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Ok. Forget the name part. It was clearly a biological girl swimming in a boys race.

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Anonymous wrote:I like the new policy. It seems pretty middle of the road. It doesn’t make being trans a problem, just brings parents back into the discussion. It also keeps biological males out of female bathrooms and lockers, which I am also happy with. From what I saw, it does not force trans students to use the bathroom of their biological gender, but allows for a safe space for them as provided by the school. Everyone talking about it in real life are happy with the policy. I think only the extreme left is unhappy. It seems pretty reasonable.

I consider myself a moderate Democrat and I disagree. I think it uses the language of "reasonableness" but it puts the onus on parents to opt in to have their child called by whatever name they want to be called by. It's very controlling. And given a time period where some states have rapidly discussed criminalizing parents of transgender children I think you are being disingenuous about how moderate this all feels to anyone involved.

With lawsuits from detransitioners starting to come out now, if I were a school staff, I would prefer parents being responsible for the gender-affirmative care that led to the irreversible damage done to the student rather than me. More importantly, it would be in everyone’s best interest to have a parent initiate the gender-affirmative care at school because minors don’t have the cognitive ability nor maturity to understand the consequences down the road of their gender-affirming care procedures and choices. They rely on the adults who are supposed to guide and protect them. Because parents know their kids best, and are the only ones who will be in the student’s life long after they have departed school, it makes logical sense that they be the ones initiating the gender-affirmative care, and not a third party who is a rather transient presence in the student’s life. Besides, a parent who loves his/her child, and truly believes in the claim that they are the opposite sex than the body they were born in, will make any sacrifices to support the child’s choices. A parent’s love is such that it would endure anything.

I'm not going to get into the science/ethics of medical transitioning. But the vast, vast majority of kids who socially transition are not even considering medical transition--they are exploring broader gender identities. Many transgender people never seek surgery or hormone treatments. This policy forces parents to either not support their children's current gender identity exploration or to put in writing in a formal record about their exploration. Not fair to parents who are already navigating challenging situations with their children.

I see your point. However, the current policy already forces school staff, as well as the rest of the student population and community to support the student’s gender identity exploration. In fact through the 2023-2024 SRR, it even disciplines those who don’t support such identity exploration.

Additionally, FCPS already has put in writing a formal record about such exploration that is shared with staff at the school and it has a provision to exclude the parents. Therefore, how can we consider that fair to parents who are already navigating challenging situations with their children?

In my view, basic respect is calling someone how you asked to be called. Would you refuse to call someone Muhammed or Jesus if they are named after a prophet you don't believe in? Would saying their name be going against your faith? No,. you wouldn't think it had anything to do with you--you would call them the name they tell you. So why is it a problem to call someone the name they tell you they want to be called--it has nothing to do at all with your views on transgender issues. It's just not your business at all.
I agree that since parents do have some rights over their own children they can decide that THEIR child should not be called a different name, but if a parent says they opt out of this policy and instead want instead the basic right given to their child to be called whatever name they choose to be called regardless of whether they are transgender, gender exploring or not.

If I understand your assertion correctly, if anyone’s LEGAL name is Jesus, Mohamed, Satan, Lee, Bragg, Benning, Stalin, Hitler, etc., should we refuse to call them by any of those names? Of course not! By all means, everyone should call him that. We don’t get to have a say because it is in everyone’s legal right to have an official name of their choosing. That why it’s called a legal name. That is also the reason why the new model policies under the Youngkin administration are following the law and in so doing, are providing protection for a student who chooses to change their name. This document explains how the process needs to be done:
https://transequality.org/sites/default/files/docs/id/NameChangesforMinors/NCTE%20Minor%20Name%20Change%20Virginia.pdf

For residents of Fairfax County, see page 3 of 12 of PDF:
https://www.fairfaxcounty.gov/circuit/sites/circuit/files/assets/documents/pdf/name-change-brochure.pdf

Following Federal Law, the law in Virginia and in the county of Fairfax, the policy says that public schools should use the names and pronouns that are on their official record, which can only be changed by parents. It defers to the “rights of parents to determine how their children will be raised and educated.”

