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Anonymous wrote:Are all of the other cousins who are invited the siblings of the groom's parents? Do you have siblings who were invited even though you were not? Just trying to figure out why they singled you out? Because I agree it does seem very odd to not invite you and not even mention it.

Groom's uncle (cousin's brother) is invited and so are other cousins. Overall it's 12 people PLUS their kids. My family is the only one not invited.

So 5 cousins of 1 of the groom's parents were supposedly invited. What about groom's other parent? No relatives? Groom's uncle should not be in that count so it's 5+5 spouses =10. Maybe 20 if each of the 5 had 2 kids. If it's a 100 person wedding it is odd that 20% of a guest list would be one parents cousins and their kids. Somethng seems off here and maybe actual invites have not yet been sent.

Skip any current friendship/closeness of the OP DS and the groom. If the DS didn't know about the engagement then they are not close. Really weird that OP heard zip about this wedding if all these people were at her house for Thanksgiving and it was the main event for their families.

NP here. This is part that garnered my attention, the information hoarding is terribly rude and offensive, given that you are spending holiday/s together. It is extremely immature for them to treat OP as persona non grata, when clearly that is not the case, IRL. OP was literally sitting at their table!

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Anonymous wrote:In this case I would try to figure out why because that seems like such a selective and personal exclusion. Can your mom poke around? I would probably go to the cousin and just be really open and say 'I just found out about Larla and Tom's wedding and that we seem to be the only people not invited. I'm not angry but I'm a little confused and hurt and mostly want to understand why because I thought we all had a good relationship. Did something happen?'

So they aren't on the defensive about the wedding and you can just get to the meat of the matter.

Oh I did reach out to the parents. The response I got was that "the young couple are paying for the wedding". I could feel my cousin was uncomfortable. So it was OK for the young couple to be at my house many times but apparently we are not good enough for the wedding.

I initially thought it was your cousin getting married, but now I see it's the cousin's kid.

This is a tricky situation and you can choose to blow your family up over it, or you could have hurt feelings yet take the high road (which is what I would do). Weddings are very expensive and if the couple is paying for it then I can see how a friend or closer family member might take priority over a cousin once removed. Sorry.

OP. I would take the high road, not reach out and not ask BUT your cousin and his kid would now be dead to me. I would no longer be the first to reach out, they would no longer be invited to my house, I would not send holiday cards, and definitely do NOT send a wedding gift, card or acknowledgment. I’m so sorry OP.

You’re not taking the “high road” if you wanted to buy them to future holiday gatherings

Taking the high road meaning I’m not going to confront them or complain about it to them or anyone else. But no way would I be inviting them to my home again. So yea, they would be dead to me unless they reached out first.

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I have a large extended family and I certainly don’t expect to be invited to every occasion, but we are informed of weddings, births and other significant events.

Maybe bride & groom didn't invite OP because she is dramatic and she is proving their point by flipping out when not receiving an invite.

You’re the one making up drama, not the OP.

How are we to know if OP is a reliable narrator, she says her son and the groom are close, then admits that the son didn't know the groom was engaged/getting married.

It is weird that she was the only cousin not invited and she hasn't been back in recent pages to answer follow up questions. I think there are "missing missing reasons" and OP didnt get the response she was looking for, so has stopped engaging.

So you fill in the blanks by making up stories about her?

Did you miss the part where the post said MAYBE the OP is dramatic? Anyone who fishes around for an invite is a drama llama in my book.

Who was fishing?

OP was fishing when she starting asking why she wasn’t invited. Tackkkkyyyy.

Tacky is trying to hide this information.

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Anonymous wrote:In this case I would try to figure out why because that seems like such a selective and personal exclusion. Can your mom poke around? I would probably go to the cousin and just be really open and say 'I just found out about Larla and Tom's wedding and that we seem to be the only people not invited. I'm not angry but I'm a little confused and hurt and mostly want to understand why because I thought we all had a good relationship. Did something happen?'

So they aren't on the defensive about the wedding and you can just get to the meat of the matter.

Oh I did reach out to the parents. The response I got was that "the young couple are paying for the wedding". I could feel my cousin was uncomfortable. So it was OK for the young couple to be at my house many times but apparently we are not good enough for the wedding.

I initially thought it was your cousin getting married, but now I see it's the cousin's kid.

