Have you ever just accepted your higher weight?

[Anonymous]

I’m 33, 5’4” and around 133 lbs. My happiest weight (at which I felt most like myself) was 112 lbs pre-baby. I’ve been at this new weight since my child was born, 2 years ago. It doesn’t seem like a crazy amount, but I feel slower, less agile and uncomfortable at this weight. I know logically I am healthy, but I feel like I will never be happy at this weight. But maybe that’s weird. Have you ever gotten to acceptance of a “new normal“?

[Anonymous]

Pretty much

[Anonymous]

What you need to do is get rid of your disordered way of thinking about health.

Your literally only happy of you are just above the boarder of underweight

[Anonymous]

This is me. I’m 35. 5’9 and 170 lbs. I have toned arms and legs with a bit of a “mom midsection”. I used to be 154 and a size 4/6 now I am a size 8. I am in now way overweight looking but the number on the scale really bugs me. I exercise 5-6 days per week and get 10,000+ steps per day. my diet is 80/20 with lots of veggies and lean protein. I drink 80+ oz of water a day. I feel like I am healthy and my body is happy at this weight. I could definitely restrict my diet way further to get back to my 25 year old weight but at what cost?

[Anonymous]

I have and I’m much much much heavier than you.

I’m so much happier.

[Anonymous]

I haven’t, because I know I have these extra pounds due to how I was “eating my emotions”. I am happy now and would feel better if my body was back at the weight I prefer for my preferred sports and exercise forms. And, because no one makes a sports bra that actually fits and supports my size. It’s ridiculous. But losing 20 lbs will shrink my chest enough that I’ll be in a “normal” bra size again and get rid of all the shoulder pain from poorly fitted bras.

[Anonymous]

Op you were underweight before. Your weight right now is fine. Maybe try losing 5-10 lbs and see how you feel and if it is 1) doable and 2) maintainable without extremes. But trying to get back to 112 is probably unhealthy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is me. I’m 35. 5’9 and 170 lbs. I have toned arms and legs with a bit of a “mom midsection”. I used to be 154 and a size 4/6 now I am a size 8. I am in now way overweight looking but the number on the scale really bugs me. I exercise 5-6 days per week and get 10,000+ steps per day. my diet is 80/20 with lots of veggies and lean protein. I drink 80+ oz of water a day. I feel like I am healthy and my body is happy at this weight. I could definitely restrict my diet way further to get back to my 25 year old weight but at what cost?

Gurl you thicc now just get some jeans that show off your booty. High rise to suck in the midsection.

[Anonymous]

Yes! I used to be 5'3" and 120, about a size 4. I was able to maintain it fairly well (always work) until perimenopause. Then I went up to about 133 or so, nothing fit, and I didn't feel great - seemed like insulin resistance was up, carb cravings like crazy, hangry (not to mention hair loss, insomnia, brain fog and night sweats). My middle also expanded. I needed to do something about all those symptoms and hormones were not for me (bad history for me and my family). I went keto, intermittent fasting, removed grains and dairy (I've always eaten tons of vegetables, so no change there). At my highest I was about a size 8-10, and I actually accepted that I was never going to be a 4 again, and got rid of all of those clothes. Lucky for me, with the diet for my symptoms, I lost a bit of weight, and am now at about 126-128, and around a 6-8 size. I'm totally happy with this. It doesn't mean I won't gain weight, but that's only if I eat mindlessly while watching tv at night, mostly this is sustainable for me - the least amount of time I've spent thinking about food or battling my entire life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes! I used to be 5'3" and 120, about a size 4. I was able to maintain it fairly well (always work) until perimenopause. Then I went up to about 133 or so, nothing fit, and I didn't feel great - seemed like insulin resistance was up, carb cravings like crazy, hangry (not to mention hair loss, insomnia, brain fog and night sweats). My middle also expanded. I needed to do something about all those symptoms and hormones were not for me (bad history for me and my family). I went keto, intermittent fasting, removed grains and dairy (I've always eaten tons of vegetables, so no change there). At my highest I was about a size 8-10, and I actually accepted that I was never going to be a 4 again, and got rid of all of those clothes. Lucky for me, with the diet for my symptoms, I lost a bit of weight, and am now at about 126-128, and around a 6-8 size. I'm totally happy with this. It doesn't mean I won't gain weight, but that's only if I eat mindlessly while watching tv at night, mostly this is sustainable for me - the least amount of time I've spent thinking about food or battling my entire life.

So 6-8 pounds heavier? Doesn’t seem like that should be difficult to accept.

[Anonymous]

You are 33. Losing some 10lbs should not be that hard. Just work out some.

[Anonymous]

I am working on this. I have my grandma's health (thyroid) issues and body type. (German farm wife). I remember watching her weigh and measure her food as a child. She dieted until the day she died. And she was still heavy. I am not sure I want to do that.

[Anonymous]

I just accepted it. Long time ago.
Ive never been skinny, even as a child - heavy bones, wide frame, 5'7"
After first child, I tried very hard, got down to 140 lb, but couldn't maintain it, 155-160 was much more comfortable.
Moved to USA, quicky got to 180 Ang got stuck there for years. Up and down 15-20lb, another pregnancy, baby weight, but 180 was a magic number I couldn't get below it. So, it was my new normal.
Then, due to medical issues, I got to almost 230, and that was too much - couldn't bring myself to shop in women's 16+ not to mention high blood pressure and prediabetic A1C.
Made some changes in the diet, so now down to 200, still working to get to 180-185, but at least sugar is back to normal. Even if I don't lose more weight - I'm fine where I am.

[Anonymous]

I stopped focusing on the scale and started focusing on how strong and fit I feel- am I sleeping well? Can I run 3 miles? Am I exercising 3-5 times a week? Am I eating enough fruits and vegetables?

I bought new clothes in size 8-10 and now as long as those fit, I don't focus on the number on the scale.

[Anonymous]

Yes. It’s so freeing and awesome to not be thinking about it on a regular basis.