Spend Mothers' Day Not Mothering?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:As a mom, I was taken aback when I saw that other moms of young kids were planning to celebrate the day by not being with their kids. Sure, we all need a break now and then. But specifically asking to not have your kids around as the way to celebrate being a mother seems really odd to me.

How do the little children feel about this? I imagine this would have hurt my feelings when I was a child.

You think that it would have hurt your feelings as a child is, on Mother's Day, your Mom wanted to do something that she wanted to do, that didn't involve you?

I hope you've since sought help for . . . whatever this affliction is called.

Np. Yes it would have hurt my feelings.

Pick a different Sunday to have a day to yourself. Some little kids do pick up on the sense that you would rather NOT celebrate being a mom.

I say this as someone who relished in spending my first Mothers Day sleeping. Once my kid was old enough to care, I decided to allow him to do Mother's Day with me.

How many mother’s days have you spent with this child? Do you have other children? Do you work outside the home? Is your child in school? Are you married? Were you not worried that in the future, your child might be upset when he finds out you preferred to sleep instead of spending the day celebrating his existence since that’s what allows you to be a mother?

I don't know where you're going with these questions but I'm not answering them all.

What's your point?

[Anonymous]

Her point is to try to shame you, obviously. Her mother must not have raised her right, to feel a need to shame other women for sharing their opinions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a mom, I was taken aback when I saw that other moms of young kids were planning to celebrate the day by not being with their kids. Sure, we all need a break now and then. But specifically asking to not have your kids around as the way to celebrate being a mother seems really odd to me.

How do the little children feel about this? I imagine this would have hurt my feelings when I was a child.

You think that it would have hurt your feelings as a child is, on Mother's Day, your Mom wanted to do something that she wanted to do, that didn't involve you?

I hope you've since sought help for . . . whatever this affliction is called.

Np. Yes it would have hurt my feelings.

Pick a different Sunday to have a day to yourself. Some little kids do pick up on the sense that you would rather NOT celebrate being a mom.

I say this as someone who relished in spending my first Mothers Day sleeping. Once my kid was old enough to care, I decided to allow him to do Mother's Day with me.

How many mother’s days have you spent with this child? Do you have other children? Do you work outside the home? Is your child in school? Are you married? Were you not worried that in the future, your child might be upset when he finds out you preferred to sleep instead of spending the day celebrating his existence since that’s what allows you to be a mother?

I don't know where you're going with these questions but I'm not answering them all.

What's your point?

I am very confident that my children know that I love them and love being a mom. If they were upset that I wanted a break on a day that is supposed to celebrate me, well, that is crazy.

[Anonymous]

Well I came downstairs to a note from dh and cold coffee. He’d taken the kids out hiking for the day. So bummed and crying now. I guess I had thought I’d wake up to toddler snuggles and breakfast in bed. I’d even stayed in bed until 9:30 waiting. I would have gone hiking. I’m sure it pregnancy hormone but I’m just sad to not see them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well I came downstairs to a note from dh and cold coffee. He’d taken the kids out hiking for the day. So bummed and crying now. I guess I had thought I’d wake up to toddler snuggles and breakfast in bed. I’d even stayed in bed until 9:30 waiting. I would have gone hiking. I’m sure it pregnancy hormone but I’m just sad to not see them

You stayed in bed not realizing your house was completely silent? Do you and your spouse frequently not discuss your plans or expectations? Why do you keep having kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well I came downstairs to a note from dh and cold coffee. He’d taken the kids out hiking for the day. So bummed and crying now. I guess I had thought I’d wake up to toddler snuggles and breakfast in bed. I’d even stayed in bed until 9:30 waiting. I would have gone hiking. I’m sure it pregnancy hormone but I’m just sad to not see them

Omg you’re so pathetic. Did you and your husband not communicate about what would happen today? This isn’t your first rodeo.

[Anonymous]

I'm just amazed at her toddlers stamina, its not easy for a 2 year old to hike all day.

[Anonymous]

Sipping coffee without my child right now. Feels glorious.

Mom will bring her by around lunch.

