No kids wedding...except there were kids.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is ridiculous. Your kids aren’t entitled to an invite.

If only you could read....nobody is saying kids are entitled to be invited. The OP was saying that she was rightfully annoyed that the bride/groom lied to her about this issue.

NP. Show me exactly where OP said she was literally told by the bride and groom this was 100% a child free wedding, guaranteed. Oh wait, you can’t because not even OP said that happened. Seems like OP simply ASSumed that not her kids = guaranteed no kids.

Well, her title said "No Kids Wedding," suggesting that she was under the impression that it was a wedding without kids.

Yes. And that was a stupid assumption. Most people who have attended a wedding know how they work. The bride isn’t to blame for OPs confusion.

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Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is...you guys want to bring your kids to a wedding? I'd rather have a night to just enjoy myself with DH while my kid is happy at home (or even in a hotel room) with a sitter. I don't want to be wrangling my kid the whole time.

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Neither do the parents - they just want their snowflake to run around, cause chaos and do WTH they want, bride and groom be damned. It's the snowflakes day after all, don't you know?!

Dammit it's just so hard to find a sitter. What a hassle. I have to pick up my phone and text someone to ask if they are available. It's like the bride and groom don't value me at all. The real kicker is when I can't bring the dog. What will Muffin do for the 6 hours I'm away? If I see the bride's dog there I'm going to stomp out in a fury and take my toaster with me.

Not a problem to find a sitter for an in-town wedding. It is out-of-town weddings that are a challenge. And if you are able to have family stay with your kids or your kid will do fine with a random stranger in a hotel, then consider yourself fortunate.

You aren't required to go to the wedding. If it doesn't work then just don't go. The wedding is not planned around your convenience. The bride and groom are planning the wedding they want, if it's a destination wedding then they know some people won't go and they are likely just inviting them out of obligation. Same for people who have to travel a long way. Unless it's immediate family just send regrets. Easy peasy.

People are actually not this rational and get really weird about their expectations of others on their wedding day. I had a friend who expected her grandmother to wheel her wheelchair a mile out into the woods for a ceremony. It is really not the case that if the bride makes attending difficult, then she is okay with you not coming.

And I bet a compromise or exception was made for a dear grandmother in a way an accommodation would not be made for dozens of children the bride and groom barely know because it's too hard to book a sitter.

No. What happened is exactly what happens here. The bride was irrationally angry at her grandmother. People tried to point out how the bride was being unreasonable, and she did backbends to prove that this wasn’t actually that difficult. Then, when her grandmother didn’t come, the bride held a grudge about it for years.

Somehow I don't think the bride and groom in this situation will care about OP if she holds a grudge for years because she couldn't bring her kids to their wedding. Who needs friends like that anyway?

You know. Sometimes you can be wrong. You didn’t make an accommodation for someone at your wedding. They didn’t attend, or they did and they were annoyed. You were almost certainly in the wrong. For most people, their wedding is the first formal party that they have ever thrown, and it’s huge, and there are all sorts of feelings about it.

It’s okay. Apologize to your grandma that couldn’t make it to your beach wedding or your friend that you yelled at for ruining your pictures by getting pregnant and move on. We all go a little crazy sometimes. Stop doing these crazy contortions to make yourself believe you were right.

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Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is...you guys want to bring your kids to a wedding? I'd rather have a night to just enjoy myself with DH while my kid is happy at home (or even in a hotel room) with a sitter. I don't want to be wrangling my kid the whole time.

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Neither do the parents - they just want their snowflake to run around, cause chaos and do WTH they want, bride and groom be damned. It's the snowflakes day after all, don't you know?!

Dammit it's just so hard to find a sitter. What a hassle. I have to pick up my phone and text someone to ask if they are available. It's like the bride and groom don't value me at all. The real kicker is when I can't bring the dog. What will Muffin do for the 6 hours I'm away? If I see the bride's dog there I'm going to stomp out in a fury and take my toaster with me.

Not a problem to find a sitter for an in-town wedding. It is out-of-town weddings that are a challenge. And if you are able to have family stay with your kids or your kid will do fine with a random stranger in a hotel, then consider yourself fortunate.

