No kids wedding...except there were kids.

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Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is...you guys want to bring your kids to a wedding? I'd rather have a night to just enjoy myself with DH while my kid is happy at home (or even in a hotel room) with a sitter. I don't want to be wrangling my kid the whole time.

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Neither do the parents - they just want their snowflake to run around, cause chaos and do WTH they want, bride and groom be damned. It's the snowflakes day after all, don't you know?!

Dammit it's just so hard to find a sitter. What a hassle. I have to pick up my phone and text someone to ask if they are available. It's like the bride and groom don't value me at all. The real kicker is when I can't bring the dog. What will Muffin do for the 6 hours I'm away? If I see the bride's dog there I'm going to stomp out in a fury and take my toaster with me.

It is a hassle to find a sitter to come up a hotel in a town you have never been to before.

If you are unable to figure out a way to go to a wedding without bringing your kids, who are not invited, you can’t go. If the the bride is your bff and really really wants you there and you’ve explained this to her but she still doesn’t want your kids there it sounds like she’d prefer to have the whole family decline than invite the kids. So decline.

Or I can get a sitter and expect a parenting message board to recognize that it’s kind of a hassle.

I'm a parent and don't consider it to be a huge hassle to sometimes need a sitter. You're barking up the wrong tree. Lots of things are a hassle when you have kids. Are you a new parent?

No. My oldest child is 12.
I just had to get a sitter yesterday when I was called into work because someone had Covid. I needed someone from 3:30pm-2am. So probably wedding hours.
I had to go a dozen people into my list before I found someone who could do it. I’m surprised that you have never had an issue with childcare.

If I have an issue then I just can't go or don't do it. Such is life. A wedding isn't that important, if you can't make it work you can't make it work.

So if it wasn’t easy, then you just wouldn’t go?

I guess that I would be willing to go through some hassle in order to attend a friend’s wedding. I know that people went through some hassles to attend mine, and I appreciated it.

I don't think calling a sitter is a hassle. That's you. A hassle would be like the car broke down on the way and I had to get an emergency tow and paid $$$ to get it fixed ASAP and I still made it on time. Getting a sitter is pretty low on the list of what I consider a hassle.

That seems like less of a hassle. I have AAA. I don’t have babysitting on demand.

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Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is...you guys want to bring your kids to a wedding? I'd rather have a night to just enjoy myself with DH while my kid is happy at home (or even in a hotel room) with a sitter. I don't want to be wrangling my kid the whole time.

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Neither do the parents - they just want their snowflake to run around, cause chaos and do WTH they want, bride and groom be damned. It's the snowflakes day after all, don't you know?!

Dammit it's just so hard to find a sitter. What a hassle. I have to pick up my phone and text someone to ask if they are available. It's like the bride and groom don't value me at all. The real kicker is when I can't bring the dog. What will Muffin do for the 6 hours I'm away? If I see the bride's dog there I'm going to stomp out in a fury and take my toaster with me.

Not a problem to find a sitter for an in-town wedding. It is out-of-town weddings that are a challenge. And if you are able to have family stay with your kids or your kid will do fine with a random stranger in a hotel, then consider yourself fortunate.

You aren't required to go to the wedding. If it doesn't work then just don't go. The wedding is not planned around your convenience. The bride and groom are planning the wedding they want, if it's a destination wedding then they know some people won't go and they are likely just inviting them out of obligation. Same for people who have to travel a long way. Unless it's immediate family just send regrets. Easy peasy.

People are actually not this rational and get really weird about their expectations of others on their wedding day. I had a friend who expected her grandmother to wheel her wheelchair a mile out into the woods for a ceremony. It is really not the case that if the bride makes attending difficult, then she is okay with you not coming.

And I bet a compromise or exception was made for a dear grandmother in a way an accommodation would not be made for dozens of children the bride and groom barely know because it's too hard to book a sitter.

No. What happened is exactly what happens here. The bride was irrationally angry at her grandmother. People tried to point out how the bride was being unreasonable, and she did backbends to prove that this wasn’t actually that difficult. Then, when her grandmother didn’t come, the bride held a grudge about it for years.

Somehow I don't think the bride and groom in this situation will care about OP if she holds a grudge for years because she couldn't bring her kids to their wedding. Who needs friends like that anyway?