Chilllax, oP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well I came downstairs to a note from dh and cold coffee. He’d taken the kids out hiking for the day. So bummed and crying now. I guess I had thought I’d wake up to toddler snuggles and breakfast in bed. I’d even stayed in bed until 9:30 waiting. I would have gone hiking. I’m sure it pregnancy hormone but I’m just sad to not see them

Omg you’re so pathetic. Did you and your husband not communicate about what would happen today? This isn’t your first rodeo.

Oh, be nice. She’s pregnant with weird pregnant hormones that make us lose our rabbit ass minds.

[Anonymous]

Trying not to laugh here. My daughter announced this morning her head is itchy. Spending a good part of today treating lice, nit picking and cleaning. Will order pizza and make the most of the day.

[Anonymous]

My 5 year old excitedly told me I could do lots of special stuff for Mother’s Day. He said “you can use the downstairs bathroom to poop!!!” And when I declined to poop in the powder room he was disappointed. Because that was my surprise present. To poop in the powder room.

[Anonymous]

OP, nothing worse than moms hating on other moms for no reason at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a mom, I was taken aback when I saw that other moms of young kids were planning to celebrate the day by not being with their kids. Sure, we all need a break now and then. But specifically asking to not have your kids around as the way to celebrate being a mother seems really odd to me.

How do the little children feel about this? I imagine this would have hurt my feelings when I was a child.

You think that it would have hurt your feelings as a child is, on Mother's Day, your Mom wanted to do something that she wanted to do, that didn't involve you?

I hope you've since sought help for . . . whatever this affliction is called.

Np. Yes it would have hurt my feelings.

Pick a different Sunday to have a day to yourself. Some little kids do pick up on the sense that you would rather NOT celebrate being a mom.

I say this as someone who relished in spending my first Mothers Day sleeping. Once my kid was old enough to care, I decided to allow him to do Mother's Day with me.

How many mother’s days have you spent with this child? Do you have other children? Do you work outside the home? Is your child in school? Are you married? Were you not worried that in the future, your child might be upset when he finds out you preferred to sleep instead of spending the day celebrating his existence since that’s what allows you to be a mother?

BOlded is literally the polar opposite of what mothers day is. By that logic my mother should be celebrating me today? WHAT?

That’s sort of the point. She’s calling people out for having time to herself but she took time to sleep instead of celebrating being a mom all day. She said she’d be sad if her mom did that. Wont her kid be sad to find out she took time to herself someday? That’s how ridiculous the whole thing is. It’s all about judging others and finding loopholes for herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a mom, I was taken aback when I saw that other moms of young kids were planning to celebrate the day by not being with their kids. Sure, we all need a break now and then. But specifically asking to not have your kids around as the way to celebrate being a mother seems really odd to me.

How do the little children feel about this? I imagine this would have hurt my feelings when I was a child.

You think that it would have hurt your feelings as a child is, on Mother's Day, your Mom wanted to do something that she wanted to do, that didn't involve you?

I hope you've since sought help for . . . whatever this affliction is called.

Np. Yes it would have hurt my feelings.

Pick a different Sunday to have a day to yourself. Some little kids do pick up on the sense that you would rather NOT celebrate being a mom.

I say this as someone who relished in spending my first Mothers Day sleeping. Once my kid was old enough to care, I decided to allow him to do Mother's Day with me.

How many mother’s days have you spent with this child? Do you have other children? Do you work outside the home? Is your child in school? Are you married? Were you not worried that in the future, your child might be upset when he finds out you preferred to sleep instead of spending the day celebrating his existence since that’s what allows you to be a mother?

BOlded is literally the polar opposite of what mothers day is. By that logic my mother should be celebrating me today? WHAT?

That’s sort of the point. She’s calling people out for having time to herself but she took time to sleep instead of celebrating being a mom all day. She said she’d be sad if her mom did that. Wont her kid be sad to find out she took time to herself someday? That’s how ridiculous the whole thing is. It’s all about judging others and finding loopholes for herself.

NP. This thread is like Inception. I can’t tell what’s real anymore.

[Anonymous]

I feel like a lot of the moms who ‘shame’ other moms for wanting time to themselves must not have toddlers. I have a 2 and a 5 year old and, honestly, my world for a quiet afternoon with a cup of tea and a book. Maybe if the kids were older I’d feel differently.