This is a tricky situation and you can choose to blow your family up over it, or you could have hurt feelings yet take the high road (which is what I would do). Weddings are very expensive and if the couple is paying for it then I can see how a friend or closer family member might take priority over a cousin once removed. Sorry.

OP. I would take the high road, not reach out and not ask BUT your cousin and his kid would now be dead to me. I would no longer be the first to reach out, they would no longer be invited to my house, I would not send holiday cards, and definitely do NOT send a wedding gift, card or acknowledgment. I’m so sorry OP.

You’re not taking the “high road” if you wanted to buy them to future holiday gatherings

Taking the high road meaning I’m not going to confront them or complain about it to them or anyone else. But no way would I be inviting them to my home again. So yea, they would be dead to me unless they reached out first.

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I have a large extended family and I certainly don’t expect to be invited to every occasion, but we are informed of weddings, births and other significant events.

Maybe bride & groom didn't invite OP because she is dramatic and she is proving their point by flipping out when not receiving an invite.

You’re the one making up drama, not the OP.

How are we to know if OP is a reliable narrator, she says her son and the groom are close, then admits that the son didn't know the groom was engaged/getting married.

It is weird that she was the only cousin not invited and she hasn't been back in recent pages to answer follow up questions. I think there are "missing missing reasons" and OP didnt get the response she was looking for, so has stopped engaging.

So you fill in the blanks by making up stories about her?

No, OP (aka you, sockpuppetting) is asking for potential reasons why and we are theorizing.

So anyone who expresses an opinion contrary to yours is sockpuppeting? Got it.

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Anonymous wrote:In this case I would try to figure out why because that seems like such a selective and personal exclusion. Can your mom poke around? I would probably go to the cousin and just be really open and say 'I just found out about Larla and Tom's wedding and that we seem to be the only people not invited. I'm not angry but I'm a little confused and hurt and mostly want to understand why because I thought we all had a good relationship. Did something happen?'

So they aren't on the defensive about the wedding and you can just get to the meat of the matter.

Oh I did reach out to the parents. The response I got was that "the young couple are paying for the wedding". I could feel my cousin was uncomfortable. So it was OK for the young couple to be at my house many times but apparently we are not good enough for the wedding.

I initially thought it was your cousin getting married, but now I see it's the cousin's kid.

This is a tricky situation and you can choose to blow your family up over it, or you could have hurt feelings yet take the high road (which is what I would do). Weddings are very expensive and if the couple is paying for it then I can see how a friend or closer family member might take priority over a cousin once removed. Sorry.

OP. I would take the high road, not reach out and not ask BUT your cousin and his kid would now be dead to me. I would no longer be the first to reach out, they would no longer be invited to my house, I would not send holiday cards, and definitely do NOT send a wedding gift, card or acknowledgment. I’m so sorry OP.

You’re not taking the “high road” if you wanted to buy them to future holiday gatherings

Taking the high road meaning I’m not going to confront them or complain about it to them or anyone else. But no way would I be inviting them to my home again. So yea, they would be dead to me unless they reached out first.

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I have a large extended family and I certainly don’t expect to be invited to every occasion, but we are informed of weddings, births and other significant events.

Maybe bride & groom didn't invite OP because she is dramatic and she is proving their point by flipping out when not receiving an invite.

You’re the one making up drama, not the OP.

How are we to know if OP is a reliable narrator, she says her son and the groom are close, then admits that the son didn't know the groom was engaged/getting married.

It is weird that she was the only cousin not invited and she hasn't been back in recent pages to answer follow up questions. I think there are "missing missing reasons" and OP didnt get the response she was looking for, so has stopped engaging.

So you fill in the blanks by making up stories about her?

Did you miss the part where the post said MAYBE the OP is dramatic? Anyone who fishes around for an invite is a drama llama in my book.

Who was fishing?

OP was fishing when she starting asking why she wasn’t invited. Tackkkkyyyy.

Tacky is trying to hide this information.

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DP here. I agree. It is extremely immature to information hoard, especially when it comes to a family event. It is also quite rude! Some people like drama, OP - it is best you find out now.

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Anonymous wrote:Not being invited is okay, the sneaking around is strange.

I agree it isn't the most mature way to approach it, but given OP's over the top reaction, it's kinda understandable.

