If you're bothered by your kids entering the master bedroom, why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would your child need to entertain a friend in your bedroom? Explore your drawers and closests? Bathroom products? No thanks!

But OP of the other thread seemed to think it should be an obvious, bright-line rule for any child to never enter a parental bedroom, not merely that kids should go find somewhere else to play. That’s what I don’t get. My kids breeze in and out of my bedroom all the time. I wouldn’t expect them to be like “BUT WAIT NOW I HAVE A GUEST SO I CAN’T” and much less so for the guest to have been taught not to ever enter an adult’s bedroom.

Please stop mischaracterizing OP’s post. It’s clearly about kids going in there during a play date. We can easily infer that it’s when a parent isn’t there:

There is one of my daughter’s friends who always goes into the primary bedroom during play dates[i], despite us repeatedly telling her not to. Should I say something to the parents?

I personally have taught my daughters not to go in the parents’ bedrooms or other private areas of the home during a play date. [b]Am I the only one who cares about this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would your child need to entertain a friend in your bedroom? Explore your drawers and closests? Bathroom products? No thanks!

But OP of the other thread seemed to think it should be an obvious, bright-line rule for any child to never enter a parental bedroom, not merely that kids should go find somewhere else to play. That’s what I don’t get. My kids breeze in and out of my bedroom all the time. I wouldn’t expect them to be like “BUT WAIT NOW I HAVE A GUEST SO I CAN’T” and much less so for the guest to have been taught not to ever enter an adult’s bedroom.

Please stop mischaracterizing OP’s post. It’s clearly about kids going in there during a play date. We can easily infer that it’s when a parent isn’t there:

There is one of my daughter’s friends who always goes into the primary bedroom during play dates[i], despite us repeatedly telling her not to. Should I say something to the parents?

I personally have taught my daughters not to go in the parents’ bedrooms or other private areas of the home during a play date. [b]Am I the only one who cares about this?

I have no idea what you’re correcting. I never said the parent was in the room. My post is about what my expectations of my kids, and their guests, are during play dates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids ask before entering my room because it is not a common area of the home. They have to knock and ask to enter a sibling’s room as well. Privacy and boundaries are important lessons to learn.

Same rule in our house. I always knock on their door too before entering.there is no barging into bathrooms or bedrooms.

[Anonymous]

Simple, get locks.

[Anonymous]

I want a private space. I want to be able to leave out my books and papers without the kids looking at them or moving things around. If I make my bed, I want it to stay the way I made it.

[Anonymous]

You have to ask? It's an adults bedroom. I could have a vibrator, a gun or drugs on my nightstand. I shouldn't have guest children in my bedroom. I telly kids all the time my bedroom is an adult space. They don't listen of course and like to snuggle with us but there is a big difference if I'm there. I'm being extreme but I just don't feel an adult bedroom is a place for children especially children that aren't mine.

I don't want kids in my children's bedroom let alone my own bedroom.

[Anonymous]

Because my jewelry is in there, and some expensive handbags and shoes, and my more precious breakable items, such as a small lamp that has been in my family for generations.

I don’t want kids who are not my own in my room. My kids definitely know not to touch the lamp, for example. They’ve been given the rules not to touch my jewelry without asking me first, whereas another kid might be allowed to get in her mother’s jewelry.

My house, my rules. Why do you care about my preferences for my home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would your child need to entertain a friend in your bedroom? Explore your drawers and closests? Bathroom products? No thanks!

But OP of the other thread seemed to think it should be an obvious, bright-line rule for any child to never enter a parental bedroom, not merely that kids should go find somewhere else to play. That’s what I don’t get. My kids breeze in and out of my bedroom all the time. I wouldn’t expect them to be like “BUT WAIT NOW I HAVE A GUEST SO I CAN’T” and much less so for the guest to have been taught not to ever enter an adult’s bedroom.

Well trained children should know this.

+1. My children have been raised to even ask if they can go into their grandparents’ bedroom, and guess what? The answer isn’t always “yes.” For example, my mom wraps gifts on a card table in the corner of her bedroom during the Christmas season, and my dad sometimes works on model airplanes (drying glue). And with my ILs, my FIL has some medical devices that he would rather not have them see and ask about. So the answer isn’t always “yes” even for very close family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would your child need to entertain a friend in your bedroom? Explore your drawers and closests? Bathroom products? No thanks!

But OP of the other thread seemed to think it should be an obvious, bright-line rule for any child to never enter a parental bedroom, not merely that kids should go find somewhere else to play. That’s what I don’t get. My kids breeze in and out of my bedroom all the time. I wouldn’t expect them to be like “BUT WAIT NOW I HAVE A GUEST SO I CAN’T” and much less so for the guest to have been taught not to ever enter an adult’s bedroom.

Please stop mischaracterizing OP’s post. It’s clearly about kids going in there during a play date. We can easily infer that it’s when a parent isn’t there:

There is one of my daughter’s friends who always goes into the primary bedroom during play dates[i], despite us repeatedly telling her not to. Should I say something to the parents?

I personally have taught my daughters not to go in the parents’ bedrooms or other private areas of the home during a play date. [b]Am I the only one who cares about this?

