I agree with you OP, and it sends a REALLY bad message to our young children that we don't want to be with them. We would not be mothers if it wasn't for them. |
I spend hours a day with my children. I make nearly all their meals. I buy all their clothes. I do their laundry, I wash their dishes, I make sure they are bathed, teeth brushed, see doctors regularly, get tutors when they need them, have a loving home, when they’re sad I comfort them, when they’re mad I help them process it. I do plenty with and for them. An afternoon in the hammock reading a book of my own choosing and ignoring their needs in favor of my own for one day won’t wreck their childhood. |
OP, how old are your kids? I felt as you do when my kids were little, but over the years, when that magical alternative Day for Mom to Do Something for Herself Day doesn't materialize, you change your mind. The reality is that for most of us, Mother's Day is just another day of obligation where we we pay tribute to our mothers and mothers in law. |
This has to be a troll. No one can be that dense. |
Of course they can. It's two of the DCUM classics: black and white thinking (you spend all day with your kids or you don't see them at all) and everyone must do things exactly the same as I do (I just can't fathom what these mothers are thinking). |
This. Little kids do not Mark time in such a way that they will notice if you spend part of the day getting a manicure. |
I understand being lazy, lounging in the bed and taking a long soak in the bath tub...but can't understand being away from the kids. Don't mind if they get in the bed with me and snuggle and nap. I am all for takeout and letting things slide as far as chores are concerned. Plus, the breakfast in tray is toooooo darn cute to pass up on any day, let alone mother's day. Are your kids not cute? Are they unlovable and hideous? I can't understand the idea of not Mothering. Being with your children and lazing together is Mothering. |
I mean...I am going to see my kids (all under 4) and do a little Mother’s Day brunch at home but you bet I’m spending most of the day by myself doing whatever I want to do.
I don’t think it would ever occur to them that I’m doing something alone because I don’t love them. I mother all day every day, I’m using Mother’s Day to reward myself for the hard work I put in. And I can love my kids and also love myself |
+1. Kids generally want to participate in doing something celebratory but they move on quickly. |
Based on your post, I'm not surprised. Barf. |
I mean I love a snuggly breakfast in bed with the kids but there like 10 more hours in the day. And they are cute but a massage sounds great. |
Ugh the idea of mothers day being about spending more special time with kids makes me cringe.
I am not entirely alone for Mother’s Day, we still have nice times together, but my kids know that I need alone time and they respect that (and when they were too little to understand they didn’t care). |
My husband and I both claim every day with our kids as a positive experience to claim a right to, and not something to be avoided. So you go ahead and judge me for celebrating one day where I only see them for brunch before having a spa day. I see my kids every day. I’m a full-time parent. I’m with my loved ones every day. |
I think peoples opinions on this depend on their circumstance. As a sahm I love celebrating Mother’s Day with the kids with breakfast in bed but I’m not exactly desperate to spend the whole day mothering them. I’m lucky enough that that’s everyday. So I choose to do something special for myself on Mother’s Day. |
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