If you're bothered by your kids entering the master bedroom, why?

Anonymous
I’m really surprised that people are defending their kids right to go into their friends parents bedrooms. It would never cross my mind that this was appropriate to the point that I’ve never considered bringing it up with my kids. If a friend told me my kid was found poking around their bedroom I’d be as surprised and dismayed as if they told me my kid brought the hose into the living room or something. Like just because I haven’t specifically told you to not spray the living room with a hose doesn’t mean it’s appropriate and I’d expect my kid to know the same about going into some other adults BEDROOM!
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Because my jewelry is in there, and some expensive handbags and shoes, and my more precious breakable items, such as a small lamp that has been in my family for generations.

I don’t want kids who are not my own in my room. My kids definitely know not to touch the lamp, for example. They’ve been given the rules not to touch my jewelry without asking me first, whereas another kid might be allowed to get in her mother’s jewelry.

My house, my rules. Why do you care about my preferences for my home?



Couldn’t you say that about a living room or a den?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My kids I’m not bothered one bit.

But other kids, he’ll no. I don’t like other kids or adults going in there. Usually I didn’t pick up that room so it looks messy. Also, it seems like an invasion of privacy to me.


You care if kids see a mess? What is in there tgat requires privacy?


What could possibly be in a married couples bedroom that requires privacy?????

Lubrications, vibrators, condoms, birth control.
Medications by the nightstand for blood pressure or thyroid or one of a hundred other medical conditions.
My dirty underwear in the corner.
My husbands anti fungal foot cream on the bedside table.
My purse and my wallet.

Tell your kid to stay out of other parents bedrooms! How is this something to argue?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My kids I’m not bothered one bit.

But other kids, he’ll no. I don’t like other kids or adults going in there. Usually I didn’t pick up that room so it looks messy. Also, it seems like an invasion of privacy to me.


You care if kids see a mess? What is in there tgat requires privacy?


NP. “What is there that requires privacy?” Is it that you can’t read, or that you are stupid? People have said:
1) Expensive exercise equipment
2) Sex toys
3) Medications (if a kid is intrusive and snoopy enough to be in the master bedroom, they’ll have no problem going into the bathroom/medicine cabinet)
4) HOME OFFICE/DESK. HELLO. Nearly everyone I know has had to set up a secondary office during COVID. Mine’s in the corner of my master bedroom. I don’t want your oafish, boundary-crossing kid near my pro photography and design equipment.
5) Medical devices and machinery
6) And yes, mess. When people come over, the common areas of my home are spotless. I don’t need your kid to see my bras, underwear and lingerie in a laundry basket.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Because my jewelry is in there, and some expensive handbags and shoes, and my more precious breakable items, such as a small lamp that has been in my family for generations.

I don’t want kids who are not my own in my room. My kids definitely know not to touch the lamp, for example. They’ve been given the rules not to touch my jewelry without asking me first, whereas another kid might be allowed to get in her mother’s jewelry.

My house, my rules. Why do you care about my preferences for my home?



Couldn’t you say that about a living room or a den?


I don’t have sex nightly in my den and I don’t keep my personal medical supplies in my den. If you can’t tell the difference between walking into someone’s den and walking into the closed master bedroom when you’re visiting someone’s home, I can’t help you.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:All of you people defending not teaching your children about public/private space, do you think your child should take food out of the fridge on a play date without asking? Take a pen from the mom's purse? Look up something on the internet on the mom's phone which is lying there?


That so funny when I was a teen I was at a friends. I asked for a drink, the mom said I think your old enough to get it yourself. Um okay just asking. Then she freaked out that I was drinking her Diet Coke, cause apparently those are “gor moms”.

Not everybody has the same rules, not everybody knows your rules.
Anonymous
There is no reason to open the closed door of a homes master bedroom and go inside unless it is to snoop. This goes for adult or child house guests. No toys in there, no food in there, nothing you need in there. It’s clearly a private area of the home to anyone with a brain.

All of these posters saying it’s totally fine- do you go into the master bedroom at dinner parties? If so, why? And has your hostess ever caught you?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I’m really surprised that people are defending their kids right to go into their friends parents bedrooms. It would never cross my mind that this was appropriate to the point that I’ve never considered bringing it up with my kids. If a friend told me my kid was found poking around their bedroom I’d be as surprised and dismayed as if they told me my kid brought the hose into the living room or something. Like just because I haven’t specifically told you to not spray the living room with a hose doesn’t mean it’s appropriate and I’d expect my kid to know the same about going into some other adults BEDROOM!


SAME!!

I thought I was a really chill parent but when it comes to my bedroom, or any bedroom that isn’t the friend of the kid we are having over, that is a private space and requires permission to enter it! Just like I would never wander into the bedroom in a home that wasn’t mine unless I was invited in.