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Anonymous wrote:Are all of the other cousins who are invited the siblings of the groom's parents? Do you have siblings who were invited even though you were not? Just trying to figure out why they singled you out? Because I agree it does seem very odd to not invite you and not even mention it.

Groom's uncle (cousin's brother) is invited and so are other cousins. Overall it's 12 people PLUS their kids. My family is the only one not invited.

So 5 cousins of 1 of the groom's parents were supposedly invited. What about groom's other parent? No relatives? Groom's uncle should not be in that count so it's 5+5 spouses =10. Maybe 20 if each of the 5 had 2 kids. If it's a 100 person wedding it is odd that 20% of a guest list would be one parents cousins and their kids. Somethng seems off here and maybe actual invites have not yet been sent.

Skip any current friendship/closeness of the OP DS and the groom. If the DS didn't know about the engagement then they are not close. Really weird that OP heard zip about this wedding if all these people were at her house for Thanksgiving and it was the main event for their families.

NP here. This is part that garnered my attention, the information hoarding is terribly rude and offensive, given that you are spending holiday/s together. It is extremely immature for them to treat OP as persona non grata, when clearly that is not the case, IRL. OP was literally sitting at their table!

Oh come on, if the family discussed the wedding that OP wasn’t invited to in front of her, they would be getting trashed for talking about it. The family couldn’t win. Why can’t some of you accept that there is a line that has to be drawn with regards to invitations and sometimes you’re not making the cut?

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Anonymous wrote:In this case I would try to figure out why because that seems like such a selective and personal exclusion. Can your mom poke around? I would probably go to the cousin and just be really open and say 'I just found out about Larla and Tom's wedding and that we seem to be the only people not invited. I'm not angry but I'm a little confused and hurt and mostly want to understand why because I thought we all had a good relationship. Did something happen?'

So they aren't on the defensive about the wedding and you can just get to the meat of the matter.

Oh I did reach out to the parents. The response I got was that "the young couple are paying for the wedding". I could feel my cousin was uncomfortable. So it was OK for the young couple to be at my house many times but apparently we are not good enough for the wedding.

I initially thought it was your cousin getting married, but now I see it's the cousin's kid.

This is a tricky situation and you can choose to blow your family up over it, or you could have hurt feelings yet take the high road (which is what I would do). Weddings are very expensive and if the couple is paying for it then I can see how a friend or closer family member might take priority over a cousin once removed. Sorry.

OP. I would take the high road, not reach out and not ask BUT your cousin and his kid would now be dead to me. I would no longer be the first to reach out, they would no longer be invited to my house, I would not send holiday cards, and definitely do NOT send a wedding gift, card or acknowledgment. I’m so sorry OP.

You’re not taking the “high road” if you wanted to buy them to future holiday gatherings

Taking the high road meaning I’m not going to confront them or complain about it to them or anyone else. But no way would I be inviting them to my home again. So yea, they would be dead to me unless they reached out first.

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I have a large extended family and I certainly don’t expect to be invited to every occasion, but we are informed of weddings, births and other significant events.

Maybe bride & groom didn't invite OP because she is dramatic and she is proving their point by flipping out when not receiving an invite.

You’re the one making up drama, not the OP.

How are we to know if OP is a reliable narrator, she says her son and the groom are close, then admits that the son didn't know the groom was engaged/getting married.

It is weird that she was the only cousin not invited and she hasn't been back in recent pages to answer follow up questions. I think there are "missing missing reasons" and OP didnt get the response she was looking for, so has stopped engaging.

So you fill in the blanks by making up stories about her?

Did you miss the part where the post said MAYBE the OP is dramatic? Anyone who fishes around for an invite is a drama llama in my book.

Who was fishing?

OP was fishing when she starting asking why she wasn’t invited. Tackkkkyyyy.

Tacky is trying to hide this information.

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DP here. I agree. It is extremely immature to information hoard, especially when it comes to a family event. It is also quite rude! Some people like drama, OP - it is best you find out now.

It wasn’t wrong of the couple to not invite OP. They also didn’t mention it in front of her. The dramatic one is OP who is calling and demanding to know why she wasn’t extended an invitation.

