind of gun are we talking about here? It matters.

[Anonymous]

I personally think only peace officers 👮🏻‍♂️ + military members should possess a gun so my answer will be very biased.

If I had children in my household - I would be adamant that no guns be stored (even if locked up!) inside.

I personally think it was pretty crappy for your husband to purchase one w/o consulting you! 😡
I would be livid!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are being unreasonable. He’s already said he would lock it up. Many things can harm children in the house. Do you discuss anything that can harm children before you bring them in the house? Should he discuss purchasing a power drill? Should you discuss buying a curling iron in advance?

We really need background checks on curling irons.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are being unreasonable. He’s already said he would lock it up. Many things can harm children in the house. Do you discuss anything that can harm children before you bring them in the house? Should he discuss purchasing a power drill? Should you discuss buying a curling iron in advance?

We really need background checks on curling irons.

Honestly, it sounds like we need background checks on controlling spouses

[Anonymous]

I am the outlier here. I raced motorcycles until early 20s; still have a few I ride. Maybe 20 guns? Local competition shooter, not into hunting.

Kids grown and never rode a motorcycle or had interest in shooting a gun. One hates even fireworks so that was out at a young age. Others found shooting boring and too many safety rules to make it worth their while.

Shockingly they survived childhood and adolescence.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The gun lives at t the range. Woman here and don’t mind guns, they live at the range where they are used and handled properly. If he won’t do that, teach your kids gun safety and consider divorce. Then mandate and decide how hard to fight if he prioritizes the gun over his family. Husband has considered a gun bc I was attacked and I say no even with that. Parents have guns and fine w gone safety protocols including acceptable mental health protocols

What range do you patronize that provides ongoing firearm storage service?

Only a gun club would provide that service. But you are paying a lot more than the gun he bought to be a member.

Owning a gun safely is not that hard - there are things called safes you bolt into your floor, wall or both that are nearly impossible to break into…and the people that could break into it aren’t wasting their time for a $600 Glock.
No kid is getting, that is for sure.

And yet, thousands (tens?!) of children do in fact get in there each year. You are wrong for claiming 100% success when there are so so so many gun deaths per years.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The gun lives at t the range. Woman here and don’t mind guns, they live at the range where they are used and handled properly. If he won’t do that, teach your kids gun safety and consider divorce. Then mandate and decide how hard to fight if he prioritizes the gun over his family. Husband has considered a gun bc I was attacked and I say no even with that. Parents have guns and fine w gone safety protocols including acceptable mental health protocols

What range do you patronize that provides ongoing firearm storage service?

Here’s one in Ashburn:
https://xcal.com/shooting-sports/gun-storage/

Gun storage services are not uncommon in urban and suburban areas.

Thanks for the referral. I think such services are not actually that common.

You’re wrong. A simple google search would show you otherwise, but you’re hardwired to only believe what you want to. Many ranges offer this, you just don’t gaf.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The gun lives at t the range. Woman here and don’t mind guns, they live at the range where they are used and handled properly. If he won’t do that, teach your kids gun safety and consider divorce. Then mandate and decide how hard to fight if he prioritizes the gun over his family. Husband has considered a gun bc I was attacked and I say no even with that. Parents have guns and fine w gone safety protocols including acceptable mental health protocols

Actually, I did the “simple google search” before I posted and the results did not disclose “many ranges,” but rather more services for people who need to “offsite” firearms for various reasons into what might be thought of as long term storage, not something where the owner goes and uses their property and then locks it back up themself.

That’s why I asked for referrals. Instead your post is an unsupported platitude that fails to advance the discussion. Why don’t you list what your own “simple google search” disclosed?
What range do you patronize that provides ongoing firearm storage service?

Here’s one in Ashburn:
https://xcal.com/shooting-sports/gun-storage/

Gun storage services are not uncommon in urban and suburban areas.

Thanks for the referral. I think such services are not actually that common.