You know. Sometimes you can be wrong. You didn’t make an accommodation for someone at your wedding. They didn’t attend, or they did and they were annoyed. You were almost certainly in the wrong. For most people, their wedding is the first formal party that they have ever thrown, and it’s huge, and there are all sorts of feelings about it.

It’s okay. Apologize to your grandma that couldn’t make it to your beach wedding or your friend that you yelled at for ruining your pictures by getting pregnant and move on. We all go a little crazy sometimes. Stop doing these crazy contortions to make yourself believe you were right.

WTF are you talking about? My own grandparents were dead and didn't make it to my wedding. Stop making other people's weddings all about you.

Did someone make your wedding all about them? Did they cut their hair and ruin your photos?
The OP got a sitter out of town for her child and went with her husband. What on earth does a wedding guest need to do to make you happy?

Are you out of your mind? The OP is out of line. She shouldn't have been surprised there were some kids in the wedding party at a wedding.

Are you out of your mind? What did she do that’s out of line? Be surprised? Post on an anonymous message board?

She was "pet peeved" about standard wedding situations and someone else is crying about the big "lie" that was told. OP asked if it was normal, I think she has her answer now given the vast majority of people have said it is.

Yeah. I agree with you that this is standard, but nothing the OP did in response strikes me as outlandish, out of line behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is...you guys want to bring your kids to a wedding? I'd rather have a night to just enjoy myself with DH while my kid is happy at home (or even in a hotel room) with a sitter. I don't want to be wrangling my kid the whole time.

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Neither do the parents - they just want their snowflake to run around, cause chaos and do WTH they want, bride and groom be damned. It's the snowflakes day after all, don't you know?!

Dammit it's just so hard to find a sitter. What a hassle. I have to pick up my phone and text someone to ask if they are available. It's like the bride and groom don't value me at all. The real kicker is when I can't bring the dog. What will Muffin do for the 6 hours I'm away? If I see the bride's dog there I'm going to stomp out in a fury and take my toaster with me.

Not a problem to find a sitter for an in-town wedding. It is out-of-town weddings that are a challenge. And if you are able to have family stay with your kids or your kid will do fine with a random stranger in a hotel, then consider yourself fortunate.

You aren't required to go to the wedding. If it doesn't work then just don't go. The wedding is not planned around your convenience. The bride and groom are planning the wedding they want, if it's a destination wedding then they know some people won't go and they are likely just inviting them out of obligation. Same for people who have to travel a long way. Unless it's immediate family just send regrets. Easy peasy.

People are actually not this rational and get really weird about their expectations of others on their wedding day. I had a friend who expected her grandmother to wheel her wheelchair a mile out into the woods for a ceremony. It is really not the case that if the bride makes attending difficult, then she is okay with you not coming.

And I bet a compromise or exception was made for a dear grandmother in a way an accommodation would not be made for dozens of children the bride and groom barely know because it's too hard to book a sitter.

No. What happened is exactly what happens here. The bride was irrationally angry at her grandmother. People tried to point out how the bride was being unreasonable, and she did backbends to prove that this wasn’t actually that difficult. Then, when her grandmother didn’t come, the bride held a grudge about it for years.

Somehow I don't think the bride and groom in this situation will care about OP if she holds a grudge for years because she couldn't bring her kids to their wedding. Who needs friends like that anyway?

You know. Sometimes you can be wrong. You didn’t make an accommodation for someone at your wedding. They didn’t attend, or they did and they were annoyed. You were almost certainly in the wrong. For most people, their wedding is the first formal party that they have ever thrown, and it’s huge, and there are all sorts of feelings about it.

It’s okay. Apologize to your grandma that couldn’t make it to your beach wedding or your friend that you yelled at for ruining your pictures by getting pregnant and move on. We all go a little crazy sometimes. Stop doing these crazy contortions to make yourself believe you were right.

WTF are you talking about? My own grandparents were dead and didn't make it to my wedding. Stop making other people's weddings all about you.

Did someone make your wedding all about them? Did they cut their hair and ruin your photos?
The OP got a sitter out of town for her child and went with her husband. What on earth does a wedding guest need to do to make you happy?

Are you out of your mind? The OP is out of line. She shouldn't have been surprised there were some kids in the wedding party at a wedding.

Are you out of your mind? What did she do that’s out of line? Be surprised? Post on an anonymous message board?

