What do you think of adults who never learned to drive?

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Anonymous wrote:I think that they must have a reason and that their life is already difficult enough without my judgment on top of it.

How much do you go out of your way to help these people with difficult lives? Like would you drive them everywhere, all the time?

How many of "those people" do you help out? Ever?

I doubt you do because if you did you wouldn't be on here bi&&&ng about it. IF not, it's none of your business how they get around.

I frequently drive my mooching friends around.

Notice you didn't answer the question.

I'm not the one judging them or belittling them, moron. I am an immigrant who has a parent that never learned how to drive so I extend this kid of help all the time. now you? How often do you drive people who can't drive?

to state again: "I frequently drive my mooching friends around."

But you seem to be coating the initial question with a lot of assumptions about what I'm asking. Why so escalated about asking about your limits?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think that they must have a reason and that their life is already difficult enough without my judgment on top of it.

How much do you go out of your way to help these people with difficult lives? Like would you drive them everywhere, all the time?

How many of "those people" do you help out? Ever?

I doubt you do because if you did you wouldn't be on here bi&&&ng about it. IF not, it's none of your business how they get around.

I frequently drive my mooching friends around.

Notice you didn't answer the question.

I'm not the one judging them or belittling them, moron. I am an immigrant who has a parent that never learned how to drive so I extend this kid of help all the time. now you? How often do you drive people who can't drive?

to state again: "I frequently drive my mooching friends around."

But you seem to be coating the initial question with a lot of assumptions about what I'm asking. Why so escalated about asking about your limits?

So stop "helping" your mooching friends if you're going to be an ass about it. Simple.

If you can't help with an open heart, don't help at all.

[Anonymous]

So for all of you who claim this is pathetic/immature/irrational behaviour: are you prepared to lend your car to an adult in their 40s who doesn’t know how to drive son they can learn? Are you prepared to patiently sit with them and teach them to drive? Are you prepared to pay the multiple thousands of dollars it would cost if someone doesn’t lend them a car/teach them for free?

Demanding others provide rides is immature and rude for sure but not having the ability to drive isn’t an issue in my opinion. To me it’s like people who decide to be vegan or only make their own bread when bakeries exist or whatever: they’re making their own lives harder but unless they’re making it my problem, I don’t see the issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So for all of you who claim this is pathetic/immature/irrational behaviour: are you prepared to lend your car to an adult in their 40s who doesn’t know how to drive son they can learn? Are you prepared to patiently sit with them and teach them to drive? Are you prepared to pay the multiple thousands of dollars it would cost if someone doesn’t lend them a car/teach them for free?

Demanding others provide rides is immature and rude for sure but not having the ability to drive isn’t an issue in my opinion. To me it’s like people who decide to be vegan or only make their own bread when bakeries exist or whatever: they’re making their own lives harder but unless they’re making it my problem, I don’t see the issue.

I don't have a car, and think people who don't know how to drive should go ahead and continue to rely on service providers; they should take classes to learn to drive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So for all of you who claim this is pathetic/immature/irrational behaviour: are you prepared to lend your car to an adult in their 40s who doesn’t know how to drive son they can learn? Are you prepared to patiently sit with them and teach them to drive? Are you prepared to pay the multiple thousands of dollars it would cost if someone doesn’t lend them a car/teach them for free?

Demanding others provide rides is immature and rude for sure but not having the ability to drive isn’t an issue in my opinion. To me it’s like people who decide to be vegan or only make their own bread when bakeries exist or whatever: they’re making their own lives harder but unless they’re making it my problem, I don’t see the issue.

Is anyone asking you to do any of this? If not, STFU.

[Anonymous]

I think that most people who learned how to drive had access to cars, lessons, and parental support as teens, and probably lived in places that required driving to get around. I think that adults who never learned to drive probably had less access to such resources early on, or had less need for them.

I also think that some people shouldn’t be on the road, so good on them if they recognize this about themselves and are making this a safer world for all of us.

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Anonymous wrote:So for all of you who claim this is pathetic/immature/irrational behaviour: are you prepared to lend your car to an adult in their 40s who doesn’t know how to drive son they can learn? Are you prepared to patiently sit with them and teach them to drive? Are you prepared to pay the multiple thousands of dollars it would cost if someone doesn’t lend them a car/teach them for free?

The above is just more weaponized incompetence. If a person can afford ubers everywhere, they can get it together to pay for lessons.

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Anonymous wrote:In a family with small children, I'd think it is imperative for parents to be able to drive. Just in the event of emergencies. I think that actually NOT knowing how to do that is like not knowing CPR.

There’s a fun can of worms. I guarantee most “functioning” adults (including the judgmental cows in this thread) have NEVER taken a course in CPR.

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Anonymous wrote:My friend's DH is like this and it frankly makes me think less of him. He grew up in NYC, fine, but is now married in suburbia with a kid. He refuses to learn and is happy for his wife to bear the burden of shuttling the kid places, running errands, taking him to his own doctor's appointments, etc. Occasionally he'll take an Uber. He does have a well-paying job that takes care of most of the family income but is also feckless in the kitchen, with cleaning, and with parenting and his willingness to abdicate all of this stuff onto his wife and not bother to learn to drive so she doesn't have to act as his chauffeur in addition to everything is is kind of pathetic. I can't understand being content with that kind of arrangement but they do their way. Yes, learning to drive is scary. Too bad.

