Middle School Culture Shock

[Anonymous]

That sounds like school in general in the DMV. Worst school environments I've ever experienced. Too many kids who are products of largely-absent parenting. It shows.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I sometimes have to remind myself that many of you come from cultures where your parents had arranged marriages, that even you were probably virgins when you married. I'm not making value judgments about those choices--I just hope they WERE choices--but it must color how you view your bodies and your daughters' bodies and what you teach your sons. It is probably not a coincidence that some of those countries also have disturbingly high percentages of rape and teen marriage. But again, no judgment. My grandma was a teen bride as well, although I'm not sure it was her shorts that led her to ruin, morelike the War. And the South.

and sometimes I have to remind myself that some of you were promiscuous as young teens. Probably were having sex at 13, and allowing their teens to have sex at home because you think it's "better" to do it at home than in a car or some such.

You know.. even some of the Hooter waitresses are blasting their new uniforms, which are even more revealing than the previous uniform. Why not let your 12 yr old wear the hooters uniform to school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That sounds like school in general in the DMV. Worst school environments I've ever experienced. Too many kids who are products of largely-absent parenting. It shows.

it's not unique to the DMV.

-signed someone who grew up on the west coast.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I sometimes have to remind myself that many of you come from cultures where your parents had arranged marriages, that even you were probably virgins when you married. I'm not making value judgments about those choices--I just hope they WERE choices--but it must color how you view your bodies and your daughters' bodies and what you teach your sons. It is probably not a coincidence that some of those countries also have disturbingly high percentages of rape and teen marriage. But again, no judgment. My grandma was a teen bride as well, although I'm not sure it was her shorts that led her to ruin, morelike the War. And the South.

and sometimes I have to remind myself that some of you were promiscuous as young teens. Probably were having sex at 13, and allowing their teens to have sex at home because you think it's "better" to do it at home than in a car or some such.

You know.. even some of the Hooter waitresses are blasting their new uniforms, which are even more revealing than the previous uniform. Why not let your 12 yr old wear the hooters uniform to school?

Shorter PP: Slut-shaming? Fine with me! Sluts should be shamed!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another way to read this "shock" about Middle School:

Kids are wearing the same clothes they were wearing in elementary, only now the girls are going through puberty.

Some parents are horrified by this.

And you wonder why so many girl children are suddenly NB or trans.

Wait! So mean girl moms have pushed children to be non binary or trans? Wow!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So thankful my kids do distance learning/homeschool. They spend time with kids who still act like kids and there's none of these issues.

Questioning authority and adopting adult behaviors actually is acting like kids, though - for kids who are in middle school.

Agreed and eventually kids are exposed to porn / drugs / swearing / skimpy clothes (not necessarily in that order). How will they handle that? Know several young people who got their taste of freedom and went off the deep end. If you think that only “bad, unloved, public school” kids become [b]drug addicts and find themselves in very unhappy relationships think again.

That's a stretch. I don't think that prolonging childhood into the young teen years will lead to those problems. The homeschool children and families we know have similar values and want to give their kids time to mature. When they come across all these things, they will be older and more mature and in a much better position to handle these things than a 10 year old. My 9 yo nephew learned what "tossed salad" was at school. No one needs to know that. So glad we can choose our kids' cohorts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So thankful my kids do distance learning/homeschool. They spend time with kids who still act like kids and there's none of these issues.

Questioning authority and adopting adult behaviors actually is acting like kids, though - for kids who are in middle school.

Agreed and eventually kids are exposed to porn / drugs / swearing / skimpy clothes (not necessarily in that order). How will they handle that? Know several young people who got their taste of freedom and went off the deep end. If you think that only “bad, unloved, public school” kids become drug addicts and find themselves in very unhappy relationships think again.

That's a stretch. I don't think that prolonging childhood into the young teen years will lead to those problems. The homeschool children and families we know have similar values and want to give their kids time to mature. [b]When they come across all these things, they will be older and more mature and in a much better position to handle these things than a 10 year old. My 9 yo nephew learned what "tossed salad" was at school. No one needs to know that. So glad we can choose our kids' cohorts.

Alternative view: when they come across all these things, they will be old enough that they will be legal adults far from parental supervision and able to be charged as adults.

