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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What I don't get is...you guys want to bring your kids to a wedding? I'd rather have a night to just enjoy myself with DH while my kid is happy at home (or even in a hotel room) with a sitter. I don't want to be wrangling my kid the whole time.  [/quote]

Neither do the parents - they just want their snowflake to run around, cause chaos and do WTH they want, bride and groom be damned.  It's the snowflakes day after all, don't you know?!
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Dammit it's just so hard to find a sitter. What a hassle. I have to pick up my phone and text someone to ask if they are available. It's like the bride and groom don't value me at all. The real kicker is when I can't bring the dog. What will Muffin do for the 6 hours I'm away? If I see the bride's dog there I'm going to stomp out in a fury and take my toaster with me.[/quote]

Not a problem to find a sitter for an in-town wedding.  It is out-of-town weddings that are a challenge. And if you are able to have family stay with your kids or your kid will do fine with a random stranger in a hotel, then consider yourself fortunate.[/quote]

You aren't required to go to the wedding. If it doesn't work then just don't go. The wedding is not planned around your convenience. The bride and groom are planning the wedding they want, if it's a destination wedding then they know some people won't go and they are likely just inviting them out of obligation. Same for people who have to travel a long way. Unless it's immediate family just send regrets. Easy peasy.[/quote]

People are actually not this rational and get really weird about their expectations of others on their wedding day.  I had a friend who expected her grandmother to wheel her wheelchair a mile out into the woods for a ceremony.  It is really not the case that if the bride makes attending difficult, then she is okay with you not coming.  [/quote]

And I bet a compromise or exception was made for a dear grandmother in a way an accommodation would not be made for dozens of children the bride and groom barely know because it's too hard to book a sitter.[/quote]

No.  What happened is exactly what happens here.  The bride was irrationally angry at her grandmother.  People tried to point out how the bride was being unreasonable, and she did backbends to prove that this wasn’t actually that difficult.  Then, when her grandmother didn’t come, the bride held a grudge about it for years.  [/quote]

Somehow I don't think the bride and groom in this situation will care about OP if she holds a grudge for years because she couldn't bring her kids to their wedding. Who needs friends like that anyway?[/quote]

You know.  Sometimes you can be wrong.  You didn’t make an accommodation for someone at your wedding.  They didn’t attend, or they did and they were annoyed.  You were almost certainly in the wrong.  For most people, their wedding is the first formal party that they have ever thrown, and it’s huge, and there are all sorts of feelings about it.

It’s okay.  Apologize to your grandma that couldn’t make it to your beach wedding or your friend that you yelled at for ruining your pictures by getting pregnant and move on.  We all go a little crazy sometimes.  Stop doing these crazy contortions to make yourself believe you were right.  [/quote]

WTF are you talking about? My own grandparents were dead and didn't make it to my wedding. Stop making other people's weddings all about you.[/quote]

Did someone make your wedding all about them?  Did they cut their hair and ruin your photos?  
The OP got a sitter out of town for her child and went with her husband.  What on earth does a wedding guest need to do to make you happy?  [/quote]

Are you out of your mind? The OP is out of line. She shouldn't have been surprised there were some kids in the wedding party at a wedding. [/quote]

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