Help me... Husband thinks I only need less than a week of leave
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Anonymous
yeah reminds me of my DH and MIL ... they claimed “MIL will be the nanny!” When I pointed out we would need childcare 5 days a week for 8-9 hours/day, MIL was like “oh, I guess I won’t be the nanny.” In that case I think they weren’t realizing that *I* had to work at my real job. |
Anonymous
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I honestly could have been okay physically, but I was nursing all night long and had trouble doing major things in life due to sleep deprivation (using knives, making left hand turns, remembering anything). Maybe your husband could formula feed all night long instead of you breastfeeding? I definitely bled for a good 6 weeks, but it was probably because I was at stroller strides at 3 weeks and just never rested.
It's just not doable without massive help and $$$. |
Anonymous
| Calm down. Your boss hasn't even said yet that they're not going to approve you for unpaid leave. |
Anonymous
| My dd is 10, my wife took two months and still gets sad talking about how little leave she took. Take what you need, you don’t get a do over any you aren’t going to regret have more time with your baby |
Anonymous
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with dummies like this, you just need to not listen. there’s no use trying to prove to him that you’ll need more than a few days, and that you don’t put a brand-new newborn in daycare.
so just tell him, don’t ask. “if I get terminated for taking the 12 weeks I need, here’s our budget including unemployment.” |
Anonymous
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Who is going to care for baby! I thought most places do not even take until 3 mos.
You will be exhausted, your breast will be engorged, you will cry at drop of hat. I cannot even imagine only a week of leave ( especially with first!) However, I had two c-sections so a different scenario. I hope you can somehow get 12 weeks as that is best case, but if not, I hope for at least two! |
Anonymous
who would take care of the new born? 12 weeks is very young for daycare. Nobody sends a 1 week old baby to daycare. |
Anonymous
The youngest I've ever even heard of a daycare taking a baby is 6 weeks. |
Anonymous
This will be a problem. Daycares won’t take babies before six weeks. |
Anonymous
I'm guessing it was a home daycare. |
Anonymous
So if you were planning to use daycare, just tell your DH that the daycares you called have a 6 week minimum age. Done! Then, make your budget for what you will do if you lose your job. Depending on how long you worked, you might not qualify for unemployment, so look into that. |
Anonymous
That took a 6 week old? Actually it was my in-house daycare at my old law firm. |
Anonymous
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How much leave are you asking for?
I would have the discussion with your boss first and then decide what to do. I think the suggestion to bottle feed right away is a good. The thing that will take most of your energy and most of your sleep is feeding the newborn. I was breastfeeding and took 3 months off, but I really needed 4 months. I was so sleep deprived when I went back that the second week of work I bent over to pick something up in the bathroom and broke my two front teeth on the counter. |
Anonymous
Thanks for answering my question! |
Anonymous
| This makes no sense. At minimum you will qualify for 6 weeks short term disability. |