She was "pet peeved" about standard wedding situations and someone else is crying about the big "lie" that was told. OP asked if it was normal, I think she has her answer now given the vast majority of people have said it is.

Yeah. I agree with you that this is standard, but nothing the OP did in response strikes me as outlandish, out of line behavior.

We can agree to disagree. I think it's weird to be "really pet peeved" that the groom had some family members at his wedding. So much so that I was still complaining about it days later.

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Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is...you guys want to bring your kids to a wedding? I'd rather have a night to just enjoy myself with DH while my kid is happy at home (or even in a hotel room) with a sitter. I don't want to be wrangling my kid the whole time.

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Neither do the parents - they just want their snowflake to run around, cause chaos and do WTH they want, bride and groom be damned. It's the snowflakes day after all, don't you know?!

Dammit it's just so hard to find a sitter. What a hassle. I have to pick up my phone and text someone to ask if they are available. It's like the bride and groom don't value me at all. The real kicker is when I can't bring the dog. What will Muffin do for the 6 hours I'm away? If I see the bride's dog there I'm going to stomp out in a fury and take my toaster with me.

I think it’s even weirder that you are spending so much time and energy attacking the OP for a simple vent.

Not a problem to find a sitter for an in-town wedding. It is out-of-town weddings that are a challenge. And if you are able to have family stay with your kids or your kid will do fine with a random stranger in a hotel, then consider yourself fortunate.

You aren't required to go to the wedding. If it doesn't work then just don't go. The wedding is not planned around your convenience. The bride and groom are planning the wedding they want, if it's a destination wedding then they know some people won't go and they are likely just inviting them out of obligation. Same for people who have to travel a long way. Unless it's immediate family just send regrets. Easy peasy.

People are actually not this rational and get really weird about their expectations of others on their wedding day. I had a friend who expected her grandmother to wheel her wheelchair a mile out into the woods for a ceremony. It is really not the case that if the bride makes attending difficult, then she is okay with you not coming.

And I bet a compromise or exception was made for a dear grandmother in a way an accommodation would not be made for dozens of children the bride and groom barely know because it's too hard to book a sitter.

No. What happened is exactly what happens here. The bride was irrationally angry at her grandmother. People tried to point out how the bride was being unreasonable, and she did backbends to prove that this wasn’t actually that difficult. Then, when her grandmother didn’t come, the bride held a grudge about it for years.

Somehow I don't think the bride and groom in this situation will care about OP if she holds a grudge for years because she couldn't bring her kids to their wedding. Who needs friends like that anyway?

You know. Sometimes you can be wrong. You didn’t make an accommodation for someone at your wedding. They didn’t attend, or they did and they were annoyed. You were almost certainly in the wrong. For most people, their wedding is the first formal party that they have ever thrown, and it’s huge, and there are all sorts of feelings about it.

It’s okay. Apologize to your grandma that couldn’t make it to your beach wedding or your friend that you yelled at for ruining your pictures by getting pregnant and move on. We all go a little crazy sometimes. Stop doing these crazy contortions to make yourself believe you were right.

WTF are you talking about? My own grandparents were dead and didn't make it to my wedding. Stop making other people's weddings all about you.

Did someone make your wedding all about them? Did they cut their hair and ruin your photos?
The OP got a sitter out of town for her child and went with her husband. What on earth does a wedding guest need to do to make you happy?

Are you out of your mind? The OP is out of line. She shouldn't have been surprised there were some kids in the wedding party at a wedding.

Are you out of your mind? What did she do that’s out of line? Be surprised? Post on an anonymous message board?

She was "pet peeved" about standard wedding situations and someone else is crying about the big "lie" that was told. OP asked if it was normal, I think she has her answer now given the vast majority of people have said it is.

Yeah. I agree with you that this is standard, but nothing the OP did in response strikes me as outlandish, out of line behavior.

We can agree to disagree. I think it's weird to be "really pet peeved" that the groom had some family members at his wedding. So much so that I was still complaining about it days later.

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Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is...you guys want to bring your kids to a wedding? I'd rather have a night to just enjoy myself with DH while my kid is happy at home (or even in a hotel room) with a sitter. I don't want to be wrangling my kid the whole time.

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Neither do the parents - they just want their snowflake to run around, cause chaos and do WTH they want, bride and groom be damned. It's the snowflakes day after all, don't you know?!

