Strangers who talk to toddlers having tantrums

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you deal with this strange, attention-seeking behavior in 780-month-olds?

It's always middle-aged men and women who squat down and address tantruming toddlers directly, with exaggerated facial gestures and a sing-songy voice “What’s wrooooooong, sweet-ums???” It. Literally. Never. Helps. and is so annoying/invasive.

So the person who is responsible for the loud screaming and fussing in a public space is complaining that someone else's behavior is annoying and invasive. Got it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you deal with this strange, attention-seeking behavior in 780-month-olds?

It's always middle-aged men and women who squat down and address tantruming toddlers directly, with exaggerated facial gestures and a sing-songy voice “What’s wrooooooong, sweet-ums???” It. Literally. Never. Helps. and is so annoying/invasive.

Yeah. What a bunch of jerks, trying to help out a frazzled parent who’s clearly lost control of a situation as their kid makes everyone miserable.

If this has happened to you more than once in life, I suspect people perceive you as a sh$tty parent who can’t manage her own child. Focus on that.

+1

[Anonymous]

Those are Europeans. They don't know that in US you don't help others to put your kid in check in a nice or harsh way.. lucky you raise your kid here...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you deal with this strange, attention-seeking behavior in 780-month-olds?

It's always middle-aged men and women who squat down and address tantruming toddlers directly, with exaggerated facial gestures and a sing-songy voice “What’s wrooooooong, sweet-ums???” It. Literally. Never. Helps. and is so annoying/invasive.

Yeah. What a bunch of jerks, trying to help out a frazzled parent who’s clearly lost control of a situation as their kid makes everyone miserable.

If this has happened to you more than once in life, I suspect people perceive you as a sh$tty parent who can’t manage her own child. Focus on that.

+1

People are trying to help and sometimes when a stranger intervenes it pops the tantruming kid out of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you deal with this strange, attention-seeking behavior in 780-month-olds?

It's always middle-aged men and women who squat down and address tantruming toddlers directly, with exaggerated facial gestures and a sing-songy voice “What’s wrooooooong, sweet-ums???” It. Literally. Never. Helps. and is so annoying/invasive.

How often does this happen to you?

[Anonymous]

You remember that some of us grew up in communities where people reached out to help one another, then you politely say something like: “ Thank you, but I’ll handle this on my own”.

See, at least some of us seriously debated whether and how to intervene before we approached you. Then we remembered the times when someone, often a stranger reached out to help us, and how much we appreciated it. All you need to do is make it clear that our efforts are not appreciated and most of us will go away.

This sort of thing sticks with us though, so the next time you’re juggling a double stroller and a bag of groceries, you might have to ask for help if it happens that you’d like assistance.

[Anonymous]

If I try to help, you fuss. If I ignore and walk over your child because the kid is laying out and flopping around on the sidewalk screaming, you fuss.

[Anonymous]

If your kid is having a tantrum, especially inside, you remove them from the store, restaurant or situation. It happens but you don't have to subject others or teach your kid its ok to tantrum as Mom/Dad will just ignore and not care how it impacts others.

Some people can calm down kids easier than others. Its not rocket science. Prevention goes a long way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is why I never try to help parents. I used to hold doors for people struggling with strollers, but it seems the "it takes a village" crowd only wants the village when it's convenient. So parents are invisible to me.

So because people don’t want you parenting for them, you’ve decided to become rude and not hold the door for people struggling with a stroller?

I've never tried to parent for anyone. But if parents are going to decide that the road to hell is paved with good intentions, then why bother? I don't slam doors in anyone's face, but I used to be the type of person who if I noticed someone trying to get in or out of somewhere I'd lend a hand. Not anymore.

Also it's a bit funny to call talking to a child "parenting" them.

Trying to get a tantruming toddler to calm down is very much parenting them.

You frankly just sound rude,

So which do you want? Do you want strangers to help or do you want them to ignore you and your child? Frankly, you can't have it both ways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you deal with this strange, attention-seeking behavior in 780-month-olds?

It's always middle-aged men and women who squat down and address tantruming toddlers directly, with exaggerated facial gestures and a sing-songy voice “What’s wrooooooong, sweet-ums???” It. Literally. Never. Helps. and is so annoying/invasive.

So the person who is responsible for the loud screaming and fussing in a public space is complaining that someone else's behavior is annoying and invasive. Got it.

+1

[Anonymous]

I had random people on the street tell me loudly “it’s hard being a toddler” when my toddler was melting down. He had epic meltdowns for about 2 years. It always made me feel bad when people said this. I heard them saying “have some sympathy for your struggling kid you crappy mom”.

[Anonymous]

I’ve never seen this happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Those are Europeans. They don't know that in US you don't help others to put your kid in check in a nice or harsh way.. lucky you raise your kid here...

I'm European with two WILD boys and I'm getting the heck out of there when tantrums are involved. The only time I intervened / grabbed a kid was when a 3 year old jumped in front of a car; the family parked on the side of Georgetown pike near clemyjontri and he darted into the road. His mom spanked his butt, European style.

[Anonymous]

Your icky-cutesy post makes me want to tantrum.

[Anonymous]

It is this type of post that makes me lose faith in humanity. This poster is hating on people trying to help her.