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Anonymous wrote:Are all of the other cousins who are invited the siblings of the groom's parents? Do you have siblings who were invited even though you were not? Just trying to figure out why they singled you out? Because I agree it does seem very odd to not invite you and not even mention it.

Groom's uncle (cousin's brother) is invited and so are other cousins. Overall it's 12 people PLUS their kids. My family is the only one not invited.

So 5 cousins of 1 of the groom's parents were supposedly invited. What about groom's other parent? No relatives? Groom's uncle should not be in that count so it's 5+5 spouses =10. Maybe 20 if each of the 5 had 2 kids. If it's a 100 person wedding it is odd that 20% of a guest list would be one parents cousins and their kids. Somethng seems off here and maybe actual invites have not yet been sent.

Skip any current friendship/closeness of the OP DS and the groom. If the DS didn't know about the engagement then they are not close. Really weird that OP heard zip about this wedding if all these people were at her house for Thanksgiving and it was the main event for their families.

NP here. This is part that garnered my attention, the information hoarding is terribly rude and offensive, given that you are spending holiday/s together. It is extremely immature for them to treat OP as persona non grata, when clearly that is not the case, IRL. OP was literally sitting at their table!

Oh come on, if the family discussed the wedding that OP wasn’t invited to in front of her, they would be getting trashed for talking about it. The family couldn’t win. Why can’t some of you accept that there is a line that has to be drawn with regards to invitations and sometimes you’re not making the cut?

The couple getting married seem young and immature - which precedes OP's reaction, whether or not you admit so.

If I were the only one of a subset not invited, I would also have an opinion - that opinion would not reflect favorably of the bride and groom.

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Anonymous wrote:In this case I would try to figure out why because that seems like such a selective and personal exclusion. Can your mom poke around? I would probably go to the cousin and just be really open and say 'I just found out about Larla and Tom's wedding and that we seem to be the only people not invited. I'm not angry but I'm a little confused and hurt and mostly want to understand why because I thought we all had a good relationship. Did something happen?'

So they aren't on the defensive about the wedding and you can just get to the meat of the matter.

Oh I did reach out to the parents. The response I got was that "the young couple are paying for the wedding". I could feel my cousin was uncomfortable. So it was OK for the young couple to be at my house many times but apparently we are not good enough for the wedding.

I initially thought it was your cousin getting married, but now I see it's the cousin's kid.

This is a tricky situation and you can choose to blow your family up over it, or you could have hurt feelings yet take the high road (which is what I would do). Weddings are very expensive and if the couple is paying for it then I can see how a friend or closer family member might take priority over a cousin once removed. Sorry.

OP. I would take the high road, not reach out and not ask BUT your cousin and his kid would now be dead to me. I would no longer be the first to reach out, they would no longer be invited to my house, I would not send holiday cards, and definitely do NOT send a wedding gift, card or acknowledgment. I’m so sorry OP.

You’re not taking the “high road” if you wanted to buy them to future holiday gatherings

Taking the high road meaning I’m not going to confront them or complain about it to them or anyone else. But no way would I be inviting them to my home again. So yea, they would be dead to me unless they reached out first.

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I have a large extended family and I certainly don’t expect to be invited to every occasion, but we are informed of weddings, births and other significant events.

Maybe bride & groom didn't invite OP because she is dramatic and she is proving their point by flipping out when not receiving an invite.

You’re the one making up drama, not the OP.

How are we to know if OP is a reliable narrator, she says her son and the groom are close, then admits that the son didn't know the groom was engaged/getting married.

It is weird that she was the only cousin not invited and she hasn't been back in recent pages to answer follow up questions. I think there are "missing missing reasons" and OP didnt get the response she was looking for, so has stopped engaging.

So you fill in the blanks by making up stories about her?

Did you miss the part where the post said MAYBE the OP is dramatic? Anyone who fishes around for an invite is a drama llama in my book.

Who was fishing?

OP was fishing when she starting asking why she wasn’t invited. Tackkkkyyyy.

Tacky is trying to hide this information.

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DP here. I agree. It is extremely immature to information hoard, especially when it comes to a family event. It is also quite rude! Some people like drama, OP - it is best you find out now.

It wasn’t wrong of the couple to not invite OP. They also didn’t mention it in front of her. The dramatic one is OP who is calling and demanding to know why she wasn’t extended an invitation.

Is OP doing that?

