DD Missed Try Outs

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I'm sorry for your families loss. My guess is that your kid was a fringe kid, not likely to make the team anyway so missing the tryouts was an easy cut. If she was a standout, probably like the 2 injured players, she'd be on the team. Unfortunately thats the way these things work.

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Anonymous wrote:If the injured girls were on the team previously that was why their spots were held.

That's not how try outs work. Being on a team one season is not a promise to be on the team another season. You'd think someone on a sports forum would know that.

This is absolutely how it works at our private, returning athletes to a team attend tryouts but are guaranteed a spot.

Really? So if the team has no seniors than any new student is prohibited from playing? If that were a universal rule all kids of military families would never be able to play a sport. Your school sucks.

Is math not your thing? Since seniors graduate each year, there are always some open spots, just not an unlimited amount. And outside of running and swimming, there are limits on roster size anyway since only some many kids can compete.

It's not math, genius. If all players are returning and none are graduating, then at PP's school there would be no open spots.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s reasonable to have a young child think “I need to email my coach” in the middle of a family member dying.

I’d call the principal and ask for a tryout but the coach will be a di$k and say she didn’t make it.

If she’s a lower clansman I’d just stick with the club team since this same coach will be there next year.

I don't think it's reasonable to have a "young child" in high school. Maybe 13 at the youngest.

She's clearly not a senior, she is 15 years old. Yes that is a young child.

I think the issue for me is that if she was too young to be expected to do it herself, then it is the parent’s responsibility. I have one kid who is old enough to communicate with his coach, that is on him. I have one kid that isn't old enough to be that independent. That doesn’t mean we don’t communicate with the coach, that means a parent is responsible.

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I think people are insane if you think I’m (or my child) is worrying about sports tryouts during the death of my parent.

Insane!

My kids are D1 athletes and as crazy as coaches are I don’t know one that expects a child or their parent to think of him 1st while a parent is dying.

Literally Insane.

No. It isn't.

"Dear Coach X, My grandfather passed away. I am attending the funeral on the day of the tryouts and I will miss them. How can I make arrangements to try out before or after the official tryouts to be evalutated?

PLayer Y"

Gee...took all of 30 seconds to write that email. An empathetic coach would deal with that by saying "sorry for your loss, let's do X for you."

At the end of the day, OP's kid probably isn't that good. Or at least not good enough to warrant making a spot on the team post tryouts. A good coach, even at public schools, know who is coming in the door with talent. If OP's kid was the 2nd coming of Mia Hamm, there is little doubt he'd make room for her.

OP, did you and/or your spouse manage to call out of work for this funeral? If so, your daughter could have contacted the coach. Stop acting so entitled or she won't make the team next year either.

When my mom died I was in a meeting so I said, I have to go my mom is being rushed to the hospital.

After that I had no contact with work for 2 weeks, my boss called for an update.

When my coworkers go MIA we reach out.

I had no expectations for my employee to reach out to me when her son died in a car accident.

We notice they aren’t at work and reach out.

You expect a high school sport coach to notice and reach out to every single student that isn't at tryouts?
In any given high school, for every sport, the majority of the student body will not be trying out. There's no way a coach can chase down every single student and find out if they weren't at tryouts because they just flat out have no interest, or if they weren't at tryouts because a relative died.

No obviously you asked what happens at work when somebody dies, and I said they rarely reach out ... there are more important things to do.

No, that PP did not ask, I did. But when my parent died when I was 24 years old, one of the first calls I made was to my boss. At my current large workplace, I have seen many announcements of the death of a colleague's parent, grandparent, or sibling, and often those announcements are the day after the death, e.g., "We are sad to report that Bob Smith's father died unexpectedly yesterday. We will keep you posted if and when we are made aware of any funeral arrangements." It is total BS that people don't call in to work. That would never fly in my work. There are all kinds of deadlines that need to be met and coverages that need to happen.

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Anonymous wrote:What's the legitimate reason?

Her grandfather died and she was at the Funeral in Ohio.