You aren't required to go to the wedding. If it doesn't work then just don't go. The wedding is not planned around your convenience. The bride and groom are planning the wedding they want, if it's a destination wedding then they know some people won't go and they are likely just inviting them out of obligation. Same for people who have to travel a long way. Unless it's immediate family just send regrets. Easy peasy.

People are actually not this rational and get really weird about their expectations of others on their wedding day. I had a friend who expected her grandmother to wheel her wheelchair a mile out into the woods for a ceremony. It is really not the case that if the bride makes attending difficult, then she is okay with you not coming.

And I bet a compromise or exception was made for a dear grandmother in a way an accommodation would not be made for dozens of children the bride and groom barely know because it's too hard to book a sitter.

No. What happened is exactly what happens here. The bride was irrationally angry at her grandmother. People tried to point out how the bride was being unreasonable, and she did backbends to prove that this wasn’t actually that difficult. Then, when her grandmother didn’t come, the bride held a grudge about it for years.

Somehow I don't think the bride and groom in this situation will care about OP if she holds a grudge for years because she couldn't bring her kids to their wedding. Who needs friends like that anyway?

You know. Sometimes you can be wrong. You didn’t make an accommodation for someone at your wedding. They didn’t attend, or they did and they were annoyed. You were almost certainly in the wrong. For most people, their wedding is the first formal party that they have ever thrown, and it’s huge, and there are all sorts of feelings about it.

It’s okay. Apologize to your grandma that couldn’t make it to your beach wedding or your friend that you yelled at for ruining your pictures by getting pregnant and move on. We all go a little crazy sometimes. Stop doing these crazy contortions to make yourself believe you were right.

Ma’am this is a Wendy’s

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Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is...you guys want to bring your kids to a wedding? I'd rather have a night to just enjoy myself with DH while my kid is happy at home (or even in a hotel room) with a sitter. I don't want to be wrangling my kid the whole time.

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Neither do the parents - they just want their snowflake to run around, cause chaos and do WTH they want, bride and groom be damned. It's the snowflakes day after all, don't you know?!

Dammit it's just so hard to find a sitter. What a hassle. I have to pick up my phone and text someone to ask if they are available. It's like the bride and groom don't value me at all. The real kicker is when I can't bring the dog. What will Muffin do for the 6 hours I'm away? If I see the bride's dog there I'm going to stomp out in a fury and take my toaster with me.

Not a problem to find a sitter for an in-town wedding. It is out-of-town weddings that are a challenge. And if you are able to have family stay with your kids or your kid will do fine with a random stranger in a hotel, then consider yourself fortunate.

You aren't required to go to the wedding. If it doesn't work then just don't go. The wedding is not planned around your convenience. The bride and groom are planning the wedding they want, if it's a destination wedding then they know some people won't go and they are likely just inviting them out of obligation. Same for people who have to travel a long way. Unless it's immediate family just send regrets. Easy peasy.

People are actually not this rational and get really weird about their expectations of others on their wedding day. I had a friend who expected her grandmother to wheel her wheelchair a mile out into the woods for a ceremony. It is really not the case that if the bride makes attending difficult, then she is okay with you not coming.

And I bet a compromise or exception was made for a dear grandmother in a way an accommodation would not be made for dozens of children the bride and groom barely know because it's too hard to book a sitter.

No. What happened is exactly what happens here. The bride was irrationally angry at her grandmother. People tried to point out how the bride was being unreasonable, and she did backbends to prove that this wasn’t actually that difficult. Then, when her grandmother didn’t come, the bride held a grudge about it for years.

Somehow I don't think the bride and groom in this situation will care about OP if she holds a grudge for years because she couldn't bring her kids to their wedding. Who needs friends like that anyway?

You know. Sometimes you can be wrong. You didn’t make an accommodation for someone at your wedding. They didn’t attend, or they did and they were annoyed. You were almost certainly in the wrong. For most people, their wedding is the first formal party that they have ever thrown, and it’s huge, and there are all sorts of feelings about it.

It’s okay. Apologize to your grandma that couldn’t make it to your beach wedding or your friend that you yelled at for ruining your pictures by getting pregnant and move on. We all go a little crazy sometimes. Stop doing these crazy contortions to make yourself believe you were right.

WTF are you talking about? My own grandparents were dead and didn't make it to my wedding. Stop making other people's weddings all about you.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is ridiculous. Your kids aren’t entitled to an invite.

