We just started dating and she called me out over a joke. Petty?

[Anonymous]

Kudos to her for flagging it early in the relationship that you cannot communicate to her top down

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Me personally, would dump someone like that. If I can’t be myself and she can’t take a joke, imagine the future together and always having to bite your tongue. That will get old after a while.

How is essentially calling someone stupid a joke?
Even without her reaction it wasn’t even funny.

It’s sarcasm. If she can’t have friendly banter back, then he should find a woman who will joke back with him, stupid joke or not. But not whine and demand an apology like her shit don’t stank.

It’s about compatibility. They just aren’t compatible. It seems like she wants a serious guy, nothing wrong with that. But these two seem incompatible.

He just said she does usually give it back to me and has a sense of humor. He just happened to be d!ck that day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:His joke implies he has no respect for her. If I were her, that would remain in the back of mind moving forward. I don't think he can unring that bell.

How does that show he has no respect for her? Not saying I agree or disagree, just curious.

[Anonymous]

My new-ish (6 months) boyfriend asked me what I was up to, I said I was catching up on the news, and asked where I go for news. I happily shared that I have set up an aggregate to get a broad sweep of perspectives. He only watches CNN. It was a nice conversation.

If a man threw a comment like that at me, I’d also take it as a personal jab. Believe it or not, women can be intellectual and also enjoy relaxing with some celebrity gossip.

[Anonymous]

OP, do you watch or read the news?

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Anonymous wrote:OP - when she asked if you thought she was an airhead what did you say?

Well technically she didn’t ask but I started laughing and said “woah , don’t say that about yourself”

I would let the joke slide if you apologized, but I wouldn't get over your illiteracy. The word is "whoa," not "woah."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, do you watch or read the news?

No…any news that I get is from my friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:His joke implies he has no respect for her. If I were her, that would remain in the back of mind moving forward. I don't think he can unring that bell.

You're ridiculous. Some of you ladies have major issues and you're going to have others in miserable relationships like yourself

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:His joke implies he has no respect for her. If I were her, that would remain in the back of mind moving forward. I don't think he can unring that bell.

How does that show he has no respect for her? Not saying I agree or disagree, just curious.

I don’t understand this either. Maybe she was having a bad day and feeling insecure and it touched her nerve. It was banter. He said that normally she would have a come back. That day she took it seriously. He said that she read gossip pages. No big deal. It was a joke. The only way to know why is to ask her.

[Anonymous]

I don’t even get why she got offended. TMZ is usually the first to report on things like celebrity news and deaths. And have you seen the actual news networks lately? It’s mainly gossip and propaganda too. Even CNN and Faux News have been talking about nonsensical Will Smith/Chris Rock all week. These days, National Enquirer is on par with Faux News and MSNBC.

[Anonymous]

I think she just regrets dating a guy who would mention National Inquirer/Star in conversation.

He's trashy.

[Anonymous]

This is why a certain kind of older man wants younger women. Older women are secure enough in themselves to not feel the need to pretend nothing bothers them, and call people out as needed. Many younger women have a harder time with that, so men can say offensive things and get away with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:His joke implies he has no respect for her. If I were her, that would remain in the back of mind moving forward. I don't think he can unring that bell.

How does that show he has no respect for her? Not saying I agree or disagree, just curious.

I don’t understand this either. Maybe she was having a bad day and feeling insecure and it touched her nerve. It was banter. He said that normally she would have a come back. That day she took it seriously. He said that she read gossip pages. No big deal. It was a joke. The only way to know why is to ask her.

This is not “banter”. Banter is witty and quick…this was just lazy and rude.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You were making fun of HER, so it is a bid deal. And it’s way too early in your relationship for that. A good joke would be one that you can both laugh about something other than either of you.

This.

Only nuts read National Enquirer and Star Magazine. Your words were biting and demeaning.

Only nuts and airhead women follow
celebrity gossip. So there is that.

[Anonymous]

Op you need to date someone dumber who won’t figure out that you’re low key insulting them with your lame “jokes.”