Likewise, in the new model policy, students who are 18 years or older, or emancipated, have the power to choose their own names, pronouns and gender identities at school. Parental involvement is not required.

Your child has the right to identify however he/she pleases. However, it is not other children’s job to constantly having to validate or affirm this identity because in so doing, other children are being asked to deny their right to their beliefs and their own conception of what reality is, to which they are entitled to.

According to the new model introduced by the Youngkin administration,
“The First Amendment forbids government actors to require individuals to adhere to or adopt any particular ideological beliefs,” the new guidance reads. “Practices such as compelling others to use preferred pronouns is premised on the ideological belief that gender is a matter of personal choice or subjective experience, not sex. Many Virginians reject this belief.” Furthermore, the policy continues, “the First Amendment guarantees religious freedom and prohibits compelling others to affirm ideas that may be contrary to their personal religious beliefs.” 

So if my kid identifies as female, which matches her biological sex, but your kid doesn't want to affirm that identity because he believes males are superior and should be the only sex, he shouldn't have to affirm my daughter's identity?

Have you asked your daughter how she feels about Dylan Mulvaney who pretends to menstruate and mocks anything female, from periods and tampons, to makeup and clothing, and to anything related to girls and women? How does she feel that to Dylan, who was a man up to a year ago, the constant exaggeration and mockery of females has no boundaries?

How about asking your daughter how she feels about Lia Thomas winning swim competitions in the women’s category being that as of a year ago, prior to deciding to “switch genders” Lia had been placing 554th in the men’s category? Or how does she feel about Riley Gaines recently being physically attacked for bringing attention to the unfairness of girls loosing to biological males in the women’s category in sports?

How can you convince her not to equate that to women having to submit to men? Most importantly, how could you deny to your daughter that by women agreeing to men usurping what belongs to them is not the same as accepting that, as you put it, “males are superior and should be the only sex”, and therefore, “shouldn't have to affirm (your) daughter's identity?

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New thought that I haven't seen yet in this thread:

I work in a school and have for almost 3 decades. It has been my experience that many trans kids I've known have the support of their families. In those cases, these model policies matter little.

Rather it's the cases where the student does NOT have the support of their family. Consider this: trans acceptance is a highly politicized issue right now (whether that it par for the course or abjectly ridiculous is not the point of this post). Through that lens, knowing how cruel kids can be and how much negative community chatter is out there, what kid on earth would think that SCHOOL is the best place to come out? And yet, with an unaccepting family, that's exactly where they'll do it. For kids with unaccepting families, it's not a secret that their family is not accepting, and there can be dire consequences for those kids--abuse, becoming unhoused, suicide. That's the reason for the pushback.

Part of the human development experience is to find our identity. Identity is comprised of a lot of things. Gender & sexuality have always been on a continuum--not binary nor static. For those supporting these policies, the claim is that the school system is "indoctrinating" kids, keeping families purposely out of the loop. What if instead it's supporting a student finding their identity, living their truth? Simply seeing a person for who they are: a human being, whatever identity that takes?

The question I have for the anti-trans crowd: what about a trans person is so scary? How does Human 475485 being trans affect your life in any way?

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Anonymous wrote:New thought that I haven't seen yet in this thread:

I work in a school and have for almost 3 decades. It has been my experience that many trans kids I've known have the support of their families. In those cases, these model policies matter little.

Rather it's the cases where the student does NOT have the support of their family. Consider this: trans acceptance is a highly politicized issue right now (whether that it par for the course or abjectly ridiculous is not the point of this post). Through that lens, knowing how cruel kids can be and how much negative community chatter is out there, what kid on earth would think that SCHOOL is the best place to come out? And yet, with an unaccepting family, that's exactly where they'll do it. For kids with unaccepting families, it's not a secret that their family is not accepting, and there can be dire consequences for those kids--abuse, becoming unhoused, suicide. That's the reason for the pushback.