And was the coach notified before or after she missed tryouts? Was she registered to try out?

Some sports are cut sports and a student not showing up is an easy way to make a cut.

Anyone who is not an ahole piece of sh-- would cut the kid some slack and let her try out or make an accommodation. Even if they did not tell the coach, "contacting the HS lax coach" is not high on the list when a family member passes. This is not the NCAA, NFL. It's HS.

Contact the AD.

But logistically, what is the coach going to do after this extra try-out?

All the athletes have been notified that they've made the team already. Is the coach going to rescind an offer to one of those girls if OP's daughter does well at the tryout. How do you think that poor girls family would react to that scenario?

Coach is not being an a-hole. He held his tryout and he assembled his roster. This is just the way it work

Coach is being an ahole. THERE WAS A DEATH in the family, for Fs sake. Kid wasn't in Cancun.

Unless there are no spots available -and that is a valid point- there is no reason not to let the kid have a try out or practice with the team. None. Zero. And at our school, which has some very good sports teams, there are always spots available. They may not dress but they can practice, show up, and vie to dress.

Again, this is high school. There is no reasons for this type of behavior by some wanna-be Nick Saban.

I'm not the OP or the person you quoted.

At my kid's current high school, the only sports that do NOT have a limited number of spots is cross country and track. My older kids went to a different high school than my current high school student, and it was the same there. From what I've heard from friends with high school kids at other schools, it's the same at those schools too.
There just isn't an unlimited amount of spots for sports like soccer, tennis, softball, etc.

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The poster that keeps saying "just add her to the roster" either has a child that doesnt play in one of the more competitive sports, or has a child that goes to a school that doesnt routinely fill out a roster

If you have a HS of over 2,000 kids, and they have a few hundred show up to a baseball or softball or basketball tryout, there are going to be cuts.

You can't simply "add a person to the roster after tryouts". It would be incredibly unfair to all the kids that came to the tryout, did their best, but didn't make the team.

And the alternative (cutting an athlete that has already made the team) is even worst.

The only sport that has serious restriction for roster is Basketball and since that is not a spring sport we are not talking about basketball.

I can bring up rosters from your HS from each year and show you there is not an exact number.

What is your school?

How are you going to bring up past rosters from pp (that's not me)'s school?
MaxPreps isn't always 100% accurate, FYI.

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Anonymous wrote:If the injured girls were on the team previously that was why their spots were held.

That's not how try outs work. Being on a team one season is not a promise to be on the team another season. You'd think someone on a sports forum would know that.

I'm sure someone on the sports forum would know that is how it works if they were starters.

Get off your high horse.

Nope, still isnt how it works. "Starters" have crap seasons all the time.

Bless your heart. Do you have kids who have actually played high school team sports? Of course that how it works. My kid was offered a sport on his high school basketball team in March of his eighth grade year. Sure he went to tryouts, but they were a formality. That’s how tryouts work.

Your kid's HS obviously has a sh*tty team if they are offering 13 year olds a spot.

Dude...you really, really don't know what you are talking about. Prior to recent NCAA rule changes, there were 13 year olds getting D1 offers in basketball.

The DMV is a basketball powerhouse and all the coaches are salivating over the top AAU prospects. Gonzaga (top 10 in the country) , Paul VI (#2 in the country), SJC, Sidwell, Bullis (top 20 in the country), Jackson-Reed (top 15 in the country)...those coaches are following 13 year old AAU leagues closely.

Your comment shows such a glaring ignorance that it is shocking you would put it to words.

LOL, buddy. Little did we all know we were talking to the dad of the next LeBron.

I pity your kid.

It’s weird how so many people on DCUM post confidently about things they know absolutely nothing about, then react nastily when it’s politely pointed out.

PP, my kid played for one of these schools. It was a huge PITA because you are expected to live and breathe basketball 11 months a year.l and grades are an afterthought for coaches. But the reality of coaches knowing who will be on the team long before tryouts is simply reality. You insulting the folks who point that out to you doesn’t change it.

