You’re related to your own spouse by marriage. Not anyone else. |
DP but that's just factually inaccurate. But it makes sense in a thread where people are taking "I don't play any paternal role for the stepchildren who live in my house" at face value. |
Nope. The trip with the uncle is not the same thing as a “family vacation.” |
Troll |
Team BIL. Never remarry, especially if they have kids - no matter what age (them or you)! I reside in a DCUM approved area, where there or TONS of divorced people, and can, without hesitation, tell you that each and every remarried person I know is absolutely miserable. This might not help you, OP - but it will shed some light on your situation. |
x1000000 THIS, OP. |
+1 Mooch is the word I was looking for, thank you. Damn, OP - good luck with this one! |
+1 |
Exactly. What teenage girl wants to go to Dubai? |
These kids had entirely different lives and families before your marriage, and it wouldn't even be assumed that this uncle now should include her kids on a very expensive global trip like this. He's allowed to have a continuing relationship that is about his niece, that started from birth. Your remarriage doesn't change that. It might be different if they were either all much younger when you remarried or this was a grandparent, but I don’t understand her reasoning at all. You aren't one family really, just because you remarried and you both have kids. They are all too old.
Why did he have to say " I don't like you or your kids"(?) There were a hundred other things to say, but he went right for the jugular. Is there an apparent reason for this that you know about, OP? Yes, she is entirely out of line for assuming this in the first place, harassing you about it, revving her kids up, and confronting him. But he could have said something different, unless there is more to the story, and I'll bet there is. |
I agree with all of this. OP sounds bizarrely detached. I’m surprised that so many people feel like they can relate to him. |
This. End of story. Why she, or the kids would think otherwise is just plain bizarre. |
Step Aunt and Step uncle. Let's be clear, these are not blood relatives, and it would be ridiculous to suggest they take 3 unrelated kids on world wide trips. |
The specific situation and request were so inappropriate that while hurtful, the response was not unreasonable. |
+1 This. NOT BLOOD RELATIVES. Not even blood grandchild (which would in itself be a big stretch!) |