What do you think of adults who never learned to drive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The next time my spouse wants me to help with housework I will say it gives me anxiety and that there may be irreparable harm to others if I do the housework. That'll do it.

So go ahead and do that. (I mean, cars are actually dangerous machines that can and do kill people every single day, including children, but I’m sure you think your housework quip is super clever.)

I drive every day, but I also prefer to NOT have people who are uncomfortable driving on the roads potentially endangering the lives of my kids. I also don’t find people who are uncomfortable with doing their own electrical or gas line work juvenile or incompetent.

It’s bizarre how triggered some of you are about other people’s marriages.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My friend's DH is like this and it frankly makes me think less of him. He grew up in NYC, fine, but is now married in suburbia with a kid. He refuses to learn and is happy for his wife to bear the burden of shuttling the kid places, running errands, taking him to his own doctor's appointments, etc. Occasionally he'll take an Uber. He does have a well-paying job that takes care of most of the family income but is also feckless in the kitchen, with cleaning, and with parenting and his willingness to abdicate all of this stuff onto his wife and not bother to learn to drive so she doesn't have to act as his chauffeur in addition to everything is is kind of pathetic. I can't understand being content with that kind of arrangement but they do their way. Yes, learning to drive is scary. Too bad.

Not a chance in h3ll would I put up with that situation. Dude would be walking to his appointments or not going.

He’d probably enjoy his long walks because he would be away from you.

[Anonymous]

There’s something seriously lacking in an adult who has never taken the initiative to learn how to drive in a society where doing so is basically a universal mandatory thing.

It’s pretty much akin to an adult refusing to wear shoes, ever. An indicator of much deeper issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My friend's DH is like this and it frankly makes me think less of him. He grew up in NYC, fine, but is now married in suburbia with a kid. He refuses to learn and is happy for his wife to bear the burden of shuttling the kid places, running errands, taking him to his own doctor's appointments, etc. Occasionally he'll take an Uber. He does have a well-paying job that takes care of most of the family income but is also feckless in the kitchen, with cleaning, and with parenting and his willingness to abdicate all of this stuff onto his wife and not bother to learn to drive so she doesn't have to act as his chauffeur in addition to everything is is kind of pathetic. I can't understand being content with that kind of arrangement but they do their way. Yes, learning to drive is scary. Too bad.

Not a chance in h3ll would I put up with that situation. Dude would be walking to his appointments or not going.

He’d probably enjoy his long walks because he would be away from you.

Well my husband is a functioning adult who can drive. You seem might defensive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one cares

+1

I have a friend who just got her license at 40. She grew up in Baltimore, moved to NY after college, and then settled in DC. She always used uber or rode her bike. She never asked me to take her anywhere. Well, ok, she did; she would ask to be dropped off at the metro if we were both heading home at the same time and we weren't within walking distance of one. I didn't care; she was a friend, and I had never had a problem doing something like that.

[Anonymous]

In a family with small children, I'd think it is imperative for parents to be able to drive. Just in the event of emergencies. I think that actually NOT knowing how to do that is like not knowing CPR.

[Anonymous]

More than half of my DC’s drivers Ed class from informal parent conversations with their c parents hasn’t even taken the permit test. They completed their class 1st quarter and they’re all 16 now. This is NOVA.

[Anonymous]

I think that they must have a reason and that their life is already difficult enough without my judgment on top of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think that they must have a reason and that their life is already difficult enough without my judgment on top of it.

How much do you go out of your way to help these people with difficult lives? Like would you drive them everywhere, all the time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My friend's DH is like this and it frankly makes me think less of him. He grew up in NYC, fine, but is now married in suburbia with a kid. He refuses to learn and is happy for his wife to bear the burden of shuttling the kid places, running errands, taking him to his own doctor's appointments, etc. Occasionally he'll take an Uber. He does have a well-paying job that takes care of most of the family income but is also feckless in the kitchen, with cleaning, and with parenting and his willingness to abdicate all of this stuff onto his wife and not bother to learn to drive so she doesn't have to act as his chauffeur in addition to everything is is kind of pathetic. I can't understand being content with that kind of arrangement but they do their way. Yes, learning to drive is scary. Too bad.

Not a chance in h3ll would I put up with that situation. Dude would be walking to his appointments or not going.

I've known some people like this. They are codependent

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think that they must have a reason and that their life is already difficult enough without my judgment on top of it.

How much do you go out of your way to help these people with difficult lives? Like would you drive them everywhere, all the time?

How many of "those people" do you help out? Ever?

I doubt you do because if you did you wouldn't be on here bi&&&ng about it. IF not, it's none of your business how they get around.

[Anonymous]

I grew up in a city, learned to drive in my twenties in a developing country and as a result am what you'd call a shit driver.

I avoid driving whenever possible to protect myself and others.

You're welcome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think that they must have a reason and that their life is already difficult enough without my judgment on top of it.

How much do you go out of your way to help these people with difficult lives? Like would you drive them everywhere, all the time?

How many of "those people" do you help out? Ever?

I doubt you do because if you did you wouldn't be on here bi&&&ng about it. IF not, it's none of your business how they get around.

I frequently drive my mooching friends around.

Notice you didn't answer the question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think that they must have a reason and that their life is already difficult enough without my judgment on top of it.

How much do you go out of your way to help these people with difficult lives? Like would you drive them everywhere, all the time?

How many of "those people" do you help out? Ever?

I doubt you do because if you did you wouldn't be on here bi&&&ng about it. IF not, it's none of your business how they get around.

I frequently drive my mooching friends around.

Notice you didn't answer the question.

I'm not the one judging them or belittling them, moron. I am an immigrant who has a parent that never learned how to drive so I extend this kid of help all the time. now you? How often do you drive people who can't drive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think that they must have a reason and that their life is already difficult enough without my judgment on top of it.

How much do you go out of your way to help these people with difficult lives? Like would you drive them everywhere, all the time?

How many of "those people" do you help out? Ever?

I doubt you do because if you did you wouldn't be on here bi&&&ng about it. IF not, it's none of your business how they get around.

I frequently drive my mooching friends around.

Notice you didn't answer the question.

I'm not the one judging them or belittling them, moron. I am an immigrant who has a parent that never learned how to drive so I extend this kid of help all the time. now you? How often do you drive people who can't drive?

Reading two sentences.....