When you host a group of teens on vacation:

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When we do this, we pay for everything unless the child is bringing something home as a gift or souvenir.

So a tee shirt? guest pays
Small light up toy for sibling: kid pays

The only exception is if the item is something the kids want together (matching shirts, for example) - then I pay. Precovid - when we flew- we also didn’t pay for airfare.

You don't pay for airfare!?

As long as things are made clear up front, I don't see the problem with that.

We have similar arrangements for some family vacations. The older generation might rent a big house for everyone to stay for the week, but everyone is responsible for the cost of getting themselves to the house.

[Anonymous]

We invited my son's friend to the beach with us last summer. I paid for everything even though his mom sent him with money.

[Anonymous]

Don’t invite if you don’t plan on paying for everything except souvenirs. That just asking for awkwardness or issues. And invite 1 or 3. Not 2. No one wants to be the lone odd man out for activities, or just in general.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When we do this, we pay for everything unless the child is bringing something home as a gift or souvenir.

So a tee shirt? guest pays
Small light up toy for sibling: kid pays

The only exception is if the item is something the kids want together (matching shirts, for example) - then I pay. Precovid - when we flew- we also didn’t pay for airfare.

You don't pay for airfare!?

That is weird. You pay the airfare. WTF

[Anonymous]

When my kid gets invited to go away with other families (most commonly to ski house) I always send him with money for snacks, buy his ski ticket, and usually toss some extra money at the family bringing him just to cover incidentals/extra groceries. I love that he gets invites and these fun experiences and I’m happy to cover as much of the financial side as possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are considering bringing 2 or 3 of 15 yos friends on a vacation. We would pay for travel and lodging, but would we also be expected to pay for all other expenses, as well? Souvenirs, activities etc.

We paid for everything except souvenir money. If by chance the parents didn’t send any money, we bought a few souvenirs as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my kid gets invited to go away with other families (most commonly to ski house) I always send him with money for snacks, buy his ski ticket, and usually toss some extra money at the family bringing him just to cover incidentals/extra groceries. I love that he gets invites and these fun experiences and I’m happy to cover as much of the financial side as possible.

I'm with this, although I did get a good laugh out of the "we pay 20k each vacation on extra friends" cohort here.

I'm happy when dcs friends have a little extra room in the hotel or bnb. I don't consider inviting him to use that space and hang out as an invitation to also pay for his meals, excursions, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When we do this, we pay for everything unless the child is bringing something home as a gift or souvenir.

So a tee shirt? guest pays
Small light up toy for sibling: kid pays

The only exception is if the item is something the kids want together (matching shirts, for example) - then I pay. Precovid - when we flew- we also didn’t pay for airfare.

You don't pay for airfare!?

Ha, no, sorry, not sorry. We typically spend a lot of money on vacations. Adding extra kids to escape rooms, restaurants, amusement parks, etc., is more than generous. Heck, one quick fun stop for sbux and I’m out $30-$40 for just the kids, no adults.

[Anonymous]

PP who takes kids on vacations. Some parents have sent us packages while we were on trips. We have some really cool games and got some gift cards and wine baskets.

[Anonymous]

For those of you all inclusive inviters:
How much are you spending per guest?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When we do this, we pay for everything unless the child is bringing something home as a gift or souvenir.

So a tee shirt? guest pays
Small light up toy for sibling: kid pays

The only exception is if the item is something the kids want together (matching shirts, for example) - then I pay. Precovid - when we flew- we also didn’t pay for airfare.

You don't pay for airfare!?

Ha, no, sorry, not sorry. We typically spend a lot of money on vacations. Adding extra kids to escape rooms, restaurants, amusement parks, etc., is more than generous. Heck, one quick fun stop for sbux and I’m out $30-$40 for just the kids, no adults.

Not really.

[Anonymous]

Parents should send money for their kids. It will probably never cover all expenses but it will help. Besides that kid’s parents will get a break. Who wouldn’t pay for kid free, overnight time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my kid gets invited to go away with other families (most commonly to ski house) I always send him with money for snacks, buy his ski ticket, and usually toss some extra money at the family bringing him just to cover incidentals/extra groceries. I love that he gets invites and these fun experiences and I’m happy to cover as much of the financial side as possible.

+1

But be sure to return the favor. This comes from a parent who ALWAYS invites others but never gets invitations in return. It doesn’t have to be something expensive or extravagant but just something! I hate mooching, unappreciative parents-Not cool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my kid gets invited to go away with other families (most commonly to ski house) I always send him with money for snacks, buy his ski ticket, and usually toss some extra money at the family bringing him just to cover incidentals/extra groceries. I love that he gets invites and these fun experiences and I’m happy to cover as much of the financial side as possible.

+1

But be sure to return the favor. This comes from a parent who ALWAYS invites others but never gets invitations in return. It doesn’t have to be something expensive or extravagant but just something! I hate mooching, unappreciative parents-Not cool.

You should not expect a return invite. I have zero interest in taking another kid due to cost and family time nor do we take many trips. If we go away every few years it’s a lot for us. I am not paying for a second room and wanting to take care of your kid on vacation. You do it so you have entertainment for your kids. It’s for you, not them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When we do this, we pay for everything unless the child is bringing something home as a gift or souvenir.

So a tee shirt? guest pays
Small light up toy for sibling: kid pays

The only exception is if the item is something the kids want together (matching shirts, for example) - then I pay. Precovid - when we flew- we also didn’t pay for airfare.

You don't pay for airfare!?

Ha, no, sorry, not sorry. We typically spend a lot of money on vacations. Adding extra kids to escape rooms, restaurants, amusement parks, etc., is more than generous. Heck, one quick fun stop for sbux and I’m out $30-$40 for just the kids, no adults.

Not really.

Not everyone wants a break and you just want the extra kids to entertain yours.