Dammit it's just so hard to find a sitter. What a hassle. I have to pick up my phone and text someone to ask if they are available. It's like the bride and groom don't value me at all. The real kicker is when I can't bring the dog. What will Muffin do for the 6 hours I'm away? If I see the bride's dog there I'm going to stomp out in a fury and take my toaster with me.

Not a problem to find a sitter for an in-town wedding. It is out-of-town weddings that are a challenge. And if you are able to have family stay with your kids or your kid will do fine with a random stranger in a hotel, then consider yourself fortunate.

You aren't required to go to the wedding. If it doesn't work then just don't go. The wedding is not planned around your convenience. The bride and groom are planning the wedding they want, if it's a destination wedding then they know some people won't go and they are likely just inviting them out of obligation. Same for people who have to travel a long way. Unless it's immediate family just send regrets. Easy peasy.

People are actually not this rational and get really weird about their expectations of others on their wedding day. I had a friend who expected her grandmother to wheel her wheelchair a mile out into the woods for a ceremony. It is really not the case that if the bride makes attending difficult, then she is okay with you not coming.

And I bet a compromise or exception was made for a dear grandmother in a way an accommodation would not be made for dozens of children the bride and groom barely know because it's too hard to book a sitter.

No. What happened is exactly what happens here. The bride was irrationally angry at her grandmother. People tried to point out how the bride was being unreasonable, and she did backbends to prove that this wasn’t actually that difficult. Then, when her grandmother didn’t come, the bride held a grudge about it for years.

Somehow I don't think the bride and groom in this situation will care about OP if she holds a grudge for years because she couldn't bring her kids to their wedding. Who needs friends like that anyway?

You know. Sometimes you can be wrong. You didn’t make an accommodation for someone at your wedding. They didn’t attend, or they did and they were annoyed. You were almost certainly in the wrong. For most people, their wedding is the first formal party that they have ever thrown, and it’s huge, and there are all sorts of feelings about it.

It’s okay. Apologize to your grandma that couldn’t make it to your beach wedding or your friend that you yelled at for ruining your pictures by getting pregnant and move on. We all go a little crazy sometimes. Stop doing these crazy contortions to make yourself believe you were right.

WTF are you talking about? My own grandparents were dead and didn't make it to my wedding. Stop making other people's weddings all about you.

Did someone make your wedding all about them? Did they cut their hair and ruin your photos?
The OP got a sitter out of town for her child and went with her husband. What on earth does a wedding guest need to do to make you happy?

Are you out of your mind? The OP is out of line. She shouldn't have been surprised there were some kids in the wedding party at a wedding.

Are you out of your mind? What did she do that’s out of line? Be surprised? Post on an anonymous message board?

She was "pet peeved" about standard wedding situations and someone else is crying about the big "lie" that was told. OP asked if it was normal, I think she has her answer now given the vast majority of people have said it is.

Yeah. I agree with you that this is standard, but nothing the OP did in response strikes me as outlandish, out of line behavior.

No, it was not outlandish of her to hire a sitter and go to the wedding. She asked if the situation was normal. Yes, it is normal. No, she should not be offended that she had to hire a sitter or shocked that relatives of the bride and groom were there.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes it’s normal to have kids in the wedding and allow them to attend.

Nope.

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Anonymous wrote:Every time I attend a child free wedding I deduct the childcare expenses from their gift. Last time they got a whole 40 bucks from me and my wife. Your free to say no kids and I’m free to give what I want.

Just stay home, entitled loser.

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Anonymous wrote:We went way out of our way to go to a wedding, brought the kids because there is no where to leave them, found a babysitter in the wedding town and arrive to see tons of kids at the wedding. They were all "in the wedding party" but still I was really pet peeved to see that they basically allowed the entire grooms family to bring their kids and no one else.

Is that normal? I thought no kids meant 0 kids not even in the wedding party.

I agree with you and I had a no kids wedding and that meant no kids in wedding party. In your case, I would be livid. You should have called the babysitter and bring kids to reception.

And been refused at the door. That would have been glorious.

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Anonymous wrote:We had a no kids wedding. We also had a 4yo flower girl, 7yo ring bearer, and 12yo "junior usher". I don't know anyone who counts participants in the actual wedding party against the "no kids" rule.