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The literal second post of this thread suggested OP inquire about the reasons she wasn't invited. OP responded that she did and was told the couple was paying for their own wedding. Typical DCUM. The OP will be wrong either way.

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Anonymous wrote:In this case I would try to figure out why because that seems like such a selective and personal exclusion. Can your mom poke around? I would probably go to the cousin and just be really open and say 'I just found out about Larla and Tom's wedding and that we seem to be the only people not invited. I'm not angry but I'm a little confused and hurt and mostly want to understand why because I thought we all had a good relationship. Did something happen?'

So they aren't on the defensive about the wedding and you can just get to the meat of the matter.

Oh I did reach out to the parents. The response I got was that "the young couple are paying for the wedding". I could feel my cousin was uncomfortable. So it was OK for the young couple to be at my house many times but apparently we are not good enough for the wedding.

I initially thought it was your cousin getting married, but now I see it's the cousin's kid.

This is a tricky situation and you can choose to blow your family up over it, or you could have hurt feelings yet take the high road (which is what I would do). Weddings are very expensive and if the couple is paying for it then I can see how a friend or closer family member might take priority over a cousin once removed. Sorry.

OP. I would take the high road, not reach out and not ask BUT your cousin and his kid would now be dead to me. I would no longer be the first to reach out, they would no longer be invited to my house, I would not send holiday cards, and definitely do NOT send a wedding gift, card or acknowledgment. I’m so sorry OP.

You’re not taking the “high road” if you wanted to buy them to future holiday gatherings

Taking the high road meaning I’m not going to confront them or complain about it to them or anyone else. But no way would I be inviting them to my home again. So yea, they would be dead to me unless they reached out first.

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I have a large extended family and I certainly don’t expect to be invited to every occasion, but we are informed of weddings, births and other significant events.

Maybe bride & groom didn't invite OP because she is dramatic and she is proving their point by flipping out when not receiving an invite.

You’re the one making up drama, not the OP.

How are we to know if OP is a reliable narrator, she says her son and the groom are close, then admits that the son didn't know the groom was engaged/getting married.

It is weird that she was the only cousin not invited and she hasn't been back in recent pages to answer follow up questions. I think there are "missing missing reasons" and OP didnt get the response she was looking for, so has stopped engaging.

So you fill in the blanks by making up stories about her?

Did you miss the part where the post said MAYBE the OP is dramatic? Anyone who fishes around for an invite is a drama llama in my book.

Who was fishing?

OP was fishing when she starting asking why she wasn’t invited. Tackkkkyyyy.

Tacky is trying to hide this information.

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DP here. I agree. It is extremely immature to information hoard, especially when it comes to a family event. It is also quite rude! Some people like drama, OP - it is best you find out now.

It wasn’t wrong of the couple to not invite OP. They also didn’t mention it in front of her. The dramatic one is OP who is calling and demanding to know why she wasn’t extended an invitation.

Is OP doing that?

Yes, she reached out to the parents, that post is in the middle of page 1.

“Oh I did reach out to the parents. The response I got was that "the young couple are paying for the wedding". I could feel my cousin was uncomfortable. So it was OK for the young couple to be at my house many times but apparently we are not good enough for the wedding.”

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Anonymous wrote:In this case I would try to figure out why because that seems like such a selective and personal exclusion. Can your mom poke around? I would probably go to the cousin and just be really open and say 'I just found out about Larla and Tom's wedding and that we seem to be the only people not invited. I'm not angry but I'm a little confused and hurt and mostly want to understand why because I thought we all had a good relationship. Did something happen?'

So they aren't on the defensive about the wedding and you can just get to the meat of the matter.

Oh I did reach out to the parents. The response I got was that "the young couple are paying for the wedding". I could feel my cousin was uncomfortable. So it was OK for the young couple to be at my house many times but apparently we are not good enough for the wedding.

I initially thought it was your cousin getting married, but now I see it's the cousin's kid.

This is a tricky situation and you can choose to blow your family up over it, or you could have hurt feelings yet take the high road (which is what I would do). Weddings are very expensive and if the couple is paying for it then I can see how a friend or closer family member might take priority over a cousin once removed. Sorry.