Part of the human development experience is to find our identity. Identity is comprised of a lot of things. Gender & sexuality have always been on a continuum--not binary nor static. For those supporting these policies, the claim is that the school system is "indoctrinating" kids, keeping families purposely out of the loop. What if instead it's supporting a student finding their identity, living their truth? Simply seeing a person for who they are: a human being, whatever identity that takes?

The question I have for the anti-trans crowd: what about a trans person is so scary? How does Human 475485 being trans affect your life in any way?

I'm not anti trans, I am just skeptical because it's getting a lot of attention lately. First, I don't want a boy using the same bathroom or changing facilities as my daughter. Next I don't want a boy in girls sports, beating all the girls. Whatever they want to do on their own time is not my problem, when it starts affecting my kid negatively that is when it becomes my problem.

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Anonymous wrote:New thought that I haven't seen yet in this thread:

I work in a school and have for almost 3 decades. It has been my experience that many trans kids I've known have the support of their families. In those cases, these model policies matter little.

Rather it's the cases where the student does NOT have the support of their family. Consider this: trans acceptance is a highly politicized issue right now (whether that it par for the course or abjectly ridiculous is not the point of this post). Through that lens, knowing how cruel kids can be and how much negative community chatter is out there, what kid on earth would think that SCHOOL is the best place to come out? And yet, with an unaccepting family, that's exactly where they'll do it. For kids with unaccepting families, it's not a secret that their family is not accepting, and there can be dire consequences for those kids--abuse, becoming unhoused, suicide. That's the reason for the pushback.

Part of the human development experience is to find our identity. Identity is comprised of a lot of things. Gender & sexuality have always been on a continuum--not binary nor static. For those supporting these policies, the claim is that the school system is "indoctrinating" kids, keeping families purposely out of the loop. What if instead it's supporting a student finding their identity, living their truth? Simply seeing a person for who they are: a human being, whatever identity that takes?

The question I have for the anti-trans crowd: what about a trans person is so scary? How does Human 475485 being trans affect your life in any way?

I'm not anti trans, I am just skeptical because it's getting a lot of attention lately. First, I don't want a boy using the same bathroom or changing facilities as my daughter. Next I don't want a boy in girls sports, beating all the girls. Whatever they want to do on their own time is not my problem, when it starts affecting my kid negatively that is when it becomes my problem.

Do you consider a trans boy, a girl or a boy? Do you consider a trans girl a boy or a girl?

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Anonymous wrote:New thought that I haven't seen yet in this thread:

I work in a school and have for almost 3 decades. It has been my experience that many trans kids I've known have the support of their families. In those cases, these model policies matter little.

Rather it's the cases where the student does NOT have the support of their family. Consider this: trans acceptance is a highly politicized issue right now (whether that it par for the course or abjectly ridiculous is not the point of this post). Through that lens, knowing how cruel kids can be and how much negative community chatter is out there, what kid on earth would think that SCHOOL is the best place to come out? And yet, with an unaccepting family, that's exactly where they'll do it. For kids with unaccepting families, it's not a secret that their family is not accepting, and there can be dire consequences for those kids--abuse, becoming unhoused, suicide. That's the reason for the pushback.

Part of the human development experience is to find our identity. Identity is comprised of a lot of things. Gender & sexuality have always been on a continuum--not binary nor static. For those supporting these policies, the claim is that the school system is "indoctrinating" kids, keeping families purposely out of the loop. What if instead it's supporting a student finding their identity, living their truth? Simply seeing a person for who they are: a human being, whatever identity that takes?

The question I have for the anti-trans crowd: what about a trans person is so scary? How does Human 475485 being trans affect your life in any way?

I'm not anti trans, I am just skeptical because it's getting a lot of attention lately. First, I don't want a boy using the same bathroom or changing facilities as my daughter. Next I don't want a boy in girls sports, beating all the girls. Whatever they want to do on their own time is not my problem, when it starts affecting my kid negatively that is when it becomes my problem.

If your daughter is so uncomfortable, using a shared restroom or locker room, one of your request that she had back to a private one?

