If you're bothered by your kids entering the master bedroom, why?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why would your child need to entertain a friend in your bedroom? Explore your drawers and closests? Bathroom products? No thanks!

But OP of the other thread seemed to think it should be an obvious, bright-line rule for any child to never enter a parental bedroom, not merely that kids should go find somewhere else to play. That’s what I don’t get. My kids breeze in and out of my bedroom all the time. I wouldn’t expect them to be like “BUT WAIT NOW I HAVE A GUEST SO I CAN’T” and much less so for the guest to have been taught not to ever enter an adult’s bedroom.

Well trained children should know this.

+1. My children have been raised to even ask if they can go into their grandparents’ bedroom, and guess what? The answer isn’t always “yes.” For example, my mom wraps gifts on a card table in the corner of her bedroom during the Christmas season, and my dad sometimes works on model airplanes (drying glue). And with my ILs, my FIL has some medical devices that he would rather not have them see and ask about. So the answer isn’t always “yes” even for very close family.

So. Much. This. My uncle has Parkinson’s, and there’s some medical equipment he wouldn’t want others to see. When we have family events at his house (it’s easiest for he and his wife to stay in place, and family to bring over the food and then clean up before leaving), all the grandkids/nieces and nephews have been raised to respect privacy and not go into any bedroom unless invited to do so.

Some people have expensive workout equipment in their bedroom. Some people have jewelry in their bedroom. And yes, I’ll say it, I do have sex toys!

Post-COVID, my main work space is now in a corner of my bedroom. I have a computer and monitors and work papers in there; Little Timmy doesn’t need to be near any of that.

Here’s what: if you are fine with kids and visitors being in your bedroom, that’s great. But it is also fine that I am not OK with kids and visitors being in my bedroom, without first gaining permission to be there. As evidenced by this very thread, about 50% of the population doesn’t want your kids in their bedrooms during play dates, so guess what you need to teach your kids not to do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would your child need to entertain a friend in your bedroom? Explore your drawers and closests? Bathroom products? No thanks!

But OP of the other thread seemed to think it should be an obvious, bright-line rule for any child to never enter a parental bedroom, not merely that kids should go find somewhere else to play. That’s what I don’t get. My kids breeze in and out of my bedroom all the time. I wouldn’t expect them to be like “BUT WAIT NOW I HAVE A GUEST SO I CAN’T” and much less so for the guest to have been taught not to ever enter an adult’s bedroom.

Please stop mischaracterizing OP’s post. It’s clearly about kids going in there during a play date. We can easily infer that it’s when a parent isn’t there:

There is one of my daughter’s friends who always goes into the primary bedroom during play dates[i], despite us repeatedly telling her not to. Should I say something to the parents?

I personally have taught my daughters not to go in the parents’ bedrooms or other private areas of the home during a play date. [b]Am I the only one who cares about this?

I have no idea what you’re correcting. I never said the parent was in the room. My post is about what my expectations of my kids, and their guests, are during play dates.

What's so damn confusing about it? Are you also confused about why you and your kids aren't allowed into the roped of areas of the zoo or museum? Do you become upset at the employees only signs on doors?

But I’m not mischaracterizing anything. I am completely consistent with the post.

You are mishcaretierizing the original , op, and pp properly corrected you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You have to ask? It's an adults bedroom. I could have a vibrator, a gun or drugs on my nightstand. I shouldn't have guest children in my bedroom. I telly kids all the time my bedroom is an adult space. They don't listen of course and like to snuggle with us but there is a big difference if I'm there. I'm being extreme but I just don't feel an adult bedroom is a place for children especially children that aren't mine.

I don't want kids in my children's bedroom let alone my own bedroom.

All of those items are negligence and us illegal moron

A vibrator is not illegal nor is it considered negligince.
Drugs depending on the drug are not illegal, you could argue for negligience. Same with a gun.

[Anonymous]

Because I value my privacy. And I teach my children to respect the privacy of others.

[Anonymous]

Play date kids shouldn't be going in any bedroom.

Not only are they personal spaces, it's where we place any meds we take.

One of my friends had to end up locking her bedroom (with the small key / opening device) hidden above the door--so kids wouldn't get in and start going through drawers. And the drunk parents wouldn't get in during parties and start having sex on their bed.

[Anonymous]

I remember that on a play date I decided it was a good idea and would be socially advantageous to show my friends where my brother stored his porn (then in paper form) in this room.

You really don't know what kids will show their friends, or what they will start uncovering.

Now it could be ruining fancy small electronics stored out of the way in bedrooms, taking legal or illegal meds stored in a private place, sex stuff, or work related items in home offices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s about respecting people’s privacy. My kids can come into our bedroom. But they know other kids cannot and they should never enter anyone’s master bedroom. That is not a public part of the house.

. This. Out kids are always welcome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Play date kids shouldn't be going in any bedroom.

Not only are they personal spaces, it's where we place any meds we take.

One of my friends had to end up locking her bedroom (with the small key / opening device) hidden above the door--so kids wouldn't get in and start going through drawers. And the drunk parents wouldn't get in during parties and start having sex on their bed.

Time for your friend to find new friends!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Play date kids shouldn't be going in any bedroom.

Not only are they personal spaces, it's where we place any meds we take.

One of my friends had to end up locking her bedroom (with the small key / opening device) hidden above the door--so kids wouldn't get in and start going through drawers. And the drunk parents wouldn't get in during parties and start having sex on their bed.

Time for your friend to find new friends!

+1

[Anonymous]

Because I have sex toys in the master and I don’t want to get angry phone calls from parents that their kid saw a vibrator. That’s why.

[Anonymous]

All of you people defending not teaching your children about public/private space, do you think your child should take food out of the fridge on a play date without asking? Take a pen from the mom's purse? Look up something on the internet on the mom's phone which is lying there?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All of you people defending not teaching your children about public/private space, do you think your child should take food out of the fridge on a play date without asking? Take a pen from the mom's purse? Look up something on the internet on the mom's phone which is lying there?

This.

[Anonymous]

I don’t want my kids in my room because they pick things up, mess with them, break them, or put them back in the wrong place. I keep my things out of the way in most of the house, but I like to be able to leave a puzzle half-done or my sunglasses sitting out on the dresser or, god forbid, a cool toy like my label-maker, without someone getting into it.

They’re welcome to come ask for help or get hugs or whatever when I’m there, unless I ask for privacy, but they’re not supposed to go in unattended.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You have to ask? It's an adults bedroom. I could have a vibrator, a gun or drugs on my nightstand. I shouldn't have guest children in my bedroom. I telly kids all the time my bedroom is an adult space. They don't listen of course and like to snuggle with us but there is a big difference if I'm there. I'm being extreme but I just don't feel an adult bedroom is a place for children especially children that aren't mine.

I don't want kids in my children's bedroom let alone my own bedroom.

All of those items are negligence and us illegal moron

My vibrator and my daily medications are illegal? And negligent to keep in my nightstand of my adult bedroom? Interesting. Ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids I’m not bothered one bit.

But other kids, he’ll no. I don’t like other kids or adults going in there. Usually I didn’t pick up that room so it looks messy. Also, it seems like an invasion of privacy to me.

You care if kids see a mess? What is in there tgat requires privacy?