Is my step-DC entitled?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP--she is 17 turning 18. Father does not say anything....

What does this mean?

Stop being cryptic.

Does he want you to buy his daughter a present? What did you do last year?

OP--gave her a $50.00 gift card last year to the clothing store she likes/shops at and a nice card. Last year my husband spent over $600 bucks on her Birthday gifts and a party. I ended up buying all the Birthday gifts for my kids on my own.

What does this mean? Is your DH not the dad to your kids? Is money you spent on presents for your kids, not from the mutual account, just your own. You do not share finances? You have a dh problem, not a stepdd problem.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How is 17 year old supposed to buy you and her half or step siblings presents? Usuallyparents buy present for kids. If kids do buy something for a parent it is usually something small. If she has no money, how is she to do this?
She is expecting a present from her parent who is your spouse. As she should, not from you really. She does not sound entitled. She could be wanting a Range Rover. Plus, pony up? She is your family, do you dread ponying up for your won kids presents? How many presents do you receive from your own children?

She is working five days a week since she was 16; we do not expect her to pay for anything at the house. All her expenses are covered.

So she LIVES with you? How nasty you are in that case!

[Anonymous]

It's not much to ask. God you are selfish.

[Anonymous]

As a soon to be divorced Mother, OP is the reason I dread the day my soon to be exH remarries. What an awful person you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP--she is 17 turning 18. Father does not say anything....

What does this mean?

Stop being cryptic.

Does he want you to buy his daughter a present? What did you do last year?

OP--gave her a $50.00 gift card last year to the clothing store she likes/shops at and a nice card. Last year my husband spent over $600 bucks on her Birthday gifts and a party. I ended up buying all the Birthday gifts for my kids on my own.

What does this mean? Is your DH not the dad to your kids? Is money you spent on presents for your kids, not from the mutual account, just your own. You do not share finances? You have a dh problem, not a stepdd problem.

I keep my finances separate from my DH, we have agreed upon expenses each covers from their own paycheck (e.g. I cover family health insurance plans/daycare, he pays mortgage). DH is bio dad to all of our children.

[Anonymous]

What grown person gets upset that her teen stepdd didn't buy her a birthday present?
Why do you hate her op?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP--she is 17 turning 18. Father does not say anything....

What does this mean?

Stop being cryptic.

Does he want you to buy his daughter a present? What did you do last year?

OP--gave her a $50.00 gift card last year to the clothing store she likes/shops at and a nice card. Last year my husband spent over $600 bucks on her Birthday gifts and a party. I ended up buying all the Birthday gifts for my kids on my own.

What does this mean? Is your DH not the dad to your kids? Is money you spent on presents for your kids, not from the mutual account, just your own. You do not share finances? You have a dh problem, not a stepdd problem.

This. If she is entitled, he raised her to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How is 17 year old supposed to buy you and her half or step siblings presents? Usuallyparents buy present for kids. If kids do buy something for a parent it is usually something small. If she has no money, how is she to do this?
She is expecting a present from her parent who is your spouse. As she should, not from you really. She does not sound entitled. She could be wanting a Range Rover. Plus, pony up? She is your family, do you dread ponying up for your won kids presents? How many presents do you receive from your own children?

She is working five days a week since she was 16; we do not expect her to pay for anything at the house. All her expenses are covered.

She's 17. Of course she shouldn't pay for anything at the house. She is a dependent child. You are legally and morally obligated to cover her expenses.

Every family operates differently with gift giving, but my siblings and I have never exchanged birthday gifts. Nor do we give our parents birthday gifts, although now that we're all grown we'll usually plan a dinner out or at one of our houses for a parent's birthday. We do give them Christmas gifts. All of which is to say, I don't know why your stepdaughter's gift giving to you or her siblings has any bearing on you giving to her. She is a child. You are an adult.

By all means, don't give her a spa day for 3 (especially now, as there is a pandemic going on). But a $35-$50 gift would be entirely appropriate.

[Anonymous]

She is turning 18 which is a huge milestone birthday. She is responsible enough to work 5 days a week since 16?

Why wouldn't you spend money on a spa day for her and her friends for her birthday? You don't realize how lucky you are to have a responsible step daughter. Who cares that she doesn't give you a present or her siblings? Don't be so petty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is turning 18 which is a huge milestone birthday. She is responsible enough to work 5 days a week since 16?

Why wouldn't you spend money on a spa day for her and her friends for her birthday? You don't realize how lucky you are to have a responsible step daughter. Who cares that she doesn't give you a present or her siblings? Don't be so petty.

OP--I am going to give $100 in cash, so they can go to lunch somewhere.

[Anonymous]

"Entitled" is turning into a word I really hate. People toss it out all the time to use as an insult and they don't really know what the word means. The same thing happened with "ignorant". I once heard someone say "they acted ignorantly towards me." No...that's not how you use that word. If someone upsets you say why. Stop using words you don't understand to explain behavior you dislike.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP--she is 17 turning 18. Father does not say anything....

What does this mean?

Stop being cryptic.

Does he want you to buy his daughter a present? What did you do last year?

OP--gave her a $50.00 gift card last year to the clothing store she likes/shops at and a nice card. Last year my husband spent over $600 bucks on her Birthday gifts and a party. I ended up buying all the Birthday gifts for my kids on my own.

that's messed up and why there are threads about blended families. Presents should come from the parents as a unit to the kids and should be roughly equivalent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is turning 18 which is a huge milestone birthday. She is responsible enough to work 5 days a week since 16?

Why wouldn't you spend money on a spa day for her and her friends for her birthday? You don't realize how lucky you are to have a responsible step daughter. Who cares that she doesn't give you a present or her siblings? Don't be so petty.

exactly. and it’s sweet that she wants to celebrate by treating her friends. she sounds like a good kid. no kids are perfect.

[Anonymous]

Asking for a gift is not entitled. Giving a gift and then holding it against the recipient is pretty shitty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP--she is 17 turning 18. Father does not say anything....

What does this mean?

Stop being cryptic.

Does he want you to buy his daughter a present? What did you do last year?

OP--gave her a $50.00 gift card last year to the clothing store she likes/shops at and a nice card. Last year my husband spent over $600 bucks on her Birthday gifts and a party. I ended up buying all the Birthday gifts for my kids on my own.

that's messed up and why there are threads about blended families. Presents should come from the parents as a unit to the kids and should be roughly equivalent

Every teenager's dream, a nice card. Next time give her $53.99 and skip the card, she'll appreciate it more.