You’re wrong. A simple google search would show you otherwise, but you’re hardwired to only believe what you want to. Many ranges offer this, you just don’t gaf.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The gun lives at t the range. Woman here and don’t mind guns, they live at the range where they are used and handled properly. If he won’t do that, teach your kids gun safety and consider divorce. Then mandate and decide how hard to fight if he prioritizes the gun over his family. Husband has considered a gun bc I was attacked and I say no even with that. Parents have guns and fine w gone safety protocols including acceptable mental health protocols

What range do you patronize that provides ongoing firearm storage service?

Here’s one in Ashburn:
https://xcal.com/shooting-sports/gun-storage/

Gun storage services are not uncommon in urban and suburban areas.

Thanks for the referral. I think such services are not actually that common.

You’re wrong. A simple google search would show you otherwise, but you’re hardwired to only believe what you want to. Many ranges offer this, you just don’t gaf.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The gun lives at t the range. Woman here and don’t mind guns, they live at the range where they are used and handled properly. If he won’t do that, teach your kids gun safety and consider divorce. Then mandate and decide how hard to fight if he prioritizes the gun over his family. Husband has considered a gun bc I was attacked and I say no even with that. Parents have guns and fine w gone safety protocols including acceptable mental health protocols

What range do you patronize that provides ongoing firearm storage service?

Here’s one in Ashburn:
https://xcal.com/shooting-sports/gun-storage/

Gun storage services are not uncommon in urban and suburban areas.

Thanks for the referral. I think such services are not actually that common.

You’re wrong. A simple google search would show you otherwise, but you’re hardwired to only believe what you want to. Many ranges offer this, you just don’t gaf.

Perhaps instead of name calling you’d like to post the results of your own “simple google search.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The gun lives at t the range. Woman here and don’t mind guns, they live at the range where they are used and handled properly. If he won’t do that, teach your kids gun safety and consider divorce. Then mandate and decide how hard to fight if he prioritizes the gun over his family. Husband has considered a gun bc I was attacked and I say no even with that. Parents have guns and fine w gone safety protocols including acceptable mental health protocols

What range do you patronize that provides ongoing firearm storage service?

Only a gun club would provide that service. But you are paying a lot more than the gun he bought to be a member.

Owning a gun safely is not that hard - there are things called safes you bolt into your floor, wall or both that are nearly impossible to break into…and the people that could break into it aren’t wasting their time for a $600 Glock.
No kid is getting, that is for sure.

And yet, thousands (tens?!) of children do in fact get in there each year. You are wrong for claiming 100% success when there are so so so many gun deaths per years.

Listen...

There are responsible gun owners, who keep them in locked safes, and there are yahoos. Get me the figures on responsible gun owners with guns that were stolen from their locked safes by toddlers and then I'll understand and agree with your wackadoodle paranoia posting.

The dude bought a safe with the gun. The only reason there's a problem is he didn't get a permission slip from his paranoid, anti-gun wife. He's had this hobby for a while now. Why did she show zero interest? Why wasn't there a discussion upfront about where the gun boundaries were going to be when, you know, he started being interested in guns? And now she wants to whinge because he did a logical thing responsibly? And she posts it here, expecting the typical anti-gun paranoia-prone posters to immediately defend her?

OP sounds stupid. If it's important enough to freak out about, YOU have that conversation. This can't be considered a surprise, OP's spouse has been 100% upfront about it, and OP isn't a child. If it matters to her, she should've had these conversations upfront instead of getting mad at her spouse after the fact for not meeting her unspoken expectations.

It is perfectly reasonable for an adult with a gun hobby to responsibly own a gun and a safe. The problem here is OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That thing would get dropped off at the police station. You brought it home without asking me. I got rid of it without asking you. Fair's fair.

You sound like a fscking child. Grow up and learn how to have a conversation about your boundaries upfront instead of asking your family members to ask your royal permission or face your immature petty nonsense. Use your words.