If only you could read....nobody is saying kids are entitled to be invited. The OP was saying that she was rightfully annoyed that the bride/groom lied to her about this issue.

NP. Show me exactly where OP said she was literally told by the bride and groom this was 100% a child free wedding, guaranteed. Oh wait, you can’t because not even OP said that happened. Seems like OP simply ASSumed that not her kids = guaranteed no kids.

Well, her title said "No Kids Wedding," suggesting that she was under the impression that it was a wedding without kids.

Ummmmm, just because she was “under the impression” does not mean that she was told by the bride and groom directly, “Your kids are not invited because this is a 100% kid-free wedding, and that includes children in the wedding party.”

It seems like OP has a misguided assumption that the vast majority of us are telling her IS MISGUIDED.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is ridiculous. Your kids aren’t entitled to an invite.

If only you could read....nobody is saying kids are entitled to be invited. The OP was saying that she was rightfully annoyed that the bride/groom lied to her about this issue.

NP. Show me exactly where OP said she was literally told by the bride and groom this was 100% a child free wedding, guaranteed. Oh wait, you can’t because not even OP said that happened. Seems like OP simply ASSumed that not her kids = guaranteed no kids.

Well, her title said "No Kids Wedding," suggesting that she was under the impression that it was a wedding without kids.

Ummmmm, just because she was “under the impression” does not mean that she was told by the bride and groom directly, “Your kids are not invited because this is a 100% kid-free wedding, and that includes children in the wedding party.”

It seems like OP has a misguided assumption that the vast majority of us are telling her IS MISGUIDED.

Why does this matter to you so much?

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Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is...you guys want to bring your kids to a wedding? I'd rather have a night to just enjoy myself with DH while my kid is happy at home (or even in a hotel room) with a sitter. I don't want to be wrangling my kid the whole time.

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Neither do the parents - they just want their snowflake to run around, cause chaos and do WTH they want, bride and groom be damned. It's the snowflakes day after all, don't you know?!

Dammit it's just so hard to find a sitter. What a hassle. I have to pick up my phone and text someone to ask if they are available. It's like the bride and groom don't value me at all. The real kicker is when I can't bring the dog. What will Muffin do for the 6 hours I'm away? If I see the bride's dog there I'm going to stomp out in a fury and take my toaster with me.

It is a hassle to find a sitter to come up a hotel in a town you have never been to before.

So don't go. It's not that hard.

Wow. Is it really so hard to just tell your sister or your friend or whoever you invited to your wedding, “Thanks for making it work.”

If you've been complaining about what a huge challenge and ordeal it is, then, yes.

I don’t know. I agree that it’s bad for to complain directly to the bride or groom or their parents, but I am allowed to complain to my husband or DCUM about whatever I want to .

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Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is...you guys want to bring your kids to a wedding? I'd rather have a night to just enjoy myself with DH while my kid is happy at home (or even in a hotel room) with a sitter. I don't want to be wrangling my kid the whole time.

+1

Neither do the parents - they just want their snowflake to run around, cause chaos and do WTH they want, bride and groom be damned. It's the snowflakes day after all, don't you know?!

Dammit it's just so hard to find a sitter. What a hassle. I have to pick up my phone and text someone to ask if they are available. It's like the bride and groom don't value me at all. The real kicker is when I can't bring the dog. What will Muffin do for the 6 hours I'm away? If I see the bride's dog there I'm going to stomp out in a fury and take my toaster with me.

Not a problem to find a sitter for an in-town wedding. It is out-of-town weddings that are a challenge. And if you are able to have family stay with your kids or your kid will do fine with a random stranger in a hotel, then consider yourself fortunate.

You aren't required to go to the wedding. If it doesn't work then just don't go. The wedding is not planned around your convenience. The bride and groom are planning the wedding they want, if it's a destination wedding then they know some people won't go and they are likely just inviting them out of obligation. Same for people who have to travel a long way. Unless it's immediate family just send regrets. Easy peasy.

People are actually not this rational and get really weird about their expectations of others on their wedding day. I had a friend who expected her grandmother to wheel her wheelchair a mile out into the woods for a ceremony. It is really not the case that if the bride makes attending difficult, then she is okay with you not coming.

And I bet a compromise or exception was made for a dear grandmother in a way an accommodation would not be made for dozens of children the bride and groom barely know because it's too hard to book a sitter.