I will definitely tell my kids not to go into other people’s bedrooms. I have told them that bedrooms are private but I never explicitly stated that they shouldn’t go into their friends’ parent’s bedrooms so I guess i need to make sure they know that’s not okay.
Anonymous
This is making me want to buy a “PRIVATE- DO NOT ENTER” sign for my bedroom the next time we have people over for drinks. I had no idea there were so many adults out there who think it’s nbd to go into the master bedroom, uninvited and without the home owner knowing, while at someone else’s home!
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Because my jewelry is in there, and some expensive handbags and shoes, and my more precious breakable items, such as a small lamp that has been in my family for generations.

I don’t want kids who are not my own in my room. My kids definitely know not to touch the lamp, for example. They’ve been given the rules not to touch my jewelry without asking me first, whereas another kid might be allowed to get in her mother’s jewelry.

My house, my rules. Why do you care about my preferences for my home?



Couldn’t you say that about a living room or a den?


I don’t have sex nightly in my den and I don’t keep my personal medical supplies in my den. If you can’t tell the difference between walking into someone’s den and walking into the closed master bedroom when you’re visiting someone’s home, I can’t help you.


But you do have breakables in the den, your reason for not letting someone in there

Why not say I have cum stains on my bed and I don’t want people to see them if that’s the reason… why say you have breakables.

Also medication you are afraid kids will condume sure should be locked up.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why would your child need to entertain a friend in your bedroom? Explore your drawers and closests? Bathroom products? No thanks!


But OP of the other thread seemed to think it should be an obvious, bright-line rule for any child to never enter a parental bedroom, not merely that kids should go find somewhere else to play. That’s what I don’t get. My kids breeze in and out of my bedroom all the time. I wouldn’t expect them to be like “BUT WAIT NOW I HAVE A GUEST SO I CAN’T” and much less so for the guest to have been taught not to ever enter an adult’s bedroom.


Well trained children should know this.


+1. Adults have adults things in their rooms. My kids may use our bathroom in an emergency of course, but otherwise they have no need to be in there without permission.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Because my jewelry is in there, and some expensive handbags and shoes, and my more precious breakable items, such as a small lamp that has been in my family for generations.

I don’t want kids who are not my own in my room. My kids definitely know not to touch the lamp, for example. They’ve been given the rules not to touch my jewelry without asking me first, whereas another kid might be allowed to get in her mother’s jewelry.

My house, my rules. Why do you care about my preferences for my home?



Couldn’t you say that about a living room or a den?


I don’t have sex nightly in my den and I don’t keep my personal medical supplies in my den. If you can’t tell the difference between walking into someone’s den and walking into the closed master bedroom when you’re visiting someone’s home, I can’t help you.


But you do have breakables in the den, your reason for not letting someone in there

Why not say I have cum stains on my bed and I don’t want people to see them if that’s the reason… why say you have breakables.

Also medication you are afraid kids will condume sure should be locked up.


It’s in the medicine cabinet IN THE MASTER BEDROOM, so no, I don’t expect my 3rd graders friends to be playing in there and discussing my vitamin regimen. If you think this is somehow appropriate and not rude beyond all belief, again, I can’t help you. A den or a family room is normal to enter while visiting a home. The master bedroom, and the medicine cabinet in this example, are not.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Because my jewelry is in there, and some expensive handbags and shoes, and my more precious breakable items, such as a small lamp that has been in my family for generations.

I don’t want kids who are not my own in my room. My kids definitely know not to touch the lamp, for example. They’ve been given the rules not to touch my jewelry without asking me first, whereas another kid might be allowed to get in her mother’s jewelry.

My house, my rules. Why do you care about my preferences for my home?



Couldn’t you say that about a living room or a den?


I don’t have sex nightly in my den and I don’t keep my personal medical supplies in my den. If you can’t tell the difference between walking into someone’s den and walking into the closed master bedroom when you’re visiting someone’s home, I can’t help you.


But you do have breakables in the den, your reason for not letting someone in there

Why not say I have cum stains on my bed and I don’t want people to see them if that’s the reason… why say you have breakables.

Also medication you are afraid kids will condume sure should be locked up.


Asking not as a joke or to be rude but are you on the spectrum? Trying to understand your point of view.
Anonymous
^^just meaning the picking apart of specific examples of why it’s not okay to go into some adults bedroom without asking, without kind of grasping the underlying “that’s not what polite people do and everyone just knows not to snoop in other adults bedrooms”
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Because my jewelry is in there, and some expensive handbags and shoes, and my more precious breakable items, such as a small lamp that has been in my family for generations.

I don’t want kids who are not my own in my room. My kids definitely know not to touch the lamp, for example. They’ve been given the rules not to touch my jewelry without asking me first, whereas another kid might be allowed to get in her mother’s jewelry.

My house, my rules. Why do you care about my preferences for my home?



Couldn’t you say that about a living room or a den?


Yes. And if that was the case, I’d make it clear at the start, and I would expect the visiting child to respect my house, my rules.

My husband had to create a makeshift office in one corner of our basement during the pandemic, with important documents out on the desk. As such, half of the basement became a no-go zone for my kids. Now that things are better, it’s still a no-go zone for the very few kids we’ve had over for play dates.

Again: my house, my rules, and I expect visiting kids to obey the rules of my home. What about this DON’T you get?
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