On the other hand, several kids my son played with are getting NIL money now and playing on TV a lot, and they will play professionally overseas after school, which I think they will enjoy.

Where did you imagine that NBA and NCAA players come from? Lots of them come from around here.

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Anonymous wrote:What's the legitimate reason?

Her grandfather died and she was at the Funeral in Ohio.

And was the coach notified before or after she missed tryouts? Was she registered to try out?

Some sports are cut sports and a student not showing up is an easy way to make a cut.

Anyone who is not an ahole piece of sh-- would cut the kid some slack and let her try out or make an accommodation. Even if they did not tell the coach, "contacting the HS lax coach" is not high on the list when a family member passes. This is not the NCAA, NFL. It's HS.

Contact the AD.

But logistically, what is the coach going to do after this extra try-out?

All the athletes have been notified that they've made the team already. Is the coach going to rescind an offer to one of those girls if OP's daughter does well at the tryout. How do you think that poor girls family would react to that scenario?

Coach is not being an a-hole. He held his tryout and he assembled his roster. This is just the way it work

Coach is being an ahole. THERE WAS A DEATH in the family, for Fs sake. Kid wasn't in Cancun.

Unless there are no spots available -and that is a valid point- there is no reason not to let the kid have a try out or practice with the team. None. Zero. And at our school, which has some very good sports teams, there are always spots available. They may not dress but they can practice, show up, and vie to dress.

Again, this is high school. There is no reasons for this type of behavior by some wanna-be Nick Saban.

I'm not the OP or the person you quoted.

At my kid's current high school, the only sports that do NOT have a limited number of spots is cross country and track. My older kids went to a different high school than my current high school student, and it was the same there. From what I've heard from friends with high school kids at other schools, it's the same at those schools too.
There just isn't an unlimited amount of spots for sports like soccer, tennis, softball, etc.

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The poster that keeps saying "just add her to the roster" either has a child that doesnt play in one of the more competitive sports, or has a child that goes to a school that doesnt routinely fill out a roster

If you have a HS of over 2,000 kids, and they have a few hundred show up to a baseball or softball or basketball tryout, there are going to be cuts.

You can't simply "add a person to the roster after tryouts". It would be incredibly unfair to all the kids that came to the tryout, did their best, but didn't make the team.

And the alternative (cutting an athlete that has already made the team) is even worst.

The only sport that has serious restriction for roster is Basketball and since that is not a spring sport we are not talking about basketball.

I can bring up rosters from your HS from each year and show you there is not an exact number.

What is your school?

I'm the pp that just said MaxPreps isn't 100% accurate.

Also, it might be the case at your kid's school that the only sport with a serious restriction is basketball, but that's not the case at every school.
In some cases, it's about safety. Sports that require helmets (baseball, football) can't just add people to the roster if they don't have enough safety equipment, because you can't even just practice without it.

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Anonymous wrote:For a 100% legitimate reason. She reached out to the coach, briefly explained the situation, and asked if there was a way to 'make up' the try out, maybe practice for the first two days as an audition.

Coach said simply, "Sorry, no. Roster is full"

Well, today DD came home from school and explained that two spots were 'held' for two other girls who are currently injured and unable to try out.

Would you contact the AD and Principal?

Is this for varsity? is she still able to be on the JV team?

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Anonymous wrote:What's the legitimate reason?

Her grandfather died and she was at the Funeral in Ohio.

And was the coach notified before or after she missed tryouts? Was she registered to try out?

Some sports are cut sports and a student not showing up is an easy way to make a cut.

Anyone who is not an ahole piece of sh-- would cut the kid some slack and let her try out or make an accommodation. Even if they did not tell the coach, "contacting the HS lax coach" is not high on the list when a family member passes. This is not the NCAA, NFL. It's HS.

Contact the AD.

But logistically, what is the coach going to do after this extra try-out?

All the athletes have been notified that they've made the team already. Is the coach going to rescind an offer to one of those girls if OP's daughter does well at the tryout. How do you think that poor girls family would react to that scenario?

