I Miss Being In Love

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many people on here thinking if you have a man who does chores and doesn’t cheat, you better hang on to him for dear life no matter what. Is it 1955?

Adults understand that love is made, not found, and that teenage hormones and ovulation hormones exist at certain times.
You are not a classic Disney Princess looking for Prince Charming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So many people on here thinking if you have a man who does chores and doesn’t cheat, you better hang on to him for dear life no matter what. Is it 1955?

Adults understand that love is made, not found, and that teenage hormones and ovulation hormones exist at certain times.
You are not a classic Disney Princess looking for Prince Charming.

Have you read the thread? At least if we take OP at her word, she is *trying* everything to keep love alive. She's trying to be Prince Charming in their marriage. But you need a willing dance partner.

[Anonymous]

I could have written all of this. I stay for my kids. Will decide what next once the kids go to college. Even if things turn around now, I'm probably too resentful of all the time lost.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So many people on here thinking if you have a man who does chores and doesn’t cheat, you better hang on to him for dear life no matter what. Is it 1955?

Adults understand that love is made, not found, and that teenage hormones and ovulation hormones exist at certain times.
You are not a classic Disney Princess looking for Prince Charming.

Have you read the thread? At least if we take OP at her word, she is *trying* everything to keep love alive. She's trying to be Prince Charming in their marriage. But you need a willing dance partner.

I agree with the PP that she is trying to keep lust and limerance alive.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly OP, grow up. What do you think marriage is for? It’s for exactly what you’re doing now. Not for excitement, newness, novelty, or even good sex. Marriage is for long term stability.

Maybe when you turn 70 but not in your 40s. Wow some of you all are just fine with settling with unfulfilled lives.

Surprise. You're about to reach the age where many of your friends and family will be hit with life altering illnesses- breast/colon/prostate/ovarian cancers, autoimmune and heart issues. See what those do to your sex life.

That doesn’t happen until mid-50s/60s.

Not the PP to whom you're responding there, but: You are very ill-informed and damned cavalier about the impact of health issues (physical or mental) on relationships. But you do you, and enjoy your hot sex and perfect body which I'm sure will last until your 55th birthday....

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So many people on here thinking if you have a man who does chores and doesn’t cheat, you better hang on to him for dear life no matter what. Is it 1955?

Adults understand that love is made, not found, and that teenage hormones and ovulation hormones exist at certain times.
You are not a classic Disney Princess looking for Prince Charming.

OP could post about her husband turning into an actual giant beetle and there would still be people telling her that she doesn't deserve better, can't do better, and that this is just what life looks like.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly OP, grow up. What do you think marriage is for? It’s for exactly what you’re doing now. Not for excitement, newness, novelty, or even good sex. Marriage is for long term stability.

Maybe when you turn 70 but not in your 40s. Wow some of you all are just fine with settling with unfulfilled lives.

Surprise. You're about to reach the age where many of your friends and family will be hit with life altering illnesses- breast/colon/prostate/ovarian cancers, autoimmune and heart issues. See what those do to your sex life.

That doesn’t happen until mid-50s/60s.

Not the PP to whom you're responding there, but: You are very ill-informed and damned cavalier about the impact of health issues (physical or mental) on relationships. But you do you, and enjoy your hot sex and perfect body which I'm sure will last until your 55th birthday....

You are 100% the Pp who the last poster was responding to. I think you would be a better fit for a health forum. You are obviously going through something and hurting about health related concerns that have nothing to do with the OP’s situation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why did you marry him in the first place? Was he always gross? Has the sex always been bad?

He probably thinks he’s killing it—at work, in the bedroom, and at home—all with a hot and fit wife.

I would at least try marriage counseling.

He refuses to go to marriage counseling. He insists everything is fine and that I just need to learn to be content. Pretty infuriating, but that’s him. His reliability is a double edged sword — he fights anything that looks like change.

He's right.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So many people on here thinking if you have a man who does chores and doesn’t cheat, you better hang on to him for dear life no matter what. Is it 1955?

Adults understand that love is made, not found, and that teenage hormones and ovulation hormones exist at certain times.
You are not a classic Disney Princess looking for Prince Charming.

OP could post about her husband turning into an actual giant beetle and there would still be people telling her that she doesn't deserve better, can't do better, and that this is just what life looks like.

Well, pp, sometimes a man just reaches a certain age and a certain stage in his emotional journey and career turns into a giant beetle. You need to show some grace and turn him over when he falls on his back and just deal with the new normal.

[Anonymous]

bang the plumber

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly OP, grow up. What do you think marriage is for? It’s for exactly what you’re doing now. Not for excitement, newness, novelty, or even good sex. Marriage is for long term stability.

Maybe when you turn 70 but not in your 40s. Wow some of you all are just fine with settling with unfulfilled lives.

Surprise. You're about to reach the age where many of your friends and family will be hit with life altering illnesses- breast/colon/prostate/ovarian cancers, autoimmune and heart issues. See what those do to your sex life.

That doesn’t happen until mid-50s/60s.

Not the PP to whom you're responding there, but: You are very ill-informed and damned cavalier about the impact of health issues (physical or mental) on relationships. But you do you, and enjoy your hot sex and perfect body which I'm sure will last until your 55th birthday....

You are 100% the Pp who the last poster was responding to. I think you would be a better fit for a health forum. You are obviously going through something and hurting about health related concerns that have nothing to do with the OP’s situation.

Nope it wasn't. I'm the PP and glad for the support from the NP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:bang the plumber

Tennis pro?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So many people on here thinking if you have a man who does chores and doesn’t cheat, you better hang on to him for dear life no matter what. Is it 1955?

Where are all these endlessly interesting, attractive, fit, rich, intelligent 40 something year old men who are eager to have a committed relationship with a woman with school aged kids and custody issues? They are probably hanging out with 25 year olds looking for a good time.

Even if this is true, the OP would still be happier not being in her marriage.

[Anonymous]

I'm sure I'll get slammed for this, but would you or he consider opening the marriage to dating other people?

Keeps the family intact, he gets to keep his routine and whatever else he's getting out of the marriage; you get to hopefully have another relationship that gives you some of what you're missing. Who knows, maybe he would also want to date outside the marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure I'll get slammed for this, but would you or he consider opening the marriage to dating other people?

Keeps the family intact, he gets to keep his routine and whatever else he's getting out of the marriage; you get to hopefully have another relationship that gives you some of what you're missing. Who knows, maybe he would also want to date outside the marriage.

Oh, ffs. At that point just get a divorce!