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Anonymous wrote:I like the new policy. It seems pretty middle of the road. It doesn’t make being trans a problem, just brings parents back into the discussion. It also keeps biological males out of female bathrooms and lockers, which I am also happy with. From what I saw, it does not force trans students to use the bathroom of their biological gender, but allows for a safe space for them as provided by the school. Everyone talking about it in real life are happy with the policy. I think only the extreme left is unhappy. It seems pretty reasonable.

I consider myself a moderate Democrat and I disagree. I think it uses the language of "reasonableness" but it puts the onus on parents to opt in to have their child called by whatever name they want to be called by. It's very controlling. And given a time period where some states have rapidly discussed criminalizing parents of transgender children I think you are being disingenuous about how moderate this all feels to anyone involved.

With lawsuits from detransitioners starting to come out now, if I were a school staff, I would prefer parents being responsible for the gender-affirmative care that led to the irreversible damage done to the student rather than me. More importantly, it would be in everyone’s best interest to have a parent initiate the gender-affirmative care at school because minors don’t have the cognitive ability nor maturity to understand the consequences down the road of their gender-affirming care procedures and choices. They rely on the adults who are supposed to guide and protect them. Because parents know their kids best, and are the only ones who will be in the student’s life long after they have departed school, it makes logical sense that they be the ones initiating the gender-affirmative care, and not a third party who is a rather transient presence in the student’s life. Besides, a parent who loves his/her child, and truly believes in the claim that they are the opposite sex than the body they were born in, will make any sacrifices to support the child’s choices. A parent’s love is such that it would endure anything.

I'm not going to get into the science/ethics of medical transitioning. But the vast, vast majority of kids who socially transition are not even considering medical transition--they are exploring broader gender identities. Many transgender people never seek surgery or hormone treatments. This policy forces parents to either not support their children's current gender identity exploration or to put in writing in a formal record about their exploration. Not fair to parents who are already navigating challenging situations with their children.

I see your point. However, the current policy already forces school staff, as well as the rest of the student population and community to support the student’s gender identity exploration. In fact through the 2023-2024 SRR, it even disciplines those who don’t support such identity exploration.

Additionally, FCPS already has put in writing a formal record about such exploration that is shared with staff at the school and it has a provision to exclude the parents. Therefore, how can we consider that fair to parents who are already navigating challenging situations with their children?

In my view, basic respect is calling someone how you asked to be called. Would you refuse to call someone Muhammed or Jesus if they are named after a prophet you don't believe in? Would saying their name be going against your faith? No,. you wouldn't think it had anything to do with you--you would call them the name they tell you. So why is it a problem to call someone the name they tell you they want to be called--it has nothing to do at all with your views on transgender issues. It's just not your business at all.
I agree that since parents do have some rights over their own children they can decide that THEIR child should not be called a different name, but if a parent says they opt out of this policy and instead want instead the basic right given to their child to be called whatever name they choose to be called regardless of whether they are transgender, gender exploring or not.

If I understand your assertion correctly, if anyone’s LEGAL name is Jesus, Mohamed, Satan, Lee, Bragg, Benning, Stalin, Hitler, etc., should we refuse to call them by any of those names? Of course not! By all means, everyone should call him that. We don’t get to have a say because it is in everyone’s legal right to have an official name of their choosing. That why it’s called a legal name. That is also the reason why the new model policies under the Youngkin administration are following the law and in so doing, are providing protection for a student who chooses to change their name. This document explains how the process needs to be done:
https://transequality.org/sites/default/files/docs/id/NameChangesforMinors/NCTE%20Minor%20Name%20Change%20Virginia.pdf

For residents of Fairfax County, see page 3 of 12 of PDF:
https://www.fairfaxcounty.gov/circuit/sites/circuit/files/assets/documents/pdf/name-change-brochure.pdf

Following Federal Law, the law in Virginia and in the county of Fairfax, the policy says that public schools should use the names and pronouns that are on their official record, which can only be changed by parents. It defers to the “rights of parents to determine how their children will be raised and educated.”

Likewise, in the new model policy, students who are 18 years or older, or emancipated, have the power to choose their own names, pronouns and gender identities at school. Parental involvement is not required.

