I do not know how to handle adult son’s dramatic change

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She sounds abusive and a narcissist.

The mom.

What did the mom do for your diagnosis of abuse or narcissism?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lol with this lame marketing articles.

Isn’t vox bankrupt?

What about Forbes or Yahoo Finance rate in your opinion? See the articles on previous page…

[Anonymous]

No one cares about your lame article posts. Most people here are not immigrants from emerging markets living in multigenerational apartments or houses.

If your adult kid is living with you it most likely means they have mental problems. In OPs case she may be the cause of the mental problems.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Surprising! In my circle (22-30 age group, mostly from T20 schools), nobody moved back to suburbia in their childhood bedrooms. Only people moving back are ones who can't afford to live on their own or lack adult skills to survive on their own.

+1

This is usually culture and due to pressure and expectations from the parents. Seen this for decades. Whatever. Stunt your kids for as long as they’ll have you.

Is this your opinion? Many recent articles suggest young people in recent times are opting to stay a few more years with parents. May be there is shift in mindset in America going on. Why do you think your experience is the only valid or correct one?

Usually cultural or failure to launch kids who move back home. No shift in mindset in America. General data won’t help you. If you look at the actually demographics you’ll see how cultural it is or the untreated mental disorders.

[Anonymous]

Opposition denies financial and logistical advantages of multigenerational living while supporters deny mental health disadvantages. If we look neutrally, there are pros and cons but its not a one size fits all hat, works for some, fails for others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Opposition denies financial and logistical advantages of multigenerational living while supporters deny mental health disadvantages. If we look neutrally, there are pros and cons but its not a one size fits all hat, works for some, fails for others.

No “denies” it’s “cheaper” to live all your life in Mommy’s or Grandma’s house, with free cooking, cleaning, bills, and their health insurance.
Not clear what “logistics” you are referring too…. being right by mommy’s teat? Throttling down your job or uni opps to 1 city?

Now one wants or prefers the codependency, stunted development, enablement and enmeshment that come with it, in the developed world.

[Anonymous]

I loved strings attached parenting of adult children!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Opposition denies financial and logistical advantages of multigenerational living while supporters deny mental health disadvantages. If we look neutrally, there are pros and cons but its not a one size fits all hat, works for some, fails for others.

No “denies” it’s “cheaper” to live all your life in Mommy’s or Grandma’s house, with free cooking, cleaning, bills, and their health insurance.
Not clear what “logistics” you are referring too…. being right by mommy’s teat? Throttling down your job or uni opps to 1 city?

Now one wants or prefers the codependency, stunted development, enablement and enmeshment that come with it, in the developed world.

Why are you so hostile? I do not understand how you can judge multigenerational living with this broad brush of negative outcomes. What authority do you have to judge many well-adjusted families that follow this pattern? Talk about people having mental health issues...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Opposition denies financial and logistical advantages of multigenerational living while supporters deny mental health disadvantages. If we look neutrally, there are pros and cons but its not a one size fits all hat, works for some, fails for others.

No “denies” it’s “cheaper” to live all your life in Mommy’s or Grandma’s house, with free cooking, cleaning, bills, and their health insurance.
Not clear what “logistics” you are referring too…. being right by mommy’s teat? Throttling down your job or uni opps to 1 city?

Now one wants or prefers the codependency, stunted development, enablement and enmeshment that come with it, in the developed world.

Why are you so hostile? I do not understand how you can judge multigenerational living with this broad brush of negative outcomes. What authority do you have to judge many well-adjusted families that follow this pattern? Talk about people having mental health issues...

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NP. Nothing to argue about PP. We all know it's cheaper to live with your parents for years after college, especially if they don't charge you anything or make you do chores.

But to claim that young adult college grads in America prefer that is silly. To claim those that are college grads living at home are "well-adjusted" is silly as well. They are just delaying being tested and maturing - living independently, paying bills, cleaning up, living with roommates, running a budget, solving conflicts, understanding insurance or utilities or payments or credit.