Coach is not being an a-hole. He held his tryout and he assembled his roster. This is just the way it work

Coach is being an ahole. THERE WAS A DEATH in the family, for Fs sake. Kid wasn't in Cancun.

Unless there are no spots available -and that is a valid point- there is no reason not to let the kid have a try out or practice with the team. None. Zero. And at our school, which has some very good sports teams, there are always spots available. They may not dress but they can practice, show up, and vie to dress.

Again, this is high school. There is no reasons for this type of behavior by some wanna-be Nick Saban.

I'm not the OP or the person you quoted.

At my kid's current high school, the only sports that do NOT have a limited number of spots is cross country and track. My older kids went to a different high school than my current high school student, and it was the same there. From what I've heard from friends with high school kids at other schools, it's the same at those schools too.
There just isn't an unlimited amount of spots for sports like soccer, tennis, softball, etc.

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The poster that keeps saying "just add her to the roster" either has a child that doesnt play in one of the more competitive sports, or has a child that goes to a school that doesnt routinely fill out a roster

If you have a HS of over 2,000 kids, and they have a few hundred show up to a baseball or softball or basketball tryout, there are going to be cuts.

You can't simply "add a person to the roster after tryouts". It would be incredibly unfair to all the kids that came to the tryout, did their best, but didn't make the team.

And the alternative (cutting an athlete that has already made the team) is even worst.

The only sport that has serious restriction for roster is Basketball and since that is not a spring sport we are not talking about basketball.

I can bring up rosters from your HS from each year and show you there is not an exact number.

What is your school?

Leagues (e.g. DCIAA) place a hard limit on the number of kids allowed to be on the team roster, and teams are not allowed to add kids except by moving kids up (e.g. JV to varsity). Competing coaches would protest if a team tried to violate these rules.

Sorry, but you clearly know nothing at all about sports.

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Anonymous wrote:What's the legitimate reason?

Her grandfather died and she was at the Funeral in Ohio.

And was the coach notified before or after she missed tryouts? Was she registered to try out?

Some sports are cut sports and a student not showing up is an easy way to make a cut.

Anyone who is not an ahole piece of sh-- would cut the kid some slack and let her try out or make an accommodation. Even if they did not tell the coach, "contacting the HS lax coach" is not high on the list when a family member passes. This is not the NCAA, NFL. It's HS.

Contact the AD.

But logistically, what is the coach going to do after this extra try-out?

All the athletes have been notified that they've made the team already. Is the coach going to rescind an offer to one of those girls if OP's daughter does well at the tryout. How do you think that poor girls family would react to that scenario?

Coach is not being an a-hole. He held his tryout and he assembled his roster. This is just the way it work

Coach is being an ahole. THERE WAS A DEATH in the family, for Fs sake. Kid wasn't in Cancun.

Unless there are no spots available -and that is a valid point- there is no reason not to let the kid have a try out or practice with the team. None. Zero. And at our school, which has some very good sports teams, there are always spots available. They may not dress but they can practice, show up, and vie to dress.

Again, this is high school. There is no reasons for this type of behavior by some wanna-be Nick Saban.

I'm not the OP or the person you quoted.

At my kid's current high school, the only sports that do NOT have a limited number of spots is cross country and track. My older kids went to a different high school than my current high school student, and it was the same there. From what I've heard from friends with high school kids at other schools, it's the same at those schools too.
There just isn't an unlimited amount of spots for sports like soccer, tennis, softball, etc.

+1

The poster that keeps saying "just add her to the roster" either has a child that doesnt play in one of the more competitive sports, or has a child that goes to a school that doesnt routinely fill out a roster

If you have a HS of over 2,000 kids, and they have a few hundred show up to a baseball or softball or basketball tryout, there are going to be cuts.

You can't simply "add a person to the roster after tryouts". It would be incredibly unfair to all the kids that came to the tryout, did their best, but didn't make the team.

And the alternative (cutting an athlete that has already made the team) is even worst.

The only sport that has serious restriction for roster is Basketball and since that is not a spring sport we are not talking about basketball.