Your child has the right to identify however he/she pleases. However, it is not other children’s job to constantly having to validate or affirm this identity because in so doing, other children are being asked to deny their right to their beliefs and their own conception of what reality is, to which they are entitled to.

According to the new model introduced by the Youngkin administration,
“The First Amendment forbids government actors to require individuals to adhere to or adopt any particular ideological beliefs,” the new guidance reads. “Practices such as compelling others to use preferred pronouns is premised on the ideological belief that gender is a matter of personal choice or subjective experience, not sex. Many Virginians reject this belief.” Furthermore, the policy continues, “the First Amendment guarantees religious freedom and prohibits compelling others to affirm ideas that may be contrary to their personal religious beliefs.” 

So if my kid identifies as female, which matches her biological sex, but your kid doesn't want to affirm that identity because he believes males are superior and should be the only sex, he shouldn't have to affirm my daughter's identity?

Have you asked your daughter how she feels about Dylan Mulvaney who pretends to menstruate and mocks anything female, from periods and tampons, to makeup and clothing, and to anything related to girls and women? How does she feel that to Dylan, who was a man up to a year ago, the constant exaggeration and mockery of females has no boundaries?

How about asking your daughter how she feels about Lia Thomas winning swim competitions in the women’s category being that as of a year ago, prior to deciding to “switch genders” Lia had been placing 554th in the men’s category? Or how does she feel about Riley Gaines recently being physically attacked for bringing attention to the unfairness of girls loosing to biological males in the women’s category in sports?

How can you convince her not to equate that to women having to submit to men? Most importantly, how could you deny to your daughter that by women agreeing to men usurping what belongs to them is not the same as accepting that, as you put it, “males are superior and should be the only sex”, and therefore, “shouldn't have to affirm (your) daughter's identity?

I’ve seen Dylan’s post. She isn’t mocking anything, she making light of everything new that she’s needed to learn to transition.

Sporting leagues make decisions on trans participation. Bring your issues to them, not an FCPS school forum.

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Anonymous wrote:New thought that I haven't seen yet in this thread:

I work in a school and have for almost 3 decades. It has been my experience that many trans kids I've known have the support of their families. In those cases, these model policies matter little.

Rather it's the cases where the student does NOT have the support of their family. Consider this: trans acceptance is a highly politicized issue right now (whether that it par for the course or abjectly ridiculous is not the point of this post). Through that lens, knowing how cruel kids can be and how much negative community chatter is out there, what kid on earth would think that SCHOOL is the best place to come out? And yet, with an unaccepting family, that's exactly where they'll do it. For kids with unaccepting families, it's not a secret that their family is not accepting, and there can be dire consequences for those kids--abuse, becoming unhoused, suicide. That's the reason for the pushback.

Part of the human development experience is to find our identity. Identity is comprised of a lot of things. Gender & sexuality have always been on a continuum--not binary nor static. For those supporting these policies, the claim is that the school system is "indoctrinating" kids, keeping families purposely out of the loop. What if instead it's supporting a student finding their identity, living their truth? Simply seeing a person for who they are: a human being, whatever identity that takes?

The question I have for the anti-trans crowd: what about a trans person is so scary? How does Human 475485 being trans affect your life in any way?

I don’t want attention-seeking biological males insisting on their right to expose their genitalia to teenage girls or robbing biological girls of their own achievements at school. If they want to declare they are girls in other settings, fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New thought that I haven't seen yet in this thread:

I work in a school and have for almost 3 decades. It has been my experience that many trans kids I've known have the support of their families. In those cases, these model policies matter little.

Rather it's the cases where the student does NOT have the support of their family. Consider this: trans acceptance is a highly politicized issue right now (whether that it par for the course or abjectly ridiculous is not the point of this post). Through that lens, knowing how cruel kids can be and how much negative community chatter is out there, what kid on earth would think that SCHOOL is the best place to come out? And yet, with an unaccepting family, that's exactly where they'll do it. For kids with unaccepting families, it's not a secret that their family is not accepting, and there can be dire consequences for those kids--abuse, becoming unhoused, suicide. That's the reason for the pushback.