No. What happened is exactly what happens here. The bride was irrationally angry at her grandmother. People tried to point out how the bride was being unreasonable, and she did backbends to prove that this wasn’t actually that difficult. Then, when her grandmother didn’t come, the bride held a grudge about it for years.

Somehow I don't think the bride and groom in this situation will care about OP if she holds a grudge for years because she couldn't bring her kids to their wedding. Who needs friends like that anyway?

You know. Sometimes you can be wrong. You didn’t make an accommodation for someone at your wedding. They didn’t attend, or they did and they were annoyed. You were almost certainly in the wrong. For most people, their wedding is the first formal party that they have ever thrown, and it’s huge, and there are all sorts of feelings about it.

It’s okay. Apologize to your grandma that couldn’t make it to your beach wedding or your friend that you yelled at for ruining your pictures by getting pregnant and move on. We all go a little crazy sometimes. Stop doing these crazy contortions to make yourself believe you were right.

WTF are you talking about? My own grandparents were dead and didn't make it to my wedding. Stop making other people's weddings all about you.

Did someone make your wedding all about them? Did they cut their hair and ruin your photos?
The OP got a sitter out of town for her child and went with her husband. What on earth does a wedding guest need to do to make you happy?

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is ridiculous. Your kids aren’t entitled to an invite.

If only you could read....nobody is saying kids are entitled to be invited. The OP was saying that she was rightfully annoyed that the bride/groom lied to her about this issue.

NP. Show me exactly where OP said she was literally told by the bride and groom this was 100% a child free wedding, guaranteed. Oh wait, you can’t because not even OP said that happened. Seems like OP simply ASSumed that not her kids = guaranteed no kids.

Well, her title said "No Kids Wedding," suggesting that she was under the impression that it was a wedding without kids.

Ummmmm, just because she was “under the impression” does not mean that she was told by the bride and groom directly, “Your kids are not invited because this is a 100% kid-free wedding, and that includes children in the wedding party.”

It seems like OP has a misguided assumption that the vast majority of us are telling her IS MISGUIDED.

Why does this matter to you so much?

Pp is just telling you how it is. Sounds like you don’t want to hear it but fyi she is right.

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Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is...you guys want to bring your kids to a wedding? I'd rather have a night to just enjoy myself with DH while my kid is happy at home (or even in a hotel room) with a sitter. I don't want to be wrangling my kid the whole time.

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Neither do the parents - they just want their snowflake to run around, cause chaos and do WTH they want, bride and groom be damned. It's the snowflakes day after all, don't you know?!

Dammit it's just so hard to find a sitter. What a hassle. I have to pick up my phone and text someone to ask if they are available. It's like the bride and groom don't value me at all. The real kicker is when I can't bring the dog. What will Muffin do for the 6 hours I'm away? If I see the bride's dog there I'm going to stomp out in a fury and take my toaster with me.

Not a problem to find a sitter for an in-town wedding. It is out-of-town weddings that are a challenge. And if you are able to have family stay with your kids or your kid will do fine with a random stranger in a hotel, then consider yourself fortunate.

You aren't required to go to the wedding. If it doesn't work then just don't go. The wedding is not planned around your convenience. The bride and groom are planning the wedding they want, if it's a destination wedding then they know some people won't go and they are likely just inviting them out of obligation. Same for people who have to travel a long way. Unless it's immediate family just send regrets. Easy peasy.

People are actually not this rational and get really weird about their expectations of others on their wedding day. I had a friend who expected her grandmother to wheel her wheelchair a mile out into the woods for a ceremony. It is really not the case that if the bride makes attending difficult, then she is okay with you not coming.

And I bet a compromise or exception was made for a dear grandmother in a way an accommodation would not be made for dozens of children the bride and groom barely know because it's too hard to book a sitter.

No. What happened is exactly what happens here. The bride was irrationally angry at her grandmother. People tried to point out how the bride was being unreasonable, and she did backbends to prove that this wasn’t actually that difficult. Then, when her grandmother didn’t come, the bride held a grudge about it for years.

Somehow I don't think the bride and groom in this situation will care about OP if she holds a grudge for years because she couldn't bring her kids to their wedding. Who needs friends like that anyway?