Not a chance in h3ll would I put up with that situation. Dude would be walking to his appointments or not going.

He’d probably enjoy his long walks because he would be away from you.

Well my husband is a functioning adult who can drive. You seem might defensive.

Eh, my husband can drive. I can drive. I just honestly do not give a single eff if other people cannot or choose not to drive. It is none of my business. Newsflash: it’s also none of YOUR business.

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Anonymous wrote:I think they grew up in a city. Then I think nothing more of it.

+ 1. If I lived in NYC I wouldn't learn to drive.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think that they must have a reason and that their life is already difficult enough without my judgment on top of it.

How much do you go out of your way to help these people with difficult lives? Like would you drive them everywhere, all the time?

How many of "those people" do you help out? Ever?

I doubt you do because if you did you wouldn't be on here bi&&&ng about it. IF not, it's none of your business how they get around.

I frequently drive my mooching friends around.

Notice you didn't answer the question.

I'm not the one judging them or belittling them, moron. I am an immigrant who has a parent that never learned how to drive so I extend this kid of help all the time. now you? How often do you drive people who can't drive?

to state again: "I frequently drive my mooching friends around."

But you seem to be coating the initial question with a lot of assumptions about what I'm asking. Why so escalated about asking about your limits?

So stop "helping" your mooching friends if you're going to be an ass about it. Simple.

If you can't help with an open heart, don't help at all.

This is probably the only way she is able to keep friends. She is so insufferable that if they didn’t need her for driving they’d most likely have nothing to do with her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In a family with small children, I'd think it is imperative for parents to be able to drive. Just in the event of emergencies. I think that actually NOT knowing how to do that is like not knowing CPR.

There’s a fun can of worms. I guarantee most “functioning” adults (including the judgmental cows in this thread) have NEVER taken a course in CPR.

Weird. I think it is pretty standard around here. I recall taking a class related to breastfeeding when I was pregnant, and even there they did a CPR primer and recommended more extended classes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In a family with small children, I'd think it is imperative for parents to be able to drive. Just in the event of emergencies. I think that actually NOT knowing how to do that is like not knowing CPR.

There’s a fun can of worms. I guarantee most “functioning” adults (including the judgmental cows in this thread) have NEVER taken a course in CPR.

I personally wouldn't want to parent a child with someone who didn't know how to drive. (Different from choosing not to drive regularly, or being unable to drive.) To me, it is a safety issue. But I also grew up in a rural area where you would get to a hospital faster by driving versus waiting for an ambulance, and where there weren't taxis (in the days before uber).

Now I live in DC, but have similar concerns to being able to get to the hospital or urgent care quickly (largely due the fact that 911 doesn't get answered or ambulances take forever).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think that they must have a reason and that their life is already difficult enough without my judgment on top of it.

How much do you go out of your way to help these people with difficult lives? Like would you drive them everywhere, all the time?

How many of "those people" do you help out? Ever?

I doubt you do because if you did you wouldn't be on here bi&&&ng about it. IF not, it's none of your business how they get around.

I frequently drive my mooching friends around.

Notice you didn't answer the question.

I'm not the one judging them or belittling them, moron. I am an immigrant who has a parent that never learned how to drive so I extend this kid of help all the time. now you? How often do you drive people who can't drive?

to state again: "I frequently drive my mooching friends around."

But you seem to be coating the initial question with a lot of assumptions about what I'm asking. Why so escalated about asking about your limits?

So stop "helping" your mooching friends if you're going to be an ass about it. Simple.

If you can't help with an open heart, don't help at all.

This is probably the only way she is able to keep friends. She is so insufferable that if they didn’t need her for driving they’d most likely have nothing to do with her.

Methinks you might be a mooching friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think that they must have a reason and that their life is already difficult enough without my judgment on top of it.

How much do you go out of your way to help these people with difficult lives? Like would you drive them everywhere, all the time?

How many of "those people" do you help out? Ever?

I doubt you do because if you did you wouldn't be on here bi&&&ng about it. IF not, it's none of your business how they get around.

I frequently drive my mooching friends around.

Notice you didn't answer the question.

I'm not the one judging them or belittling them, moron. I am an immigrant who has a parent that never learned how to drive so I extend this kid of help all the time. now you? How often do you drive people who can't drive?

to state again: "I frequently drive my mooching friends around."

But you seem to be coating the initial question with a lot of assumptions about what I'm asking. Why so escalated about asking about your limits?

So stop "helping" your mooching friends if you're going to be an ass about it. Simple.

If you can't help with an open heart, don't help at all.

This is probably the only way she is able to keep friends. She is so insufferable that if they didn’t need her for driving they’d most likely have nothing to do with her.

Methinks you might be a mooching friend.

No one can mooch off of you unless you let them so I guess you're the dumb one.