[Anonymous]

Not just swearing, but also watching anime on Chromebook, and disobeying the teachers, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I popped into this thread to see what the fuss was and am totally amused for I see a bunch of supposed adults behaving like packs of opposing mean girl groups in middle school.

For those so busy proclaiming what they would or would not allow their middle school students to wear, I have news for you. Middle school girls change outfits all the time when they arrive at school, often into clothes a friend brought. Your daughter may be one of the kids you are so busy judging here.

- MS teacher

I doubt it's "often." Gmab.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not just swearing, but also watching anime on Chromebook, and disobeying the teachers, etc.

Oh no! Watching anime! Etc.!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So thankful my kids do distance learning/homeschool. They spend time with kids who still act like kids and there's none of these issues.

Questioning authority and adopting adult behaviors actually is acting like kids, though - for kids who are in middle school.

Agreed and eventually kids are exposed to porn / drugs / swearing / skimpy clothes (not necessarily in that order). How will they handle that? Know several young people who got their taste of freedom and went off the deep end. If you think that only “bad, unloved, public school” kids become [b]drug addicts and find themselves in very unhappy relationships think again.

That's a stretch. I don't think that prolonging childhood into the young teen years will lead to those problems. The homeschool children and families we know have similar values and want to give their kids time to mature. When they come across all these things, they will be older and more mature and in a much better position to handle these things than a 10 year old. My 9 yo nephew learned what "tossed salad" was at school. No one needs to know that. So glad we can choose our kids' cohorts.

Your post makes no sense. "tossed salad" is a silly example. My child eats tons of salad but we don't use the term tossed salad so what's the difference. How you feed your kids has nothing to do with school. If you want to keep your kids in a bubble go for it but that's also not health for them and depending on how you homeschool they may not be getting the proper education.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not just swearing, but also watching anime on Chromebook, and disobeying the teachers, etc.

Oh no! Watching anime! Etc.!

What's wrong with anime? Not all of it is bad. The swearing and disobeying teachers is a parenting issue. It doesn't matter where or how they go to school but you need to make it unacceptable in your home. And, don't use a chromebook at home so you can monitor what goes on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That sounds like school in general in the DMV. Worst school environments I've ever experienced. Too many kids who are products of largely-absent parenting. It shows.

This is the biggest issue. Parenting. Many think their job is over come 3/4th grade in terms of supervision and monitoring. Its not just the DMV but everywhere. Parents what to be their kids friends and don't set limits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Not just swearing, but also watching anime on Chromebook, and disobeying the teachers, etc.

Oh no! Watching anime! Etc.!

[i][/b]What's wrong with anime?[b] Not all of it is bad. The swearing and disobeying teachers is a parenting issue. It doesn't matter where or how they go to school but you need to make it unacceptable in your home. And, don't use a chromebook at home so you can monitor what goes on.

The kids at my middle school are watching anime porn so…

Signed,
A school psychologist

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So thankful my kids do distance learning/homeschool. They spend time with kids who still act like kids and there's none of these issues.

Questioning authority and adopting adult behaviors actually is acting like kids, though - for kids who are in middle school.

Agreed and eventually kids are exposed to porn / drugs / swearing / skimpy clothes (not necessarily in that order). How will they handle that? Know several young people who got their taste of freedom and went off the deep end. If you think that only “bad, unloved, public school” kids become [b]drug addicts and find themselves in very unhappy relationships think again.

That's a stretch. I don't think that prolonging childhood into the young teen years will lead to those problems. The homeschool children and families we know have similar values and want to give their kids time to mature. When they come across all these things, they will be older and more mature and in a much better position to handle these things than a 10 year old. My 9 yo nephew learned what "tossed salad" was at school. No one needs to know that. So glad we can choose our kids' cohorts.

Your post makes no sense. "tossed salad" is a silly example. My child eats tons of salad but we don't use the term tossed salad so what's the difference. How you feed your kids has nothing to do with school. If you want to keep your kids in a bubble go for it but that's also not health for them and depending on how you homeschool they may not be getting the proper education.

DP

What?? Not sure if this is sarcasm?

PP, Google the term ‘tossed salad’.

My kid learned about ‘felching’ in elementary school.