I can bring up rosters from your HS from each year and show you there is not an exact number.

What is your school?

Leagues (e.g. DCIAA) place a hard limit on the number of kids allowed to be on the team roster, and teams are not allowed to add kids except by moving kids up (e.g. JV to varsity). Competing coaches would protest if a team tried to violate these rules.

Sorry, but you clearly know nothing at all about sports.

It's nuts how adamant and loud and confident PP has been when they clearly have no experience with competitive sports at a large school.

Do you think a HS varsity baseball team is going to carry 60 kids?

Heck, I think the limit is 21 or 22, which is already high.

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Anonymous wrote:If the injured girls were on the team previously that was why their spots were held.

That's not how try outs work. Being on a team one season is not a promise to be on the team another season. You'd think someone on a sports forum would know that.

I'm sure someone on the sports forum would know that is how it works if they were starters.

Get off your high horse.

Nope, still isnt how it works. "Starters" have crap seasons all the time.

Bless your heart. Do you have kids who have actually played high school team sports? Of course that how it works. My kid was offered a sport on his high school basketball team in March of his eighth grade year. Sure he went to tryouts, but they were a formality. That’s how tryouts work.

Your kid's HS obviously has a sh*tty team if they are offering 13 year olds a spot.

Dude...you really, really don't know what you are talking about. Prior to recent NCAA rule changes, there were 13 year olds getting D1 offers in basketball.

The DMV is a basketball powerhouse and all the coaches are salivating over the top AAU prospects. Gonzaga (top 10 in the country) , Paul VI (#2 in the country), SJC, Sidwell, Bullis (top 20 in the country), Jackson-Reed (top 15 in the country)...those coaches are following 13 year old AAU leagues closely.

Your comment shows such a glaring ignorance that it is shocking you would put it to words.

LOL, buddy. Little did we all know we were talking to the dad of the next LeBron.

I pity your kid.

It’s weird how so many people on DCUM post confidently about things they know absolutely nothing about, then react nastily when it’s politely pointed out.

PP, my kid played for one of these schools. It was a huge PITA because you are expected to live and breathe basketball 11 months a year.l and grades are an afterthought for coaches. But the reality of coaches knowing who will be on the team long before tryouts is simply reality. You insulting the folks who point that out to you doesn’t change it.

On the other hand, several kids my son played with are getting NIL money now and playing on TV a lot, and they will play professionally overseas after school, which I think they will enjoy.

Where did you imagine that NBA and NCAA players come from? Lots of them come from around here.

It's living in Texas and not knowing that Texas football is insane. You don't even have to have a kid playing it to still know how big of a deal it is.

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Anonymous wrote:For a 100% legitimate reason. She reached out to the coach, briefly explained the situation, and asked if there was a way to 'make up' the try out, maybe practice for the first two days as an audition.

Coach said simply, "Sorry, no. Roster is full"

Well, today DD came home from school and explained that two spots were 'held' for two other girls who are currently injured and unable to try out.

Would you contact the AD and Principal?

Were those 2 girls present at the try-out, even though they couldn't participate?

Did those 2 girls play on the team the year before, so coach had an understanding of their abilities?

Did those 2 girls explain to the coach prior to the workout why they would be unable to participate?

I bet the answer is Yes, to all 3 of those questions.

I'm sorry for you and your daughter's loss. But the coach is in the right here. Contacting the AD or Principal would really send the wrong message to your DD

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Anonymous wrote:What's the legitimate reason?

Her grandfather died and she was at the Funeral in Ohio.

And was the coach notified before or after she missed tryouts? Was she registered to try out?

Some sports are cut sports and a student not showing up is an easy way to make a cut.

Anyone who is not an ahole piece of sh-- would cut the kid some slack and let her try out or make an accommodation. Even if they did not tell the coach, "contacting the HS lax coach" is not high on the list when a family member passes. This is not the NCAA, NFL. It's HS.

Contact the AD.

But logistically, what is the coach going to do after this extra try-out?