I had a cousin who raised a stink about it. But her main issue was that I chose to use the son of my lifelong best friend as my ring bearer instead of her son. My cousin and I aren't even remotely close...she was invited to the wedding to appease my mother. My best friend is like a sister to me. No brainer.

No. A no kids wedding means no kids at all and this includes the wedding party.

Wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:No kids weddings mean they don't want you there. They just want your gift.

/hard pass

They want you there. They just don't want your ill-behaved, attention-seeking kids.

/growup

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Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is...you guys want to bring your kids to a wedding? I'd rather have a night to just enjoy myself with DH while my kid is happy at home (or even in a hotel room) with a sitter. I don't want to be wrangling my kid the whole time.

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Neither do the parents - they just want their snowflake to run around, cause chaos and do WTH they want, bride and groom be damned. It's the snowflakes day after all, don't you know?!

Dammit it's just so hard to find a sitter. What a hassle. I have to pick up my phone and text someone to ask if they are available. It's like the bride and groom don't value me at all. The real kicker is when I can't bring the dog. What will Muffin do for the 6 hours I'm away? If I see the bride's dog there I'm going to stomp out in a fury and take my toaster with me.

It is a hassle to find a sitter to come up a hotel in a town you have never been to before.

If you are unable to figure out a way to go to a wedding without bringing your kids, who are not invited, you can’t go. If the the bride is your bff and really really wants you there and you’ve explained this to her but she still doesn’t want your kids there it sounds like she’d prefer to have the whole family decline than invite the kids. So decline.

Or I can get a sitter and expect a parenting message board to recognize that it’s kind of a hassle.

I'm a parent and don't consider it to be a huge hassle to sometimes need a sitter. You're barking up the wrong tree. Lots of things are a hassle when you have kids. Are you a new parent?

No. My oldest child is 12.
I just had to get a sitter yesterday when I was called into work because someone had Covid. I needed someone from 3:30pm-2am. So probably wedding hours.
I had to go a dozen people into my list before I found someone who could do it. I’m surprised that you have never had an issue with childcare.

If only weddings gave you months of notice of the date and time, unlike COVID. Oh, wait. They do!

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Anonymous wrote:No kids weddings mean they don't want you there. They just want your gift.

/hard pass

They want you there. They just don't want your ill-behaved, attention-seeking kids.

/growup

Am I the only one imagining OP’s child as a well behaved tween who was disappointed not to go to the party?

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Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is...you guys want to bring your kids to a wedding? I'd rather have a night to just enjoy myself with DH while my kid is happy at home (or even in a hotel room) with a sitter. I don't want to be wrangling my kid the whole time.

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Neither do the parents - they just want their snowflake to run around, cause chaos and do WTH they want, bride and groom be damned. It's the snowflakes day after all, don't you know?!

Dammit it's just so hard to find a sitter. What a hassle. I have to pick up my phone and text someone to ask if they are available. It's like the bride and groom don't value me at all. The real kicker is when I can't bring the dog. What will Muffin do for the 6 hours I'm away? If I see the bride's dog there I'm going to stomp out in a fury and take my toaster with me.

Not a problem to find a sitter for an in-town wedding. It is out-of-town weddings that are a challenge. And if you are able to have family stay with your kids or your kid will do fine with a random stranger in a hotel, then consider yourself fortunate.

You aren't required to go to the wedding. If it doesn't work then just don't go. The wedding is not planned around your convenience. The bride and groom are planning the wedding they want, if it's a destination wedding then they know some people won't go and they are likely just inviting them out of obligation. Same for people who have to travel a long way. Unless it's immediate family just send regrets. Easy peasy.

People are actually not this rational and get really weird about their expectations of others on their wedding day. I had a friend who expected her grandmother to wheel her wheelchair a mile out into the woods for a ceremony. It is really not the case that if the bride makes attending difficult, then she is okay with you not coming.

And I bet a compromise or exception was made for a dear grandmother in a way an accommodation would not be made for dozens of children the bride and groom barely know because it's too hard to book a sitter.

No. What happened is exactly what happens here. The bride was irrationally angry at her grandmother. People tried to point out how the bride was being unreasonable, and she did backbends to prove that this wasn’t actually that difficult. Then, when her grandmother didn’t come, the bride held a grudge about it for years.

Somehow I don't think the bride and groom in this situation will care about OP if she holds a grudge for years because she couldn't bring her kids to their wedding. Who needs friends like that anyway?