You know. Sometimes you can be wrong. You didn’t make an accommodation for someone at your wedding. They didn’t attend, or they did and they were annoyed. You were almost certainly in the wrong. For most people, their wedding is the first formal party that they have ever thrown, and it’s huge, and there are all sorts of feelings about it.

It’s okay. Apologize to your grandma that couldn’t make it to your beach wedding or your friend that you yelled at for ruining your pictures by getting pregnant and move on. We all go a little crazy sometimes. Stop doing these crazy contortions to make yourself believe you were right.

Ma’am this is a Wendy’s

Megan, this is a thread about how people should not complain about hoops they had to jump through to attend a wedding. If you are looking for a hamburger here, you will surely be disappointed.

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Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is...you guys want to bring your kids to a wedding? I'd rather have a night to just enjoy myself with DH while my kid is happy at home (or even in a hotel room) with a sitter. I don't want to be wrangling my kid the whole time.

+1

Neither do the parents - they just want their snowflake to run around, cause chaos and do WTH they want, bride and groom be damned. It's the snowflakes day after all, don't you know?!

Dammit it's just so hard to find a sitter. What a hassle. I have to pick up my phone and text someone to ask if they are available. It's like the bride and groom don't value me at all. The real kicker is when I can't bring the dog. What will Muffin do for the 6 hours I'm away? If I see the bride's dog there I'm going to stomp out in a fury and take my toaster with me.

Not a problem to find a sitter for an in-town wedding. It is out-of-town weddings that are a challenge. And if you are able to have family stay with your kids or your kid will do fine with a random stranger in a hotel, then consider yourself fortunate.

You aren't required to go to the wedding. If it doesn't work then just don't go. The wedding is not planned around your convenience. The bride and groom are planning the wedding they want, if it's a destination wedding then they know some people won't go and they are likely just inviting them out of obligation. Same for people who have to travel a long way. Unless it's immediate family just send regrets. Easy peasy.

People are actually not this rational and get really weird about their expectations of others on their wedding day. I had a friend who expected her grandmother to wheel her wheelchair a mile out into the woods for a ceremony. It is really not the case that if the bride makes attending difficult, then she is okay with you not coming.

And I bet a compromise or exception was made for a dear grandmother in a way an accommodation would not be made for dozens of children the bride and groom barely know because it's too hard to book a sitter.

No. What happened is exactly what happens here. The bride was irrationally angry at her grandmother. People tried to point out how the bride was being unreasonable, and she did backbends to prove that this wasn’t actually that difficult. Then, when her grandmother didn’t come, the bride held a grudge about it for years.

Somehow I don't think the bride and groom in this situation will care about OP if she holds a grudge for years because she couldn't bring her kids to their wedding. Who needs friends like that anyway?

You know. Sometimes you can be wrong. You didn’t make an accommodation for someone at your wedding. They didn’t attend, or they did and they were annoyed. You were almost certainly in the wrong. For most people, their wedding is the first formal party that they have ever thrown, and it’s huge, and there are all sorts of feelings about it.

It’s okay. Apologize to your grandma that couldn’t make it to your beach wedding or your friend that you yelled at for ruining your pictures by getting pregnant and move on. We all go a little crazy sometimes. Stop doing these crazy contortions to make yourself believe you were right.

Ma’am this is a Wendy’s

Megan, this is a thread about how people should not complain about hoops they had to jump through to attend a wedding. If you are looking for a hamburger here, you will surely be disappointed.

All we have to eat here is room temperature filet mignon and overcooked sea bass.

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Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is...you guys want to bring your kids to a wedding? I'd rather have a night to just enjoy myself with DH while my kid is happy at home (or even in a hotel room) with a sitter. I don't want to be wrangling my kid the whole time.

+1

Neither do the parents - they just want their snowflake to run around, cause chaos and do WTH they want, bride and groom be damned. It's the snowflakes day after all, don't you know?!

Dammit it's just so hard to find a sitter. What a hassle. I have to pick up my phone and text someone to ask if they are available. It's like the bride and groom don't value me at all. The real kicker is when I can't bring the dog. What will Muffin do for the 6 hours I'm away? If I see the bride's dog there I'm going to stomp out in a fury and take my toaster with me.

Not a problem to find a sitter for an in-town wedding. It is out-of-town weddings that are a challenge. And if you are able to have family stay with your kids or your kid will do fine with a random stranger in a hotel, then consider yourself fortunate.