Part of the human development experience is to find our identity. Identity is comprised of a lot of things. Gender & sexuality have always been on a continuum--not binary nor static. For those supporting these policies, the claim is that the school system is "indoctrinating" kids, keeping families purposely out of the loop. What if instead it's supporting a student finding their identity, living their truth? Simply seeing a person for who they are: a human being, whatever identity that takes?

The question I have for the anti-trans crowd: what about a trans person is so scary? How does Human 475485 being trans affect your life in any way?

In your position as a school employee, how do you think Sage’s Law applies to your point of view in this matter?
https://www2.cbn.com/news/us/sages-law-va-school-transitions-girl-without-telling-guardians-she-ends-sex-trafficking

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Anonymous wrote:I like the new policy. It seems pretty middle of the road. It doesn’t make being trans a problem, just brings parents back into the discussion. It also keeps biological males out of female bathrooms and lockers, which I am also happy with. From what I saw, it does not force trans students to use the bathroom of their biological gender, but allows for a safe space for them as provided by the school. Everyone talking about it in real life are happy with the policy. I think only the extreme left is unhappy. It seems pretty reasonable.

I consider myself a moderate Democrat and I disagree. I think it uses the language of "reasonableness" but it puts the onus on parents to opt in to have their child called by whatever name they want to be called by. It's very controlling. And given a time period where some states have rapidly discussed criminalizing parents of transgender children I think you are being disingenuous about how moderate this all feels to anyone involved.

With lawsuits from detransitioners starting to come out now, if I were a school staff, I would prefer parents being responsible for the gender-affirmative care that led to the irreversible damage done to the student rather than me. More importantly, it would be in everyone’s best interest to have a parent initiate the gender-affirmative care at school because minors don’t have the cognitive ability nor maturity to understand the consequences down the road of their gender-affirming care procedures and choices. They rely on the adults who are supposed to guide and protect them. Because parents know their kids best, and are the only ones who will be in the student’s life long after they have departed school, it makes logical sense that they be the ones initiating the gender-affirmative care, and not a third party who is a rather transient presence in the student’s life. Besides, a parent who loves his/her child, and truly believes in the claim that they are the opposite sex than the body they were born in, will make any sacrifices to support the child’s choices. A parent’s love is such that it would endure anything.

I'm not going to get into the science/ethics of medical transitioning. But the vast, vast majority of kids who socially transition are not even considering medical transition--they are exploring broader gender identities. Many transgender people never seek surgery or hormone treatments. This policy forces parents to either not support their children's current gender identity exploration or to put in writing in a formal record about their exploration. Not fair to parents who are already navigating challenging situations with their children.

I see your point. However, the current policy already forces school staff, as well as the rest of the student population and community to support the student’s gender identity exploration. In fact through the 2023-2024 SRR, it even disciplines those who don’t support such identity exploration.

Additionally, FCPS already has put in writing a formal record about such exploration that is shared with staff at the school and it has a provision to exclude the parents. Therefore, how can we consider that fair to parents who are already navigating challenging situations with their children?

In my view, basic respect is calling someone how you asked to be called. Would you refuse to call someone Muhammed or Jesus if they are named after a prophet you don't believe in? Would saying their name be going against your faith? No,. you wouldn't think it had anything to do with you--you would call them the name they tell you. So why is it a problem to call someone the name they tell you they want to be called--it has nothing to do at all with your views on transgender issues. It's just not your business at all.
I agree that since parents do have some rights over their own children they can decide that THEIR child should not be called a different name, but if a parent says they opt out of this policy and instead want instead the basic right given to their child to be called whatever name they choose to be called regardless of whether they are transgender, gender exploring or not.