OP. I would take the high road, not reach out and not ask BUT your cousin and his kid would now be dead to me. I would no longer be the first to reach out, they would no longer be invited to my house, I would not send holiday cards, and definitely do NOT send a wedding gift, card or acknowledgment. I’m so sorry OP.

You’re not taking the “high road” if you wanted to buy them to future holiday gatherings

Taking the high road meaning I’m not going to confront them or complain about it to them or anyone else. But no way would I be inviting them to my home again. So yea, they would be dead to me unless they reached out first.

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I have a large extended family and I certainly don’t expect to be invited to every occasion, but we are informed of weddings, births and other significant events.

Maybe bride & groom didn't invite OP because she is dramatic and she is proving their point by flipping out when not receiving an invite.

You’re the one making up drama, not the OP.

How are we to know if OP is a reliable narrator, she says her son and the groom are close, then admits that the son didn't know the groom was engaged/getting married.

It is weird that she was the only cousin not invited and she hasn't been back in recent pages to answer follow up questions. I think there are "missing missing reasons" and OP didnt get the response she was looking for, so has stopped engaging.

So you fill in the blanks by making up stories about her?

Did you miss the part where the post said MAYBE the OP is dramatic? Anyone who fishes around for an invite is a drama llama in my book.

Who was fishing?

OP was fishing when she starting asking why she wasn’t invited. Tackkkkyyyy.

Tacky is trying to hide this information.

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DP here. I agree. It is extremely immature to information hoard, especially when it comes to a family event. It is also quite rude! Some people like drama, OP - it is best you find out now.

It wasn’t wrong of the couple to not invite OP. They also didn’t mention it in front of her. The dramatic one is OP who is calling and demanding to know why she wasn’t extended an invitation.

Is OP doing that?

Yes, she reached out to the parents, that post is in the middle of page 1.

“Oh I did reach out to the parents. The response I got was that "the young couple are paying for the wedding". I could feel my cousin was uncomfortable. So it was OK for the young couple to be at my house many times but apparently we are not good enough for the wedding.”

PP here. Thank you for the quote. I still agree with OP, that the cut off was inaccurate, and the young couple could have easily sacrificed a friend or two. I recently attended a wedding, where the only surviving aunt and uncle of the deceased grandfather did not attend, and everyone seemed to find that odd, especially since the parents were paying. I think there could be a legit reason for OP not being invited, but I would also want to know what that reason was, if I was OP. I would not make a big deal of it, but I would certainly be curious. In my family, we are open and communicate well - not every family has that.

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Anonymous wrote:I am an only child, my mother had several siblings, so I grew up close to my cousins. Or so I thought. Even as adults, we frequently hung out with each other, celebrated major holidays together, even went on vacations together. Most recently all of my cousins were at my place for Thanksgiving, with all of their families.

I have just found out that one of cousin's children is getting married, wedding is in March, and no, I am not invited. No bad blood between us, I know the groom quite well, he and my DS are friendly. I'd get it if all of our cousins were not invited for cost-saving reasons, but no, it's just me and my family. Apparently others knew about this wedding for a few weeks now. Apparently I wasn't supposed to find out until AFTER this happened, one of the other cousins accidentally let it slip that she was buying a dress for the wedding.

I am hurt, I am upset. DH thinks I should have a conversation with the groom and find out what happened.

It happens. Our cousin invited only some cousins and not all and not even all from same family to their wedding— so meaning one sister who is cousin was invited but her sister who is cousin was not. Still no clue why the selection. Other cousins not invited at all. Was really weird.

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The only thing I can say OP is please have nothing to do with this wedding. Don’t feel guilted into sending a gift/$$$ or even a card. Definitely don’t attend any showers. Yes, people do invite people to the pre-wedding events/showers and not the actual wedding, yes it’s tacky, but no one seems to care anymore. I would continue to have a relationship with these relatives because you do seem pretty close other than this but you have to pretend like the wedding is not even happening.

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Anonymous wrote:The only thing I can say OP is please have nothing to do with this wedding. Don’t feel guilted into sending a gift/$$$ or even a card. Definitely don’t attend any showers. Yes, people do invite people to the pre-wedding events/showers and not the actual wedding, yes it’s tacky, but no one seems to care anymore. I would continue to have a relationship with these relatives because you do seem pretty close other than this but you have to pretend like the wedding is not even happening.

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This is wise.