You aren't required to go to the wedding. If it doesn't work then just don't go. The wedding is not planned around your convenience. The bride and groom are planning the wedding they want, if it's a destination wedding then they know some people won't go and they are likely just inviting them out of obligation. Same for people who have to travel a long way. Unless it's immediate family just send regrets. Easy peasy.

People are actually not this rational and get really weird about their expectations of others on their wedding day. I had a friend who expected her grandmother to wheel her wheelchair a mile out into the woods for a ceremony. It is really not the case that if the bride makes attending difficult, then she is okay with you not coming.

And I bet a compromise or exception was made for a dear grandmother in a way an accommodation would not be made for dozens of children the bride and groom barely know because it's too hard to book a sitter.

No. What happened is exactly what happens here. The bride was irrationally angry at her grandmother. People tried to point out how the bride was being unreasonable, and she did backbends to prove that this wasn’t actually that difficult. Then, when her grandmother didn’t come, the bride held a grudge about it for years.

Somehow I don't think the bride and groom in this situation will care about OP if she holds a grudge for years because she couldn't bring her kids to their wedding. Who needs friends like that anyway?

You know. Sometimes you can be wrong. You didn’t make an accommodation for someone at your wedding. They didn’t attend, or they did and they were annoyed. You were almost certainly in the wrong. For most people, their wedding is the first formal party that they have ever thrown, and it’s huge, and there are all sorts of feelings about it.

It’s okay. Apologize to your grandma that couldn’t make it to your beach wedding or your friend that you yelled at for ruining your pictures by getting pregnant and move on. We all go a little crazy sometimes. Stop doing these crazy contortions to make yourself believe you were right.

WTF are you talking about? My own grandparents were dead and didn't make it to my wedding. Stop making other people's weddings all about you.

Did someone make your wedding all about them? Did they cut their hair and ruin your photos?
The OP got a sitter out of town for her child and went with her husband. What on earth does a wedding guest need to do to make you happy?

Are you out of your mind? The OP is out of line. She shouldn't have been surprised there were some kids in the wedding party at a wedding.

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Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is...you guys want to bring your kids to a wedding? I'd rather have a night to just enjoy myself with DH while my kid is happy at home (or even in a hotel room) with a sitter. I don't want to be wrangling my kid the whole time.

+1

Neither do the parents - they just want their snowflake to run around, cause chaos and do WTH they want, bride and groom be damned. It's the snowflakes day after all, don't you know?!

Dammit it's just so hard to find a sitter. What a hassle. I have to pick up my phone and text someone to ask if they are available. It's like the bride and groom don't value me at all. The real kicker is when I can't bring the dog. What will Muffin do for the 6 hours I'm away? If I see the bride's dog there I'm going to stomp out in a fury and take my toaster with me.

Not a problem to find a sitter for an in-town wedding. It is out-of-town weddings that are a challenge. And if you are able to have family stay with your kids or your kid will do fine with a random stranger in a hotel, then consider yourself fortunate.

You aren't required to go to the wedding. If it doesn't work then just don't go. The wedding is not planned around your convenience. The bride and groom are planning the wedding they want, if it's a destination wedding then they know some people won't go and they are likely just inviting them out of obligation. Same for people who have to travel a long way. Unless it's immediate family just send regrets. Easy peasy.

People are actually not this rational and get really weird about their expectations of others on their wedding day. I had a friend who expected her grandmother to wheel her wheelchair a mile out into the woods for a ceremony. It is really not the case that if the bride makes attending difficult, then she is okay with you not coming.

And I bet a compromise or exception was made for a dear grandmother in a way an accommodation would not be made for dozens of children the bride and groom barely know because it's too hard to book a sitter.

No. What happened is exactly what happens here. The bride was irrationally angry at her grandmother. People tried to point out how the bride was being unreasonable, and she did backbends to prove that this wasn’t actually that difficult. Then, when her grandmother didn’t come, the bride held a grudge about it for years.

Somehow I don't think the bride and groom in this situation will care about OP if she holds a grudge for years because she couldn't bring her kids to their wedding. Who needs friends like that anyway?