If I understand your assertion correctly, if anyone’s LEGAL name is Jesus, Mohamed, Satan, Lee, Bragg, Benning, Stalin, Hitler, etc., should we refuse to call them by any of those names? Of course not! By all means, everyone should call him that. We don’t get to have a say because it is in everyone’s legal right to have an official name of their choosing. That why it’s called a legal name. That is also the reason why the new model policies under the Youngkin administration are following the law and in so doing, are providing protection for a student who chooses to change their name. This document explains how the process needs to be done:
https://transequality.org/sites/default/files/docs/id/NameChangesforMinors/NCTE%20Minor%20Name%20Change%20Virginia.pdf

For residents of Fairfax County, see page 3 of 12 of PDF:
https://www.fairfaxcounty.gov/circuit/sites/circuit/files/assets/documents/pdf/name-change-brochure.pdf

Following Federal Law, the law in Virginia and in the county of Fairfax, the policy says that public schools should use the names and pronouns that are on their official record, which can only be changed by parents. It defers to the “rights of parents to determine how their children will be raised and educated.”

Likewise, in the new model policy, students who are 18 years or older, or emancipated, have the power to choose their own names, pronouns and gender identities at school. Parental involvement is not required.

Your child has the right to identify however he/she pleases. However, it is not other children’s job to constantly having to validate or affirm this identity because in so doing, other children are being asked to deny their right to their beliefs and their own conception of what reality is, to which they are entitled to.

According to the new model introduced by the Youngkin administration,
“The First Amendment forbids government actors to require individuals to adhere to or adopt any particular ideological beliefs,” the new guidance reads. “Practices such as compelling others to use preferred pronouns is premised on the ideological belief that gender is a matter of personal choice or subjective experience, not sex. Many Virginians reject this belief.” Furthermore, the policy continues, “the First Amendment guarantees religious freedom and prohibits compelling others to affirm ideas that may be contrary to their personal religious beliefs.” 

So if my kid identifies as female, which matches her biological sex, but your kid doesn't want to affirm that identity because he believes males are superior and should be the only sex, he shouldn't have to affirm my daughter's identity?

Have you asked your daughter how she feels about Dylan Mulvaney who pretends to menstruate and mocks anything female, from periods and tampons, to makeup and clothing, and to anything related to girls and women? How does she feel that to Dylan, who was a man up to a year ago, the constant exaggeration and mockery of females has no boundaries?

How about asking your daughter how she feels about Lia Thomas winning swim competitions in the women’s category being that as of a year ago, prior to deciding to “switch genders” Lia had been placing 554th in the men’s category? Or how does she feel about Riley Gaines recently being physically attacked for bringing attention to the unfairness of girls loosing to biological males in the women’s category in sports?

How can you convince her not to equate that to women having to submit to men? Most importantly, how could you deny to your daughter that by women agreeing to men usurping what belongs to them is not the same as accepting that, as you put it, “males are superior and should be the only sex”, and therefore, “shouldn't have to affirm (your) daughter's identity?

Go back and reread the post to which you are responding. You've completely missed the point of it.

[Anonymous]

Gender is not an identity. It’s biological and exists from the moment of conception.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New thought that I haven't seen yet in this thread:

[url]I work in a school and have for almost 3 decades.[b] It has been my experience that many trans kids I've known have the support of their families. In those cases, these model policies matter little.

Rather it's the cases where the student does NOT have the support of their family. Consider this: trans acceptance is a highly politicized issue right now (whether that it par for the course or abjectly ridiculous is not the point of this post). Through that lens, knowing how cruel kids can be and how much negative community chatter is out there, what kid on earth would think that SCHOOL is the best place to come out? And yet, with an unaccepting family, that's exactly where they'll do it. For kids with unaccepting families, it's not a secret that their family is not accepting, and there can be dire consequences for those kids--abuse, becoming unhoused, suicide. That's the reason for the pushback.

Part of the human development experience is to find our identity. Identity is comprised of a lot of things. Gender & sexuality have always been on a continuum--not binary nor static. For those supporting these policies, the claim is that the school system is "indoctrinating" kids, keeping families purposely out of the loop. What if instead it's supporting a student finding their identity, living their truth? Simply seeing a person for who they are: a human being, whatever identity that takes?

The question I have for the anti-trans crowd: what about a trans person is so scary? How does Human 475485 being trans affect your life in any way?

