Dad brings a guest with him, my half-sister... to stay with us for three weeks...
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Anonymous
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Dear god, OP. What a nightmare.
I hope they left this morning. Good for you for being able to say no to extending, both of these adults are so far out of line it's unbelievable. I'm really sorry your father put you in this position. |
Anonymous
| OP, we are dying to know what happened this morning! |
Anonymous
| OP - How is dad’s relationship with your step-mom? (Do you call her that if you never lived with her and/origin were an adult when they married)? Is there more going on there than you know? |
Anonymous
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Hi, this is OP.
Dad and HS left after lunch today. Dad said "thank you". HS said "it was good to see you". Allright, I am glad we all kept it civil. Dad will stay with HS in NYC for a week, they will spend time there, he will get her on a plane, and will come here for a week. As I was reflecting on all that, (1) I realized that I was mostly concerned with having a short-term annoyance ruin the larger relationships long term (and I may have some work to do to strike the right balance and not be the only one who carries that weight), and (2) my dad knew all along that my HS is not the easiest person/is in a bad mood/working through some personal issues AND he knew all along that I am super busy, stretched super thin, and I've had a challenging year balancing family and work AND he chose to invite HS to stay at my house (for some reason, I do not think she'd ask/come/stay herself without his encouragement). I'll talk to dad to not do something like this to me again (use me/my family/my hospitality to solve a problem). As to everything else, I have thoughts about both, HS and dad enabling her, but what's the saying? Not my chair, not my problem... just do not bring it to my home... Thank you for the many thoughtful, supportive comments! |
Anonymous
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Well, your dad sounds selfish and oblivious and maybe thinks that hosting company happens magically because he's never had to do the work himself? But he's probably also engaged in magical thinking, like "I have a happy family" and "If they got to know each other, they'd get along" and "My younger daughter's various problems can be solved with a change of scenery" and other dumb stuff like that.
It seems like your dad did not really succeed in solving his problem by imposing on you, so good job on that! |
Anonymous
| I am sorry that your dad and your adultbaby HS ruined what was supposed to be a nice visit! That must be hard. |
Anonymous
| Thanks for the update, OP. Wishing you peace and resolution. |
Anonymous
| Hope all works out. Would love to know how dad is after he returns from NY. |
Anonymous
| Thanks OP for the updates. You’ve been a saint! Glad you held your ground. |
Anonymous
A Saint lol by making her sister feel unwelcome |
Anonymous
| Just wondering how the discussion with dad went this weekend. Hopefully SS is on her way back home and little to no drama ensued. |