You know. Sometimes you can be wrong. You didn’t make an accommodation for someone at your wedding. They didn’t attend, or they did and they were annoyed. You were almost certainly in the wrong. For most people, their wedding is the first formal party that they have ever thrown, and it’s huge, and there are all sorts of feelings about it.

It’s okay. Apologize to your grandma that couldn’t make it to your beach wedding or your friend that you yelled at for ruining your pictures by getting pregnant and move on. We all go a little crazy sometimes. Stop doing these crazy contortions to make yourself believe you were right.

WTF are you talking about? My own grandparents were dead and didn't make it to my wedding. Stop making other people's weddings all about you.

Did someone make your wedding all about them? Did they cut their hair and ruin your photos?
The OP got a sitter out of town for her child and went with her husband. What on earth does a wedding guest need to do to make you happy?

Are you out of your mind? The OP is out of line. She shouldn't have been surprised there were some kids in the wedding party at a wedding.

Are you out of your mind? What did she do that’s out of line? Be surprised? Post on an anonymous message board?

She was "pet peeved" about standard wedding situations and someone else is crying about the big "lie" that was told. OP asked if it was normal, I think she has her answer now given the vast majority of people have said it is.

Yeah. I agree with you that this is standard, but nothing the OP did in response strikes me as outlandish, out of line behavior.

No, it was not outlandish of her to hire a sitter and go to the wedding. She asked if the situation was normal. Yes, it is normal. No, she should not be offended that she had to hire a sitter or shocked that relatives of the bride and groom were there.

Right?
What’s with all of these people calling her a loser and saying that with friends like her, no one needs enemies?
I think she went above and beyond to go to this wedding, and it was kind of her. It is normal to invite some children and not others, but that doesn’t always mean that it’s right.

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Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is...you guys want to bring your kids to a wedding? I'd rather have a night to just enjoy myself with DH while my kid is happy at home (or even in a hotel room) with a sitter. I don't want to be wrangling my kid the whole time.

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Neither do the parents - they just want their snowflake to run around, cause chaos and do WTH they want, bride and groom be damned. It's the snowflakes day after all, don't you know?!

Dammit it's just so hard to find a sitter. What a hassle. I have to pick up my phone and text someone to ask if they are available. It's like the bride and groom don't value me at all. The real kicker is when I can't bring the dog. What will Muffin do for the 6 hours I'm away? If I see the bride's dog there I'm going to stomp out in a fury and take my toaster with me.

It is a hassle to find a sitter to come up a hotel in a town you have never been to before.

If you are unable to figure out a way to go to a wedding without bringing your kids, who are not invited, you can’t go. If the the bride is your bff and really really wants you there and you’ve explained this to her but she still doesn’t want your kids there it sounds like she’d prefer to have the whole family decline than invite the kids. So decline.

Or I can get a sitter and expect a parenting message board to recognize that it’s kind of a hassle.

I'm a parent and don't consider it to be a huge hassle to sometimes need a sitter. You're barking up the wrong tree. Lots of things are a hassle when you have kids. Are you a new parent?

No. My oldest child is 12.
I just had to get a sitter yesterday when I was called into work because someone had Covid. I needed someone from 3:30pm-2am. So probably wedding hours.
I had to go a dozen people into my list before I found someone who could do it. I’m surprised that you have never had an issue with childcare.

If only weddings gave you months of notice of the date and time, unlike COVID. Oh, wait. They do!

Ehh…I was responding to someone who said that she has never had to make more than one phone call to find childcare ever and asked if I was a new mom.

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Anonymous wrote:We had a no kids wedding. We also had a 4yo flower girl, 7yo ring bearer, and 12yo "junior usher". I don't know anyone who counts participants in the actual wedding party against the "no kids" rule.

I had a cousin who raised a stink about it. But her main issue was that I chose to use the son of my lifelong best friend as my ring bearer instead of her son. My cousin and I aren't even remotely close...she was invited to the wedding to appease my mother. My best friend is like a sister to me. No brainer.

No. A no kids wedding means no kids at all and this includes the wedding party.

Wrong.

+1. Seriously wondering if this pp has ever been to a wedding. Flower girls and ring bearers are typically children related to the bride and groom. They are very commonly at weddings. Their attendance does not mean all guests can bring along their kids. Is this not something everyone knows?