All the athletes have been notified that they've made the team already. Is the coach going to rescind an offer to one of those girls if OP's daughter does well at the tryout. How do you think that poor girls family would react to that scenario?

Coach is not being an a-hole. He held his tryout and he assembled his roster. This is just the way it work

Coach is being an ahole. THERE WAS A DEATH in the family, for Fs sake. Kid wasn't in Cancun.

Unless there are no spots available -and that is a valid point- there is no reason not to let the kid have a try out or practice with the team. None. Zero. And at our school, which has some very good sports teams, there are always spots available. They may not dress but they can practice, show up, and vie to dress.

Again, this is high school. There is no reasons for this type of behavior by some wanna-be Nick Saban.

I'm not the OP or the person you quoted.

At my kid's current high school, the only sports that do NOT have a limited number of spots is cross country and track. My older kids went to a different high school than my current high school student, and it was the same there. From what I've heard from friends with high school kids at other schools, it's the same at those schools too.
There just isn't an unlimited amount of spots for sports like soccer, tennis, softball, etc.

+1

The poster that keeps saying "just add her to the roster" either has a child that doesnt play in one of the more competitive sports, or has a child that goes to a school that doesnt routinely fill out a roster

If you have a HS of over 2,000 kids, and they have a few hundred show up to a baseball or softball or basketball tryout, there are going to be cuts.

You can't simply "add a person to the roster after tryouts". It would be incredibly unfair to all the kids that came to the tryout, did their best, but didn't make the team.

And the alternative (cutting an athlete that has already made the team) is even worst.

The only sport that has serious restriction for roster is Basketball and since that is not a spring sport we are not talking about basketball.

I can bring up rosters from your HS from each year and show you there is not an exact number.

What is your school?

+1. West Potomac Baseball roster has varied by 13 spots in the last 4 years.

A roster is never full.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s reasonable to have a young child think “I need to email my coach” in the middle of a family member dying.

I’d call the principal and ask for a tryout but the coach will be a di$k and say she didn’t make it.

If she’s a lower clansman I’d just stick with the club team since this same coach will be there next year.

I don't think it's reasonable to have a "young child" in high school. Maybe 13 at the youngest.

She's clearly not a senior, she is 15 years old. Yes that is a young child.

I think the issue for me is that if she was too young to be expected to do it herself, then it is the parent’s responsibility. I have one kid who is old enough to communicate with his coach, that is on him. I have one kid that isn't old enough to be that independent. That doesn’t mean we don’t communicate with the coach, that means a parent is responsible.

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I think people are insane if you think I’m (or my child) is worrying about sports tryouts during the death of my parent.

Insane!

My kids are D1 athletes and as crazy as coaches are I don’t know one that expects a child or their parent to think of him 1st while a parent is dying.

Literally Insane.

No. It isn't.

"Dear Coach X, My grandfather passed away. I am attending the funeral on the day of the tryouts and I will miss them. How can I make arrangements to try out before or after the official tryouts to be evalutated?

PLayer Y"

Gee...took all of 30 seconds to write that email. An empathetic coach would deal with that by saying "sorry for your loss, let's do X for you."

At the end of the day, OP's kid probably isn't that good. Or at least not good enough to warrant making a spot on the team post tryouts. A good coach, even at public schools, know who is coming in the door with talent. If OP's kid was the 2nd coming of Mia Hamm, there is little doubt he'd make room for her.

OP, did you and/or your spouse manage to call out of work for this funeral? If so, your daughter could have contacted the coach. Stop acting so entitled or she won't make the team next year either.

When my mom died I was in a meeting so I said, I have to go my mom is being rushed to the hospital.

After that I had no contact with work for 2 weeks, my boss called for an update.

When my coworkers go MIA we reach out.

I had no expectations for my employee to reach out to me when her son died in a car accident.

We notice they aren’t at work and reach out.

You expect a high school sport coach to notice and reach out to every single student that isn't at tryouts?
In any given high school, for every sport, the majority of the student body will not be trying out. There's no way a coach can chase down every single student and find out if they weren't at tryouts because they just flat out have no interest, or if they weren't at tryouts because a relative died.