You are part of the problem. It's not the school's job to do what you describe.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:New thought that I haven't seen yet in this thread:

I work in a school and have for almost 3 decades. It has been my experience that many trans kids I've known have the support of their families. In those cases, these model policies matter little.

Rather it's the cases where the student does NOT have the support of their family. Consider this: trans acceptance is a highly politicized issue right now (whether that it par for the course or abjectly ridiculous is not the point of this post). Through that lens, knowing how cruel kids can be and how much negative community chatter is out there, what kid on earth would think that SCHOOL is the best place to come out? And yet, with an unaccepting family, that's exactly where they'll do it. For kids with unaccepting families, it's not a secret that their family is not accepting, and there can be dire consequences for those kids--abuse, becoming unhoused, suicide. That's the reason for the pushback.

Part of the human development experience is to find our identity. Identity is comprised of a lot of things. Gender & sexuality have always been on a continuum--not binary nor static. For those supporting these policies, the claim is that the school system is "indoctrinating" kids, keeping families purposely out of the loop. What if instead it's supporting a student finding their identity, living their truth? Simply seeing a person for who they are: a human being, whatever identity that takes?

The question I have for the anti-trans crowd: what about a trans person is so scary? How does Human 475485 being trans affect your life in any way?

I'm not anti trans, I am just skeptical because it's getting a lot of attention lately. First, I don't want a boy using the same bathroom or changing facilities as my daughter. Next I don't want a boy in girls sports, beating all the girls. Whatever they want to do on their own time is not my problem, when it starts affecting my kid negatively that is when it becomes my problem.

Do you consider a trans boy, a girl or a boy? Do you consider a trans girl a boy or a girl?

Why does trans community think what they feel overrides regular girls and boys's human rights, safety and privacy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gender is not an identity. It’s biological and exists from the moment of conception.

Talk to scientists about this--it's nowhere as clearcut as you think and never has been.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:New thought that I haven't seen yet in this thread:

I work in a school and have for almost 3 decades. It has been my experience that many trans kids I've known have the support of their families. In those cases, these model policies matter little.

Rather it's the cases where the student does NOT have the support of their family. Consider this: trans acceptance is a highly politicized issue right now (whether that it par for the course or abjectly ridiculous is not the point of this post). Through that lens, knowing how cruel kids can be and how much negative community chatter is out there, what kid on earth would think that SCHOOL is the best place to come out? And yet, with an unaccepting family, that's exactly where they'll do it. For kids with unaccepting families, it's not a secret that their family is not accepting, and there can be dire consequences for those kids--abuse, becoming unhoused, suicide. That's the reason for the pushback.

Part of the human development experience is to find our identity. Identity is comprised of a lot of things. Gender & sexuality have always been on a continuum--not binary nor static. For those supporting these policies, the claim is that the school system is "indoctrinating" kids, keeping families purposely out of the loop. What if instead it's supporting a student finding their identity, living their truth? Simply seeing a person for who they are: a human being, whatever identity that takes?

The question I have for the anti-trans crowd: what about a trans person is so scary? How does Human 475485 being trans affect your life in any way?

I'm not anti trans, I am just skeptical because it's getting a lot of attention lately. First, I don't want a boy using the same bathroom or changing facilities as my daughter. Next I don't want a boy in girls sports, beating all the girls. Whatever they want to do on their own time is not my problem, when it starts affecting my kid negatively that is when it becomes my problem.

If your daughter is so uncomfortable, using a shared restroom or locker room, one of your request that she had back to a private one?

In the families with trans girls/boys, do biological females (Moms, aunts, sisters) change clothes ( especially when you need to take off all clothes ) in front of the biological male who self-identified as a girl? Or if an biological male self-identified as a girl or a woman, do this person changes clothes (some times being naked) in front of the biological female family members? When families with trans members having a family trip and stay in hotels, do trans girls share a room (sometimes a bed) with moms and sisters and trans boys sleep in a bed with brothers? when sisters are taking shower naked at home, is it normal that a biological brother but self-identified as a girl come in to use the bathroom. Is this the daily norm? Just want to learn the level of acceptance of trans family.