You know. Sometimes you can be wrong. You didn’t make an accommodation for someone at your wedding. They didn’t attend, or they did and they were annoyed. You were almost certainly in the wrong. For most people, their wedding is the first formal party that they have ever thrown, and it’s huge, and there are all sorts of feelings about it.

It’s okay. Apologize to your grandma that couldn’t make it to your beach wedding or your friend that you yelled at for ruining your pictures by getting pregnant and move on. We all go a little crazy sometimes. Stop doing these crazy contortions to make yourself believe you were right.

WTF are you talking about? My own grandparents were dead and didn't make it to my wedding. Stop making other people's weddings all about you.

Did someone make your wedding all about them? Did they cut their hair and ruin your photos?
The OP got a sitter out of town for her child and went with her husband. What on earth does a wedding guest need to do to make you happy?

Are you out of your mind? The OP is out of line. She shouldn't have been surprised there were some kids in the wedding party at a wedding.

Are you out of your mind? What did she do that’s out of line? Be surprised? Post on an anonymous message board?

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I had a no kids wedding and some of my MIL family just.... brought them anyway. What was I gonna do, tackle them at the church door?

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Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is...you guys want to bring your kids to a wedding? I'd rather have a night to just enjoy myself with DH while my kid is happy at home (or even in a hotel room) with a sitter. I don't want to be wrangling my kid the whole time.

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Neither do the parents - they just want their snowflake to run around, cause chaos and do WTH they want, bride and groom be damned. It's the snowflakes day after all, don't you know?!

Dammit it's just so hard to find a sitter. What a hassle. I have to pick up my phone and text someone to ask if they are available. It's like the bride and groom don't value me at all. The real kicker is when I can't bring the dog. What will Muffin do for the 6 hours I'm away? If I see the bride's dog there I'm going to stomp out in a fury and take my toaster with me.

Not a problem to find a sitter for an in-town wedding. It is out-of-town weddings that are a challenge. And if you are able to have family stay with your kids or your kid will do fine with a random stranger in a hotel, then consider yourself fortunate.

You aren't required to go to the wedding. If it doesn't work then just don't go. The wedding is not planned around your convenience. The bride and groom are planning the wedding they want, if it's a destination wedding then they know some people won't go and they are likely just inviting them out of obligation. Same for people who have to travel a long way. Unless it's immediate family just send regrets. Easy peasy.

People are actually not this rational and get really weird about their expectations of others on their wedding day. I had a friend who expected her grandmother to wheel her wheelchair a mile out into the woods for a ceremony. It is really not the case that if the bride makes attending difficult, then she is okay with you not coming.

And I bet a compromise or exception was made for a dear grandmother in a way an accommodation would not be made for dozens of children the bride and groom barely know because it's too hard to book a sitter.

No. What happened is exactly what happens here. The bride was irrationally angry at her grandmother. People tried to point out how the bride was being unreasonable, and she did backbends to prove that this wasn’t actually that difficult. Then, when her grandmother didn’t come, the bride held a grudge about it for years.

Somehow I don't think the bride and groom in this situation will care about OP if she holds a grudge for years because she couldn't bring her kids to their wedding. Who needs friends like that anyway?

You know. Sometimes you can be wrong. You didn’t make an accommodation for someone at your wedding. They didn’t attend, or they did and they were annoyed. You were almost certainly in the wrong. For most people, their wedding is the first formal party that they have ever thrown, and it’s huge, and there are all sorts of feelings about it.

It’s okay. Apologize to your grandma that couldn’t make it to your beach wedding or your friend that you yelled at for ruining your pictures by getting pregnant and move on. We all go a little crazy sometimes. Stop doing these crazy contortions to make yourself believe you were right.

WTF are you talking about? My own grandparents were dead and didn't make it to my wedding. Stop making other people's weddings all about you.

Did someone make your wedding all about them? Did they cut their hair and ruin your photos?
The OP got a sitter out of town for her child and went with her husband. What on earth does a wedding guest need to do to make you happy?

Are you out of your mind? The OP is out of line. She shouldn't have been surprised there were some kids in the wedding party at a wedding.

Are you out of your mind? What did she do that’s out of line? Be surprised? Post on an anonymous message board?

She was "pet peeved" about standard wedding situations and someone else is crying about the big "lie" that was told. OP asked if it was normal, I think she has her answer now given the vast majority of people have said it is.