No obviously you asked what happens at work when somebody dies, and I said they rarely reach out ... there are more important things to do.

No, that PP did not ask, I did. But when my parent died when I was 24 years old, one of the first calls I made was to my boss. At my current large workplace, I have seen many announcements of the death of a colleague's parent, grandparent, or sibling, and often those announcements are the day after the death, e.g., "We are sad to report that Bob Smith's father died unexpectedly yesterday. We will keep you posted if and when we are made aware of any funeral arrangements." It is total BS that people don't call in to work. That would never fly in my work. There are all kinds of deadlines that need to be met and coverages that need to happen.

I can't tell if you're trolling or if you think the deadline on your team-led TPS report is more important than the mental health of a woman that just lost a kid.

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Anonymous wrote:What's the legitimate reason?

Her grandfather died and she was at the Funeral in Ohio.

And was the coach notified before or after she missed tryouts? Was she registered to try out?

Some sports are cut sports and a student not showing up is an easy way to make a cut.

Anyone who is not an ahole piece of sh-- would cut the kid some slack and let her try out or make an accommodation. Even if they did not tell the coach, "contacting the HS lax coach" is not high on the list when a family member passes. This is not the NCAA, NFL. It's HS.

Contact the AD.

But logistically, what is the coach going to do after this extra try-out?

All the athletes have been notified that they've made the team already. Is the coach going to rescind an offer to one of those girls if OP's daughter does well at the tryout. How do you think that poor girls family would react to that scenario?

Coach is not being an a-hole. He held his tryout and he assembled his roster. This is just the way it work

Coach is being an ahole. THERE WAS A DEATH in the family, for Fs sake. Kid wasn't in Cancun.

Unless there are no spots available -and that is a valid point- there is no reason not to let the kid have a try out or practice with the team. None. Zero. And at our school, which has some very good sports teams, there are always spots available. They may not dress but they can practice, show up, and vie to dress.

Again, this is high school. There is no reasons for this type of behavior by some wanna-be Nick Saban.

I'm not the OP or the person you quoted.

At my kid's current high school, the only sports that do NOT have a limited number of spots is cross country and track. My older kids went to a different high school than my current high school student, and it was the same there. From what I've heard from friends with high school kids at other schools, it's the same at those schools too.
There just isn't an unlimited amount of spots for sports like soccer, tennis, softball, etc.

+1

The poster that keeps saying "just add her to the roster" either has a child that doesnt play in one of the more competitive sports, or has a child that goes to a school that doesnt routinely fill out a roster

If you have a HS of over 2,000 kids, and they have a few hundred show up to a baseball or softball or basketball tryout, there are going to be cuts.

You can't simply "add a person to the roster after tryouts". It would be incredibly unfair to all the kids that came to the tryout, did their best, but didn't make the team.

And the alternative (cutting an athlete that has already made the team) is even worst.

The only sport that has serious restriction for roster is Basketball and since that is not a spring sport we are not talking about basketball.

I can bring up rosters from your HS from each year and show you there is not an exact number.

What is your school?

+1. West Potomac Baseball roster has varied by 13 spots in the last 4 years.

A roster is never full.

Ah… now I get it. You’re trolling. No one actually thinks that they can reason from one team at one high school to every sport/school.

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I don't understand how this is so hard to grasp.

Let's say grandpa died on Thursday and the funeral was Tuesday. While the student was putting her school work in order and talking to teachers about missing work Mon-Thursday the next school week, she should have also realized that soccer tryouts started Monday. So an email on Friday or over the weekend, or even Monday morning explaining the funeral seems reasonable. If my kid had mentioned "hey soccer tryouts start Monday, what should I do?" I would have said "email the coach now". Try outs are very time sensitive!

But to wait until the next Friday, after tryouts are over, to then reach out and ask. Eh. It's much more of an ask.

Also, I have coached HS sports. Dealing with entitled children makes it incredibly hard. They acted like they were doing me a favor by being there and I got paid pennies for the amount of hours that I put in.