Have you ever just accepted your higher weight?
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Anonymous
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It's not the number on the scale that bothers me. It's that most distracting bulge of fat that decided to live on my belly!!! I mean, why can't it have spread itself out discreetly over a greater expanse of my body? I wouldn't even have noticed it! But no, it had to go there, where it sits like a pregnant mound awkwardly perched over my SLENDER frame. UGH. I don't want to have to thin down to skeletal proportions to get rid of it. But I don't want it there. Liposuction? Tummy tuck? Does that need general anesthesia? I hate surgery. |
Anonymous
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Yes. To a certain degree I tried to accept it. I just have a hard time living it. I stopped weighing myself daily, as it was a source of shame. And I stopped working out as punishment for over eating.
For me, I can be comfortable at a higher weight, but it seems to effect my clothing choices. I tend to wear baggier clothes and things that are more comfortable - like jeans. As a working mom, I’m fine with this and still enjoy my days with my kids. DH is not a fan. He doesn’t think the extra weight looks good and hates the way I usually dress for comfort. We are trying to meet somewhere in the middle. I’m making more of an effort to dress nicer for a date night, but told him to back off on the weight comments and asking me how much I’ve gained. |
Anonymous
If my husband ever asked me how much weight I have gained or commented on my weight, I would FLIP OUT. What an ass. |
Anonymous
Agree. I'm not a trophy wive to be judged on my appearances and weight. |
Anonymous
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I’m 142 at 4’11
Yes I hate that I’m just accepting it I can’t find myself to get into the habit to go to gym and fix my eating habits 
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Anonymous
| I’m 33 5’3” and at 135lb. This is where I ended up after three kids in 4.5 years. No I’m not setting! Started getting serious about losing the baby weight in March since baby was 9 months and I’m not as worried about maintaining my milk supply. Guess what? I’ve lost 13lbs in 10 weeks. Don’t despair and start paying attention. You could be halfway to your goal weight by Labor Day and back at it my Christmas. I figured I better get my weight back down now because I’m never going to be this young again. If you are done having babies there is no excuse. |
Anonymous
Keep in mind that not everyone is done having babies in their early 30s, as you were. I had my third in 4.5 years shortly before turning 40, and plenty of women have kids into their early/mid-40s. Yes, that matters, at least for the amount of work we're willing to put in to lose weight, which may or may not matter for our health. At my thinnest adult weight, I was depressed and on Wellbutrin, which suppressed my appetite. I'm not going to take an appetite suppressant solely to stay the thinnest I ever was, especially not when there's no health reason for me to (I exercise daily, sleep well, can fit into my clothes, etc.). My goals are to age as healthily as possible and keep up with my life demands as long as I can without significant modifications. |
Anonymous
| No, I never did. After 5 years post-partum at your weight, I prioritized fitness. I have kept my weight 115-120 range, lower than it was in high school. But very few people are willing to make all the sacrifices I do: no alcohol or meat, very little white flour or dairy, and HIIT cardio 6-7 days/week. If I had had a successful career instead of SAH, I likely would not be as driven to excel in this area. For most, accepting the extra weight makes sense and brings peace. Do what makes you happy. |
Anonymous
| All winter long when I can wear jeans and sweaters. Then spring comes... |
Anonymous
| Yes I have and others have said, the other side is so good op- it’s so freeing to not be worried about it. It actually makes me eat healthier ironically. The dietician I worked with said her goal is actually not necessarily body positivity but posy neutrality - basically you aren’t even thinking about it that much. So don’t feel like you have to get to this “omg my body is amazing I love every curve” moment, just try to stop thinking about it so much and embrace the freedom in that. I used to say the same things “I just don’t feel like myself, don’t feel as healthy” it was all in my head. Once I let go of the number I feel plenty like myself now, plenty agile and healthy. |
Anonymous
I was content at a higher weight until my second baby was 19 years old. My excuse was that I didn't really care what I weighed and had other things to worry about. I got bored during COVID quarantine and made a project out of losing 30 or 40 pounds which I accomplished pretty easily at 48. More importantly, something clicked in my mindset and I finally have a healthy relationship with real food and exercise for the first time in my life (I was a teen anorexic and a 30-40-something sugar addict). |
Anonymous
Unless OP is a large-framed person 112 is a perfectly healthy weight. It's within the range of normal for BMI. Does she NEED to get down to 112? Of course not, but she knows this already. |
Anonymous
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IF has been the only thing thats worked for me. I have always worked out regularly, but similar to you, after having a child my weight just seemed to settle at a place that wasn’t necessarily bad/overweight , just more weight than I was comfortable with.
I started IF when the pandemic hit last year and lost almost 20 lbs. And I haven’t been super restrictive either. I know its not for everyone but might be worth a shot. |
Anonymous
| Nope. I’be been a personal trainer since I was 22. I’m 54 and still training and teaching yoga. All of my education is in sports medicine. I understand the health risks that come with being overweight and will never accept that as ok. That said, you are not overweight, OP. If you’re unhappy with the way your body feels, add some light cardio and resistance training to your life. You’ll feel much better, regardless of the number on the scale. |
Anonymous
| No. It's hard to just accept when you're short. 5-10 pounds means needing a different wardrobe. |