I have no idea what you’re correcting. I never said the parent was in the room. My post is about what my expectations of my kids, and their guests, are during play dates.

Why do you think your kids should have free rein not only in your house but in other's homes as well?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would your child need to entertain a friend in your bedroom? Explore your drawers and closests? Bathroom products? No thanks!

But OP of the other thread seemed to think it should be an obvious, bright-line rule for any child to never enter a parental bedroom, not merely that kids should go find somewhere else to play. That’s what I don’t get. My kids breeze in and out of my bedroom all the time. I wouldn’t expect them to be like “BUT WAIT NOW I HAVE A GUEST SO I CAN’T” and much less so for the guest to have been taught not to ever enter an adult’s bedroom.

Except OP has made this rule clear to her kids, so they know what's allowed when friends are over.


Further if you were teaching your kids any boundaries at all, your own child would have pause before going into a room that's not their's nor their friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would your child need to entertain a friend in your bedroom? Explore your drawers and closests? Bathroom products? No thanks!

But OP of the other thread seemed to think it should be an obvious, bright-line rule for any child to never enter a parental bedroom, not merely that kids should go find somewhere else to play. That’s what I don’t get. My kids breeze in and out of my bedroom all the time. I wouldn’t expect them to be like “BUT WAIT NOW I HAVE A GUEST SO I CAN’T” and much less so for the guest to have been taught not to ever enter an adult’s bedroom.

Please stop mischaracterizing OP’s post. It’s clearly about kids going in there during a play date. We can easily infer that it’s when a parent isn’t there:

There is one of my daughter’s friends who always goes into the primary bedroom during play dates[i], despite us repeatedly telling her not to. Should I say something to the parents?

I personally have taught my daughters not to go in the parents’ bedrooms or other private areas of the home during a play date. [b]Am I the only one who cares about this?

I have no idea what you’re correcting. I never said the parent was in the room. My post is about what my expectations of my kids, and their guests, are during play dates.

What's so damn confusing about it? Are you also confused about why you and your kids aren't allowed into the roped of areas of the zoo or museum? Do you become upset at the employees only signs on doors?

[Anonymous]

My house is way too small to have rules about that so my bedroom is living space. However I don’t recall my son ever doing this on a play date and he’s a behaviorally tough kid. I’ll be sure to lay the rules out for my daughter if she has play dates in the future.

But good grief, so much judgment for the million things I’m supposed to train my kid for. Makes me want yo opt out of that mess completely.

[Anonymous]

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+1. My children have been raised to even ask if they can go into their grandparents’ bedroom, and guess what? The answer isn’t always “yes.” For example, my mom wraps gifts on a card table in the corner of her bedroom during the Christmas season, and my dad sometimes works on model airplanes (drying glue). And with my ILs, my FIL has some medical devices that he would rather not have them see and ask about. So the answer isn’t always “yes” even for very close family.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids ask before entering my room because it is not a common area of the home. They have to knock and ask to enter a sibling’s room as well. Privacy and boundaries are important lessons to learn.

Same rule in our house. I always knock on their door too before entering.there is no barging into bathrooms or bedrooms.

Anonymous wrote:The above is exactly why I have the master bedroom rule. I wouldn’t want my child thinking it’s ok to stroll into just any part of another person’s home when visiting, or thinking for example that she can open her dormmate’s closet and view her clothes in college. I’d rather teach those lessons young.

Pretty much all of these boundaries are a good thing. They exist within families and within society for a reason. I have lived with people and dated people who were raised with the "communal " mindset, and I firmly agree these things need to be taught early.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have to ask? It's an adults bedroom. I could have a vibrator, a gun or drugs on my nightstand. I shouldn't have guest children in my bedroom. I telly kids all the time my bedroom is an adult space. They don't listen of course and like to snuggle with us but there is a big difference if I'm there. I'm being extreme but I just don't feel an adult bedroom is a place for children especially children that aren't mine.

I don't want kids in my children's bedroom let alone my own bedroom.

All of those items are negligence and us illegal moron

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would your child need to entertain a friend in your bedroom? Explore your drawers and closests? Bathroom products? No thanks!

But OP of the other thread seemed to think it should be an obvious, bright-line rule for any child to never enter a parental bedroom, not merely that kids should go find somewhere else to play. That’s what I don’t get. My kids breeze in and out of my bedroom all the time. I wouldn’t expect them to be like “BUT WAIT NOW I HAVE A GUEST SO I CAN’T” and much less so for the guest to have been taught not to ever enter an adult’s bedroom.

Please stop mischaracterizing OP’s post. It’s clearly about kids going in there during a play date. We can easily infer that it’s when a parent isn’t there:

There is one of my daughter’s friends who always goes into the primary bedroom during play dates[i], despite us repeatedly telling her not to. Should I say something to the parents?

I personally have taught my daughters not to go in the parents’ bedrooms or other private areas of the home during a play date. [b]Am I the only one who cares about this?

I have no idea what you’re correcting. I never said the parent was in the room. My post is about what my expectations of my kids, and their guests, are during play dates.

What's so damn confusing about it? Are you also confused about why you and your kids aren't allowed into the roped of areas of the zoo or museum? Do you become upset at the employees only signs on doors?

But I’m not mischaracterizing anything. I am completely consistent with the post.