Dad brings a guest with him, my half-sister... to stay with us for three weeks...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the more ominous note is she has no return ticket.

I would sit them down and explain what you've said here. You didn't expect two visitors for several weeks, there isn't the space for this many people. Ask her point blank when she is leaving and get her a blow up mattress. She's not to take a bed from your Father.

+1. I'd be worried you have a new (non-paying) tenant

[Anonymous]

I agree with PP about having your kids bunk together, if they don’t already share a room, unless that would really screw up their sleep. I’m sorry your time with your father is going down very differently than you imagined

Is this possibly a cultural thing, OP? What country is this and is it possible it’s cultural to have a more the merrier, no big deal attitude? I’m with you: this would drive me batty and annoy me. But maybe it’s cluelessness more than sneakiness.

How old is your half-sister? Is this a chance to get to know her a lot better? Do you like her?

[Anonymous]

This is OP. Appreciate the supportive comments.

I will suggest that since the HS will be staying longer than two days, we will add an inflatable bed in the guest room "so that everyone is more comfortable."

And, yes, with all of my guests, I only "host" the first day, everyone gets a welcome meal, clean bed, clean shower and plenty of food in the fridge. I then trust people to figure things out. I will ask for help with meal prep and cleanup.

The HS is married, so I'm sure she will want to go back home to her husband after the three weeks here (I hope

It has been therapeutic to share this. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the more ominous note is she has no return ticket.

I would sit them down and explain what you've said here. You didn't expect two visitors for several weeks, there isn't the space for this many people. Ask her point blank when she is leaving and get her a blow up mattress. She's not to take a bed from your Father.

+1. I'd be worried you have a new (non-paying) tenant

Is she a US citizen? I'm surprised customs would let her come without a return ticket?

[Anonymous]

I absolutely wouldn't let anyone sleep on my couch. I think it's gross (head grease, sweat, drool?).

Get a grip. Do you not go to hotels or House rentals. Much worse.

Someone sleeps on the couch when we visit my mom’s house. You can easily put a sheet down. No different then from a guest room. Well, except for OP use of the living room.

[Anonymous]

Utterly obnoxious OP - I'm sorry.

Your plan sounds good.

[Anonymous]

Four days prior to his arrival, I get a text from my dad...

This is so disingenuous. Who buys a ticket to fly overseas 4 days in advance. And then the plans fell through? Something is up. Why did they both come to the US. Why is her return ticket un-booked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Four days prior to his arrival, I get a text from my dad...

This is so disingenuous. Who buys a ticket to fly overseas 4 days in advance. And then the plans fell through? Something is up. Why did they both come to the US. Why is her return ticket un-booked.

+1 Yeah, your dad did you dirty. I'm really sorry.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, they have to share the guest room. If she doesn’t like it, she can leave.

[Anonymous]

I’m trying to figure out why the tag-along, uninvited half-sister gets a room to herself, while the invited guest, who is old enough to have grown children and even grandchildren, gets the living room sofa.

[Anonymous]

I agree with everyone. Figure out how to fit them both in one room. This seems like a cultural problem. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Is the half-sisters marriage on solid ground? It seems odd she’d arrive without a return planned.

[Anonymous]

Why do you not have a TV in your room, and why do you keep referring to your sister as half sister? If you need to have a problem here, you should have one with your dad. Also, it needs to be said, you're an a**hole for not making more of an effort to get to know her. Enjoy those 3 weeks!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you not have a TV in your room, and why do you keep referring to your sister as half sister? If you need to have a problem here, you should have one with your dad. Also, it needs to be said, you're an a**hole for not making more of an effort to get to know her. Enjoy those 3 weeks!

SERIOUSLY? OP is an a**hole? How about uninvited guests who don't have the guts to say how long they are staying? And yes, she is a half sister. They only share their father, their mothers are different. HALF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you not have a TV in your room, and why do you keep referring to your sister as half sister? If you need to have a problem here, you should have one with your dad. Also, it needs to be said, you're an a**hole for not making more of an effort to get to know her. Enjoy those 3 weeks!

Looks like half sister found the chat! LOL to demanding “why don’t you have a TV in your bedroom!”