My politics contradict my sexual preferences

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's the question?

I have trouble finding men who share my political values but am also attracted to.

Welcome to the real world of finding a compatible spouse/partner.

It’s really not any different than any other “preference” that others have but can’t find.

We would not have incels if this were not a thing.

You don’t have a “right” to be in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a liberal. Actually, some would call me a leftist. I'm as far to the left as you can get on social, economic, and foreign policy issues. My politics are important to me and I want someone who shares my values.

But I'm "aesthetically conservative." A friend of mine put it that way and it fits me perfectly. I prefer to be traditionally feminine and I am attracted to traditionally masculine men.

I like to think I treat people equally and I can befriend people of any gender or gender expression or body type or outward appearance, but attraction is attraction and I can't form a physical relationship with a more gender-neutral-ish man. I've had relationships fail because of lack of interest on my part in the bedroom because men who share my politics tend to be too fragile, too passive, and too gender-bending. Even when they were handsome in their own ways. And their preferences have been unconventional as well, I want to be appreciated as a traditionally feminine woman. As much as I can respect others as individuals for their preferences and their sexuality, I really can't be turned on in the bedroom unless I am in my feminine and he is in his masculine. It's just the way I'm wired.

Yeah, who you like to f@ck is your own business is a liberal position. I’m liberal and submissive in the bedroom. DH knows that does not apply to how I view our finances, my career, politics, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Um, good for you, I guess? Nobody expects you to justify who you're attracted to. You don't have to be a crunch birkenstock wearer to be a liberal, and you don't have to marry an emo guy either.

+1 This is a pretty infantile understanding of human nature, OP. Life is not the first day of public school in Mean Girls where everyone's entire personality/worldview/wardrobe is captured by what group they're sitting with in the cafeteria.

+ 2. Moronic post and topic.

[Anonymous]

A lot of the straight conservative guys are secretly male submissives and into sissy role play, cuckholding, pegging, and other kink.

[Anonymous]

You probably meet people you are attracted to and assume they have horrifying political views but maybe they are liberal. Do you literally ask political views when you meet people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's the question?

I have trouble finding men who share my political values but am also attracted to.

Sort for politics first. Go down to the nearest lefty event and pick the person who attracts you from among those present.

This is how I found my spouse!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of the straight conservative guys are secretly male submissives and into sissy role play, cuckholding, pegging, and other kink.

^^^^ this or in the closet

[Anonymous]

There is no rule you can only date people with the same political views as you. My DH and I differ and it has never been an issue. We vote how we want and respect each other’s opinion. Neither of us are Antifa/Proud Boy level of political zeal.

[Anonymous]

Whaaaaat are you talking about?? So you are conventionally attractive and like to dress pretty but are a liberal? Is that unusual? Even Lauren Conrad is a liberal these days. Have you seen Hollywood?

[Anonymous]

I’ve had no problem finding liberal guys who are manly and know how to dominate me in the bedroom.
, open doors for me, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hear you. I am white and my wife is African-American, and we are both super-liberal. However, we engage in a lot of racial abuse and master/slave role-play in the bedroom.

That's mind-boggling to me.

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OP, I could've written your post, except I've never thought to put it into words like that. But I am newly single and wondering how I will meet anyone who really gets my fire going but is also "on the level."

[Anonymous]

Written by a young conservative male incel troll with a limited understanding of adult relationships in general and female sexuality specifically.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whatever. You do you. Have the sex you want. No one else cares. It's not important to anyone but you.

x2.

P.S. Stop dating betas.

[Anonymous]

Just say it's your kink.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's the question?

I have trouble finding men who share my political values but am also attracted to.

Sort for politics first. Go down to the nearest lefty event and pick the person who attracts you from among those present.

This is how I found my spouse!

This. DH was not kinky when I met him. I converted him. It was hard at first to convince him that I wanted (needed) him to dominate me.

Give an engineer some rope.