Complete isolation of small children is abusive

[Anonymous]

Histrionic, yes. But I sent my 3 year old back to preschool. No regrets. She needed the socialization. Wish I could do the same for my 10 year old. He’s currently doing math on zoom with a partner. Proud of him today but it’s not the same.

[Anonymous]

I dont think it qualifies as abuse. That's going way overboard.

I do think that there is a mental impact to it, for both the children and, in some cases, their parents. My older DD was 4 when this all started. We shifted to FT WFH, her daycare closed, and we pulled her from other activities. She quite literally did not see anyone other than DH and myself for 2 months. I was pregnant at the time, so we were being extremely cautious.
DD1 is very extroverted and thrives off of social interaction. The isolation took a huge toll on her, and we started having behavior issues the likes of which we had never encountered. Her daycare reopened shortly after DD2 was born, and we elected to re-enroll her, despite the fact that we are both still WFH. We did this with the full support and encouragement of our pediatrician. Best decision we could have made for her. We see grandparents now, but no one else, so the interactions at daycare are her only social outlet.

[Anonymous]

Who is in complete isolation? Not one person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know, I think there is a point to be made about the consequences of isolation and how they impact people.

But like for most of human history people did not widely socialize like we did. Mothers stayed home with small kids for many many centuries.

It is great what the modern world has provided us but being him with your kids for a few months is not child abuse.

I am actually much more worried about parental mental health for parents of kids that young and think the isolation angle on kids is more of an issue with kids who are school aged.

This is a unique historical event that is effecting people of all ages, like the spanish flu, the world wars, the great depression, the vietnam war and other events that have preceded it. It is temporary and this is still basically the best time in human history to be alive. I really think human beings need to practice more gratitude.

Before world war two, mothers were not home alone with their kids!

On farms, the whole family worked on the farm. Older sisters or grandmothers looked after babies and toddlers.

Poor women have always worked outside the home - doing domestic work or in factories.

Minority women have always worked.

You don’t know much about farming and ranching. I grew up on a ranch and was quite isolated. My grandparents and cousins did not work on the ranch. I did not make it to church every Sunday. It was a 45 minute drive, and something my parents didn’t always want to make. Especially in the winter. Or when there were a lot of cows giving birth.
It’s not abuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Under normal circumstances, yes. But this is a national crisis. At least they will live long enough (or better have parents who live long enough) to pay for therapy for their childhood issues.

Oh, so the answer is to just throw them into therapy? You’re awful.

My kid has been in preschool this entire time. No cases whatsoever at her center because they have good precautions. Meanwhile, she’s getting the socialization and learning that she needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who is in complete isolation? Not one person.

We are with my two DDs. We haven't been anywhere since march.

[Anonymous]

Giving your kids corona virus and not teaching them why staying home for the greater good is poor parenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who is in complete isolation? Not one person.

We aren’t seeing any friends or family. We tried a few times and they all lied about seeing others and it’s too risky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Under normal circumstances, yes. But this is a national crisis. At least they will live long enough (or better have parents who live long enough) to pay for therapy for their childhood issues.

Oh, so the answer is to just throw them into therapy? You’re awful.

My kid has been in preschool this entire time. No cases whatsoever at her center because they have good precautions. Meanwhile, she’s getting the socialization and learning that she needs.

Are they testing a few times a week? If not, you cannot say no cases.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Under normal circumstances, yes. But this is a national crisis. At least they will live long enough (or better have parents who live long enough) to pay for therapy for their childhood issues.

Oh, so the answer is to just throw them into therapy? You’re awful.

My kid has been in preschool this entire time. No cases whatsoever at her center because they have good precautions. Meanwhile, she’s getting the socialization and learning that she needs.

Are they testing a few times a week? If not, you cannot say no cases.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who is in complete isolation? Not one person.

We are with my two DDs. We haven't been anywhere since march.

That’s psychotic. You’re doing long-term damage to your kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Giving your kids corona virus and not teaching them why staying home for the greater good is poor parenting.

Do you really lack the ability see any middle ground whatsoever? I feel bad for your kids.

[Anonymous]

You could try to be more ridiculous, but it'd sure be a stretch to succeed.

[Anonymous]

Maybe ask your grandparents about life during the polio epidemic.

Most children are not living in complete isolation. They are in contact with parents and caregivers. They have siblings. Many belong to a bubble, even if it is a small one.

Troubling? Yes. Abuse? No.

[Anonymous]

I’m really glad my child is 8 - old enough to get significant social benefit from online school and a few socially distanced playdates a week. I can only imagine how hard it is for the littler ones who need more constant interaction. I would have had to hire FT childcare which would have been financially very tough.